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Hey mamas.

I got back from the dr and found I have either a kidney infection or kidney stones. She is culturing my urine to find out. I am not on any antibiotics as of yet b/c the one she wanted to give me is not ok for nursing moms and the Cipro is way expensive. So I am on water and cranberry juice...while at the same time trying to kill our slight case of thrush. Guess I will pick up some Keifer.

Well dh just took ds to grandma's for couple of hours so I can rest...I woke up with excruciating pain at 7am...and it is her day to watch him and she would be so sad to not see him. I called out from work.

Hopefully they get the culture back by tomorrow if not it will be Monday...ugh

send me some strong mama vibes.

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I'm sure there is some depression in there somewhere, but the fact that the bulk of it is situational and not something that can be bettered by a mother's little helper is really depressing (ha, ha).


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Oh, and I'm definitely going to have my mommy midlife crisis soon, so what color Manic Panic should I get for my hair? I'm going to use some foil so I can maintain the main white stripe in my bangs, but I need something to cover the rest of it.
I'm thinking of some hot hot pink and purple haze streaks, myself.

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She's been more volume and less frequent on the poop end of the spectrum. They're also starting to look less like cottage cheese sometimes, and sort of just straight up mustard pasty- anyone else get this? And is that ok?
My older three were big on the "stoneground mustard" look. It's all good.

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regarding "who will be the first to get pregnant again": Boy, I know who I hope it won't be.

Is anyone else trying to decide if it's worth getting, well, spayed now, or wait until the baby is walking?

He's a joy, a really delightful little guy, now that the newborn experience is ending. I'm positive I don't want to go through that again. I'm finding it very difficult to love my body right now, and I don't think another pregnancy will do anything constructive.

But I can't seem to make myself take that final step. Or make my husband take it, actually, since that's our plan :P

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I'll admit, I'm feeling both fertile and broody these days.
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I was just wondering who would be the first to get pg out of this ddc :
I know that the words "not me!" would be just asking for it... but seriously, no, I'm not getting pregnant; I certainly won't be the first in this DDC to do so. Now that I think of it... I don't think I've been the first in any of my DDCs to get pregnant again.

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I'd be pretty blown away if I ended up with a + though... what are the chances of THAT?
Not trying... but not preventing either.
I can't say I'd be upset... just nervous after all we went though last pg.
Dh might be thrown for a loop tho.
I have a brother who is 10 months younger than I. And one of the things I was told after Bean was born was, "You wouldn't believe how many women find out they're pregnant at their 6 week postpartum check."

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I got back from the dr and found I have either a kidney infection or kidney stones. She is culturing my urine to find out. I am not on any antibiotics as of yet b/c the one she wanted to give me is not ok for nursing moms and the Cipro is way expensive. So I am on water and cranberry juice...while at the same time trying to kill our slight case of thrush. Guess I will pick up some Keifer.
I hate cipro. And ickiness... Kidney problems suck.

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NOS - s With your relationship with Terran...... For tile grout, ditch the toothbrush and just use a regular scrub brush and a paste of baking soda and lemon juice - works a treat.

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Jenn, you're a lifesaver, absolutely a lifesaver!!!!!! :

My landlord assumed I'd get my teenager to take care of it with Ajax (dd's "Mr. Right" suggested bleach, but as a homeowner, he was afraid of spills fdamaging the floor) so it was hardly worth any sort of written notice on his part.

The reality is that I'll be doing it myself with the babe in the sling and I really, really need a nontoxic alternative to try first.

Julie, I'm stunned at $300 a ticket! Even if they didn't charge for ds2 and I left ds1 to be a brat elsewhere, that would still be my entire stimulus check just for the three of us likeminded folks.

Oh well, the next closest thing to living it is reading your posts about it.

I am so going through a "mama midlife crisis", only it feels more like returning to who I was in the first place before I became so afraid of having Jeanita and Christopher taken from me.

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regarding "who will be the first to get pregnant again": Boy, I know who I hope it won't be.

Is anyone else trying to decide if it's worth getting, well, spayed now, or wait until the baby is walking?

He's a joy, a really delightful little guy, now that the newborn experience is ending. I'm positive I don't want to go through that again. I'm finding it very difficult to love my body right now, and I don't think another pregnancy will do anything constructive.

But I can't seem to make myself take that final step. Or make my husband take it, actually, since that's our plan :P
My birth experience with Bean was.. traumatic, to say the least; After he was born I swore that there were only two ways he'd have siblings. One, they could inseminate me with triplets, so that in one morepregnancy i'd be done, or two-- adoption. Aside from the body hatred issues, there was the whole PAIN problem, and depression, and . You get the idea. That said, Bean was about 6.5 months old when we decided to TTC the next one. I was at my absolute heaviest weight *ever* when BooBah was about four months old, and that sucked... but I was eager by then to just finish having the babies once and for all. I'd finally managed to take the long view of it... and here I am now, reclaiming myself far sooner than I'd anticipated, and greatful for Bear and all he's already managed to do for me. The littlest man makes me feel that I've done the right thing for myself, and that it's all good from here on out.

But yeah... your hormones are still seriously in flux at this point, even if you're less cognisant of it than you would generally expect. Opinions change, along with everything else.

I'm still not having another one.

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henry's eyes are a dark blue as of right now. I have blue eyes and dh has hazel eyes. My sister and Savannah have blue eyes but my mom, dad and brother have brown eyes...I hope his stay blue, they are so nice.

I have 3 tattoos...and would like to get another. actually I would like to get a new one over the one on my right arm. That one was doen very poorly and I do not like it. I would love to get a lotus flower with Savannah and Henry's names and dob on that arm.
Applecore I love yours...good choice.

as for who will get pg first...I also know who won't be. I have been preg. and given birth twice now. Not only am I not totally comfortable with my new body but I am not a happy preg. person. Maybe in five years...seems to be a good gap for me. But I also cannot bring myself to ask either of us to get the final snip.

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Ohhh having another. I have baby lust baaaadddd right now. I love my Trixie so much that I need to have another baby. I knew that parenthood was great, but this is beyond great!
My plan right now it to start TTC when she is 9 mos. In June I get to go for a pap and then talk to my OB about seeing the RE specialist again to get my wonky tube sorted out, then in Octoberish start with the injections again to hopefully be pregnant before the year is out. (not that I haven't put any thought into this at all! heh!)
I think I might be crazy, but I'm okay with that!

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Man, I could go for another baby, too! As much as I hate being pregnant, a part of me really misses it. And having Twyla when we thought we were done after two made me realize that I want 4 kids. The only problem with getting pregnant again is that you have to dtd for it to happen. I'm so not about it right now.
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Feeling much better this morning - he let me nap for a good hour and we then slept together for another hour.

Helen - I have a white stripe and a ton of salt and pepper. That's why I'm going with a semi-permanent dye like Manic Panic 'cause it will give my natural dark brown a haze but it'll turn all my grey into streaks. I've done it before with other semi-permanant dyes and it ends up looking like I've had professional high lights done. I'll have to see what the selection is at the beauty supply store, but I'm leaning towards electric purple myself. I did do the Koolaid dye a few years ago but I wasn't too impressed with the results. Maybe I should try the icing coloring...

Birthmommom - lots and lots of fluids and try to take it easy. Keeping my fingers crossed that it's not an infection.

NOS - you're very welcome!

I am done with having kids. My pregnancy with Alex was loads better than with Michael but it just takes too much of a toll on my body.

Oh and Michael's eyes lightened to a lovely shade of blue at 1year and the changed to a blue/green hazel around 18 months.
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More Trixie pictures.
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?ai...7&id=515513940

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NOS, somewhere around I've got a ferocious natural cleaner- a cup of bicarbonate of soda, juice of half a lemon and a couple of teaspoons of vinegar. I'd throw some lemongrass e.o., or lavender or tea tree, in there as well, seeing as we're talking funguses. It'll shift the mildew off the tiles and the skin off your hands in one easy swoop Being serious, though, I'd let Terran sit and watch from a comfortable distance. He's a nice big chunky baby and that's going to be seriously hard on your back with all the bending you're going to have to do.
Yeah, I have prior form for conceiving at or before 6 months p/p, but I don't think it's going to happen this time. I can't face another pregnancy without losing some weight, and I think I'm pretty much done now anyhow. We're not taking the surgical option until further down the line, though, because there is a grey area for us about number 5- a big "shall we, shan't we?" issue.
Birthmommom, add some zinc and vitamin C supplements to your diet, get some potassium citrate from the pharmacist if urinating stings (it'll alter the PH so it hurts less) and keep drinking and drinking and drinking. I'd give it 48 hours on a regime of maximum dosage (4g a day of vitamin C, I forget how much zinc) before taking the abx, myself.
Jenn, I getcha. I'm kind of cranky because my grey is growing in so slowly- DH promised me that when I went grey, he'd lose his objections to hair colouring. He remembers me from my peroxide period, and is very insistent that I shouldn't bleach my hair again- and it won't go any other colour than dark willingly.

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I never expected to be thinking about the next baby so soon after the first, esp. since I was sooooo glad to not be pregnant. We originally intended to wait 3 years befire trying again, and I'd get an IUD.

Now I can tell that I'll be ready for #2 sooner than that, probably 2 years, when Robin is weaned. I can't wait to meet our next, and probably last, baby. But I am loving mothering just Robin for now.

If I got pregnant right now, I'd be freaked. I really don't want that to happen!! I love nursing, and I love not being pregnant. I'm not sure if an IUD is worth the $$ for only 2 years but I don't want to do the pill or condoms. : After baby #2, DH will get snipped .

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Jenn, I getcha. I'm kind of cranky because my grey is growing in so slowly- DH promised me that when I went grey, he'd lose his objections to hair colouring. He remembers me from my peroxide period, and is very insistent that I shouldn't bleach my hair again- and it won't go any other colour than dark willingly.
If I waited until I started growing gray hairs to dye mine... I'd probably be about seventy. My mother was 59 in February and is still MUCH more pepper than salt; In fact, percentage-wise, Mike has as much gray hair as she does (more in his beard) and he's only 39. We just age really slowly in my family, and I seem to have gotten a double helping beacuse while my sisters and brother look young, they all seem to look older than I do.

In any case... I know lots and lots and lots of things about changing the colors of dark hair. I've been platinum blonde, and had blue and magenta (one of my faves!) and black and just about every shade in between (except green ). And look at this! High-lift, one step. Good times, good times.

I dyed my hair two days ago. It was supposd to be fire engine red, but i mixed the color myself and didn't bother testing it-- I used too much violet, so it's darker and you can actually see the violet tones. I haven't decided whether or not I want to 'fix' it, though, because I rather like the color... it's just not what I intended. I'm thinking I'll do some violet streaks later, probably Sunday night.

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My hair is back down below my bra straps again- I'm too chicken to bleach. Besides, in the UK Loreal is produced by Nestle, so is on my boycott list.
gah. I want to go back to being smug and boring, as opposed to the woman that EVERYONE in Starbucks turns and stares at. For someone who is obsessed with what people think, Isaac can be incredibly unconventional sometimes.

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operamom- I'm pretty selective in what I read here so I miss a lot of that thankfully!

NOS I'm glad things are looking up on the housing situation.

applecore, how was the birthday with the crush and DH? I'm a curious little lurker here! Also, I have my clitoral hood pierced too. For about 2 years I think. I liked it fine, it was more a conversation piece than a sexual thing if that even makes any sense..... I love your tat!! I have 2 but was young when I got them and wish I hadn't. I was only 16 and didnt' put much thought into it. all this talk has me fantasizing about how to cover/alter one in a thoughtful and lasting way.

I find the hair talk fun. I have never dyed my hair a "fun" color and haven't dyed it in 10 years at all so I'm living vicariously through all of you!

Helen, I have been feeling a bit hormonal myself. I wouldn't go so far as to say fertile but I definaltely feel like things are happening and I'm not happy about it.

salt pheonix, I love your cat!! Definately a jungle looking cat, beautiful! So funny to see another huge but but obese cat! Living on the road sounds really fun to me but I know I could never do it. Will you be online this summer as you try it out to keep us updated?

I would be really upset to get pregnant before James is a year. I would worry so much about him getting enough milk. Grace nursed thru his pregnancy (and still is) but I know I didn't have any milk for several months and she almost weaned and I would feel really bad if that happened too early. Grace was 18 months when we concieved James and I think we'll go for that spacing again as long as he is eating enough table food to balance decreased milk supply at that point.

oh and writerbird, i agree with rynna that I wouldnt' make any permanent fertility issues at this point. I'm not saying you will or should change your mind but it's a huge what if. I'd give it some time just to be sure.

smokeylo, I agree on the condom and pill and IUD. We are in teh same situation. I don't feel like it's worth getting an IUD for a year when I'll want it out for out next baby but i don't want to do the others either. I'm relying on lactation keeping fertility at bay and atching for signs. When I feel it may be near I'll start charting again, it's a pain but I'd rather do that and use condoms a couple days a month than all the time or risk a pregnancy before we're ready. I hope you find something that works out well for you.

I know I missed a lot but I don't get a whole lot of typing time and it's bed time now! I'll be reading as always!

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Oh, I'll be around... probably even more without a washer, dryer & house to keep!!!
As long as we have bars on the cellphone, we have data for the laptop.
We will be spending the summer in the local vicinity, well, within 50 mi. of dh's job, but still plenty of the great outdoors and solitude. Then we will decide what to do then. I'm hoping he can start to work from home so that we can travel more and farther away. I can't WAIT to go south for the winters! :

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operamommy post your birth story here! I would love to read it!
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The husband took the boys out this morning by himself for the first time and I was alone in the house for a full half-hour! I'm feeling less and less trapped, so I think things are finally starting to turn around. I'm going to go out *all by myself* tomorrow to see the Yarn Harlot speak at a book festival in town. This afternoon we are going to see the Kensington Kinetic Sculpture Derby with my girlfriend and her 1 year-old. I also my SBP Solarveil sling.

TTFN!
yay jen! i'm so glad things are looking up for you!

so my happy news is we got a new van! my car had 110,000 miles on it and we will be needing more room so we wanted to do it before my car was totally worthless as a trade-in. so its a 2003 dodge grand caravan i hope we can get several more years out of it!

also, james has yet to have a bottle. grace had nursing issues and had a bottle within her first week (always breastmilk, we had latch issues). so part of me feels like i don't ever want him to have one, kind of in a weird defensive way. the other part of me wants to be able to do things without him and leave some bm for him. i have taken a doula client due in nov so he'll be 9 months by then so i guess he can take a sippy of bm. i remember going to town for a couple hours on random sunday afternoons and leaving dd with dh and that was a really nice time even though i was just grocery shopping and what not. so anyway, after all that, is anyone else holding off or not doing a bottle at all? i guess i just can't decide what to do and feel like if i wait much longer i might miss the window, he's already 3 months! how early can he take a sippy? i know it's a different sort of suck but if it's like by 5 months i'll just avoid bottles and go to a sippy of bm for him. any input from anyone on this? help me sort out my feelings!

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Sippies are more difficult to suck from than bottles; They're also morelikely to affect a kid's latch than a bottle designed for transitioning back and forth between nipples. Most three month olds would have a hell of a time with a sippy cup at all. That said, if you're really intent on avoiding bottles, you might ask your husband to hold a regular cup for him. BeanBean drank expressed breastmilk from a small plastic cup at that age. It just needs to have a thin lip, and a grownup.

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OOh! Oooh! Me me me! Can I be the first one in our DDC to get pregnant? I miss the taste of RRL and then little flutters in my belly and the feeling of having an imaginary friend that's actually real and even the nausea and clumsiness.

But I DON'T miss donor drama and don't think I ever want to go through it again. Terran's donor is in very high demand (he's one of the few AA known donors out there plus he's doing it for all the right reasons) so a lot depends on his schedule and willingness. Also, this babe LOVES to eat and my milk does dry up during pregnancy. Tandeming was wonderful and horrible in that "I'm glad I did it once but I never want to do it again" kind of way and I also have a lot of isues about weaning ds1 because of "what people would think" about a single mama with a son who coslept and nursed past the societal norm.

That's not even getting into the financial end of it or the fact that I will, in all likelhood, be over 45 by the time I'm even remotely fertile again.

There are also appealing aspects of a few years of "you and me against the world": I could live in a tiny apartment in Arcata or maybe travel or at any rate get away with a lot more unconventional living than I ever did with two kids. I'd have a lot more energy left for the older kids, activism, and community building.

I'm trying not to be too attached to any one possible outcome, because all three possibilitites (don't try, try and succeed, try for a reasonable period of time and accept whatever the universe has in store) seem to have the potential for a happy and exciting next 20 or 30 years.

I'm still waiting on the grey for manic panic too, and it's taking forfreakingever! I dyed beautifully in my teens and 20s--it felt more like "fixing" the problem of my victorian angel blonde curls maturing into ordinary old brown caucasian adult hair and my friends all thought natural was dyed and dyed was natural--but my hair has become rather fragile and doesn't grow very far past my bra strap, so I'm afraid to bleach, although I'd love to have a couple of "bride of Frankenstein" streaks to colour up if the beautician could make them fake white instead of fake blonde.

I want to read Peter's birth story. I promise to say something nicer than "I'm glad you got the birth you wanted", which is the nicest thing the mainstream people could muster up about Terran's birth story even though it most definitely was NOT the solo water birth I'd wanted and I needed a bit of petting about the fact that I'll probably NEVER have that birth now, after wanting it and not getting it four times in a row.

Allyn, I don't know your whole story but I do know that your love for your birthdaughter shines through every time you talk of her and that it takes a lot of courage not to go the "let's just pretend this never happened" route. What a gift you are giving Savannah, Henry, and yourself by being honest and making such an effort to stay part of Savannah's life. You are one brave lady.

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NOS, somewhere around I've got a ferocious natural cleaner- a cup of bicarbonate of soda, juice of half a lemon and a couple of teaspoons of vinegar. I'd throw some lemongrass e.o., or lavender or tea tree, in there as well, seeing as we're talking funguses. It'll shift the mildew off the tiles and the skin off your hands in one easy swoop
Oh. My. Farting. Dog. That stuff ROCKS!!!!!

I live in Humboldt County, land of the redwoods and primeval ferns and mildew so bad I couldn't even have begun to describe it to myself when I was a Philly girl and I was completely serious about how little time I've had for housecleaning since I've beebn in this house, but I do think I got this grout clean in one pass during the course of one day. It's pretty and sparkly and white now, anyway.

I used Tea Tree Oil because that's what we had and my savings are going a bit fast for comfort this month--although when I mentally add my stimulus check I think I can afford another month's health insurance payment for me before I have to cancel dd's and my policies. ds1's we keep even if it means daycare for Terran.

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Being serious, though, I'd let Terran sit and watch from a comfortable distance. He's a nice big chunky baby and that's going to be seriously hard on your back with all the bending you're going to have to do.
Well, not exactly, but we had a HUGE breakthrough with the Ergo, figured out how to nurse him in it, and he actually fell asleep in it for the first time and since I'm used to a great big boy in the cradle hold in a pouch, he felt light as a feather.

It was such a bittersweet moment for me. The Ergo is just too corporate and not cuddly enough for my tastes, even though it's very popular here for toddlers and realistically I AM 43 years old, have pre-existing back problems, and wore my other babies regularly until they were way past 35 lbs, so I am going to have to make some compromises. Terran has already made it clear that which carrier I use is going to be HIS choice, not mine. I just hate to think of him as a BIG baby already and I just love the image of the carefree mama going about her business and replying to the strangers who rave about her sling and ask, "Where DID you get it?" with "I made it. Want one? I'll make you one for a small fraction of what the corporations charge."

Even after seeing those gorgeous, luxurious silk ring slings that go for $260 apiece, I still can't bring myself to raise my own prices past $20 which leaves me making less than minimum wage and taking a bit of a break atm.

I still want five yards of fair trade Guatemalan fabric for a wrap!

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i agree nos. i've decided to charge $25 for one fabric slings and $30 for reversables. It means I can make a little money on them and still provide a quality hand/homemade product to others. It is important to me to keep prices low because i'm a sahm and understand money issues so i want people to actually be able to buy them. i totally get where you are coming from but don't sell yourself short! also the cost of living here in iowa is lower than cali so you should be charging 30 atleast i'd say.

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I love the grout "recipe" for NOS, can I use it for general bathroom cleaning?

I have a little question about breastfeeding, or trying to get it all going. I had some sharpish shooting pains when I was pumping today. Do you think it's a new tract being formed?
I don't know where to ask this. Normally when I pump I don't feel anything, but the last couple times there's been this pain. It's not horrible though. I don't want to ask in the breast feeding forum because I don't want to explain everything again.

oh baby's fussing.

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hey everyone!! i'm so glad our thread is going strong! anyone else feeling nauseous while bf-ing? please tell me yes.....
totally! in fact, i posted about it in breastfeeding challenges. it happens every.single.time. i keep trying to drink tons of water and i'm really really hoping i'm not preggers. we've been mostly careful, except for the few times we weren't but i'm still thinking i'm not (fingers crossed!).

i was so sick with linnaea that i think it might be something hormonal for me. like nursing releases some hormone that makes me feel sick.

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Mamas!
I love the grout "recipe" for NOS, can I use it for general bathroom cleaning?

I have a little question about breastfeeding, or trying to get it all going. I had some sharpish shooting pains when I was pumping today. Do you think it's a new tract being formed?
I don't know where to ask this. Normally when I pump I don't feel anything, but the last couple times there's been this pain. It's not horrible though. I don't want to ask in the breast feeding forum because I don't want to explain everything again.

oh baby's fussing.
One of my first symptoms of thrush is shooting pains in the boob. Eventually, the pains come even if you're not nursing or pumping... but by then I'm just drowning in fungus.

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Julie, I'm stunned at $300 a ticket! Even if they didn't charge for ds2 and I left ds1 to be a brat elsewhere, that would still be my entire stimulus check just for the three of us likeminded folks.


I am so going through a "mama midlife crisis", only it feels more like returning to who I was in the first place before I became so afraid of having Jeanita and Christopher taken from me.
they do have scholarship tickets but i think you have to apply in january. my mate usually works for them so he gets his ticket free and because we live in gerlach we get the local price which is like $25.

it's funny but i felt like i was returning to who i was before when i had lazlo. i went through a phase of pretty serious partying and irresponsibility before i got pregnant. as soon as i knew i was pregnant i stopped all that and i had to learn how to function without all of my chemical crutches. it was not easy but i didn't feel like i had a choice since i was pregnant. but gradually, the world cleared up again and i felt like i did when i was 18 before i started partying.

it's kind of nice to return to who you were before something (fear/chemicals) took over your life and changed you. i'm happy for you nos. it felt so good for me i imagine it feels good for you too!

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I got back from the dr and found I have either a kidney infection or kidney stones.
dude. those suck. i feel for you mama!

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Hey everyone!! I'll try to catch up on 11 pages when I'm NAK, but I just wanted to jump in and say hello. I can't believe our babies are 3 months old already. Soon there will be a Feb. 09 ddc up. :

Anyway just wanted to pop in and say hello. We've been away a lot and I havenm't been able to catch up, but Iwill try to be a better member

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Dea, you could be feeling a let down. Many women experience it as kind of a shooting pain, but not anything too terrible. Some never feel it at all.
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Rach, I know! I'm watching the days in may pass, the milestones go slipping slowly past- I got my first faint positive pregnancy test 51 weeks ago today. Eurovision baby's growing up fast

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