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Here's a quick background - my son is 15 months old and was born extremely premature at less than 26 weeks'. He spent 8 months in the hospital and came home last August (actually July 31). Anyway, he is still on continuous O2 and has a feeding tube and has some health problems, so we were quarantined when we came home. He's had virtually no contact with any other children.
Today my neighbor brought her 10-month-old over to play. The baby was healthy so I couldn't see any reason not to. Winter is nearly over.
Anyway, my son hated it! He wailed the entire time. He hated any noise she made, and if the baby touched him he had an absolute cow. If he could have crawled into my skin, he would have. Any doubt I had about bonding with him was thrown out of the window lol!
Anyway, what do I do? My neighbor is going to come over again tomorrow to see if maybe he just needs to get used to it. I didn't leave the room at all today. (DH suggested it. It never occured to me.) This is my first and only child so I'm not sure what to do.
he's still so young and it's just a new experience for him. maybe you should consider not try it again as soon as tomorrow. if it was that hard on him he may think "is this going to be EVERY DAY???". maybe you should give him a week or so and have a casual visit to the park with your friend and her little one. he may have been tired, hungry, teething, or just feeling territorial.
Alison: BFing, BWing, ERFing mama to KidA (12/25/07) and KidO (6/26/10)
Mama to Amelia - age 6
My niece has a similar background to your son. She was born at 28wks weighing 1lb 8oz (severe IUGR.) She spent 17 months in the hospital and finally came home this past January. The only difference is she has two older brothers (ages 16 and 14) who would bring their friends to the hospital to visit so she's kind of used to a lot of other people.
But she's completely confused by my children (ages 3 and 13 months old.) She seems to know they are little people like her and will just stare and watch. But if my son touches her, she kind of freaks. She's on a vent still and doesn't make any noise herself so when my son squeels it takes her by surprise.
What my SIL and I have been doing is getting them together whenever possible in the hopes that K will get used to it. We comfort her a lot and I try to stop my son from squeeling, but he's 13 months old and doesn't get it, ya know? Right now my kids are coughing and have runny noses (I think from allergies) but we won't risk it to go see K. Hopefully this summer the three of them can start to bond!