My first baby, though needy, was always comforted by nursing or just being held, so this whole crying thing is new for me and I am losing heart. I have tried the sling (walking my enighborhood at midnight w/ a screaming infant is bound to make me a very unpopular neighbor?!?!?!?) and it doesn't really do the trick -- sometimes even upsets her more. She wants to nurse but I don't have an endless milk supply and she seems to get frustrated by that. The binky, which occasionally works during the day, upsets her even more.
I am so sad for her -- she is PERFECT all day long until this meltdown period.
This sounds like my DD when she was 4 weeks old up until she was 3 months old. It was very unexplainable. We walked with DD, held her, sometimes if we needed a break she'd go in the swing. Also try white noises. DD loved the sound of the shower and would stop crying for a little bit.
It's only temporary.
There is always a reason for a baby crying, but unfortunately we aren't always able to determine what it is.
If you are drinking or eating ANY dairy, quit!!! That can make a new baby (really up to 4 months or so) VERY uncomfortable.
Let her nurse whenever she wants and for however long. This will increase your milk supply. Also, the binki at her young age can actually interfere with establishing nursing.
Buy a yoga ball (a great big ball) ASAP!!! I've never heard of one baby who didn't love being bounced lightly on the ball. You just sit on the ball and hold your baby---while nursing or just holding---and then bounce lightly up and down. It works wonders!! You'll get tired of bouncing, but it's much better than the alternative.
I bought my at Walmart, but they're also at sporting goods stores. WELL WORTH the time and money (mine was only $15).
If you're washing her clothes or bed sheets in your laundry detergent then stop. You can use vinager or a very mild baby soap. The regular ones can make a baby itch all over.
Hang in there and seek support!!! It does pass, but I know it can be VERY hard for you and your sweet baby while it's going on.
have you tried
white noise -- vacuum, dryer, fan? -- my dd LOVED the vacuum noise from about 2 days till about 4 months.
swaddling her up? especially keeping her little hands and head all wrapped up. some babies really like having their hands held close to their bodies. it keeps the "startle reflex" from waking them up
motion of any kind....mom on the yoga ball, mom walking (sounds like you tried this), swing, stroller, sling
some babies REALLY like motion when they are on their sides. Hold her on her side and bounce.
and maybe try several at the same time (and be persistent with trying)....meaning try
swaddling, bouncing and saying SHHHHH in her ear.
I agree with the above poster about nursing, nursing and more nursing. At this point the fact that she doesn't seem to like the binky CAN be a MAJOR positive toward developing a good milk supply...more sucking on you means more milk production. something that will help in the long run.
and maybe my final suggestion, is to find someone you can call in the middle of the night....your mom, your best friend, whoever. It can help (you) to have someone else to help you make it through the dark hours of the night.
Side-lying (turning baby sideways)
SHHHHing (white noise)
Sucking (on a breast or a thumb)
And it really does work!
I agree with the above posters esp. about breastfeeding. Your baby needs to nurse, even if you don't think she's getting anything, for comfort and to build up your supply!
Hang in there, it really does pass.
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My ds had a period of crying inconsolably that lasted about a month (he was older than yours, about 3-4 months old) and it really wore me down. I felt so helpless and I wanted to help my little guy feel better and tried everything I could think of to no avail. He eventually stopped but I can remember how it made me feel. Try to get yourself some mental health time every once in awhile... even if it is just a walk around the block by yourself for 10 minutes. It helps. I always knew it was "temporary" but it felt like forever while it was going on.
ITA get dairy right out! There are lots of other food irritants, ie broccoli, anything acidic.
Read the colic chapter in the Baby Book. Good ideas, there. There is a great article on this website on colic, too, under crying.
Homeopathic colic remedies can help.
Honestly, for us our solution to the inconsolable crying, was
1 eliminate irritants from my diet--This was the only long-term solution that addressed the root cause of the crying.
2 walking/bath if weather didn't permit
3 natural colic remedy
4 I LOVE U tummy rub (see the colic chapter in the baby book--if you don't have it I will gladly describe.)
5 Last resort, and we pretty much had to resort to it every night for a few weeks, was mylicon drops. Helped sooo much.
Ball helped too, and lots of nursing. I cried a lot as well.
One mom I knew said the only thing that helped her ds was chiropractic.
Hope something helps! hang in there~
For us, just walking/bouncing with him over one shoulder worked well. He also would stop crying in the swing or the bouncy seat, so he spent some time there too. I honestly think that even holding him was contributing to the end-of-day overstimulation, and he appreciated having some space of his own!
My babe wouldn't comfort nurse at all, so we used a pacifier and it did help at times. If he wasn't hungry and just wanted to suck, he would get mad when milk would come out. So for us the pacifier was a life-saver. Not every family will be the same, just offering my experience.
and remember that it will pass!
I might be getting lucky -- we had a great night last night, thanks to all your support and advice.
I made some changes in our bedtime style, and I went to bed at 8 p.m. so that I was with her when and if the episode began, but I took her first for a long sling walk and then laid her in our bed in the quiet darkness, swaddled and on her side.
She slept almost all night -- I woke her twice to nurse. I have also started waking her during the day to nurse to build up my supply, and we ditched the binky.
We'll see how this all plays out, but it seems like her crying was telling me that she wasn't groovy with her routine. Tonight will be a new experience from the last, I am sure. This baby keeps me guessing.
It's funny how we expect our old tricks to work on a new puppy.
thanks a million to all who responded -- your words were like big hugs.