When I was 16 years old I had a dream where I was 10 years older at a highschool re-union. Someone asked me what the name of my baby was and I said Haefen... so I took that as a message to name my baby that one day. I ended up not using the f like in my dream because the book (later metioned) said that it imparted a bad childhood...
When I got pregnant at 20 I wasn't prepared for having the baby. I didn't even think I would keep it, but I did and I'm pretty happy now. But the name thing for me was hard too. And still is. I rarely call her haeven and when I do it feels forced and awkward. I feel like my family feels weird calling her that too. She's 9 months old now. Afew months ago I seriously considered re-naming her Arianna, Rianna, Rhiannon or something like that cause I asked her to tell me in a dream (after she was born) and those were the sounds that I saw (KWIM?).
Also, when I was pregnant with her a friend gave me a book called Child Light, Parenting in the new age. In this book there is a section devoted to the breakdown of word sounds and what they impart to the person called that. For example, the H sound in Haeven makes a person more withdrawn and reserved, less likely to express their emotions... So with my baby being already quite reserved with her emotions (she rarely cried), I never called her that for the first few months.
It's good to know that I'm not alone in this. It's so hard to name a child. It's their tag, their marker, everyone will know who they are by it. I actually came to this "Life With A Babe" forum, cause I wanted to start a thread on not feeling comfortable with your babies name!
I usually call her Haeven-Soleil, her full name or just Anjel, cause that is what she is!
I know a child named Rise, who really is a rise, a baby named 0shee, named by his hippy parents .... what can I say? In the native american culture, children sometimes weren't named till they did something that awarded a name... big boy who helps with fire.... write back to tell me what yall think.
Jasanna and the little boobie moster