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#121 of 500 Old 06-08-2008, 11:03 PM
 
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Thanks for the advice, Rynna I didn't think he was overtired, because he doesn't SEEM tired earlier than when I've been putting him down. It hasn't exactly worked yet, but he's... less upset when he wakes up and calms faster, so I'll claim it as a partial victory.

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It was slimy sweaty hot today, so I did not garden. Instead I managed to finish EG's Birth Day scrapbook. This is the result of a deal I made with my mate - I was burning out fast, and now Sunday is "my" day. He does all the baby care, except for the feeding, obviously. So I'm finally getting to scrap again and I feel a billion times more like myself. I don't know how we'd swing this with more than one kidling, but I think I'd get a signed commitment for such a deal before having the second

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Ooooh a day like that sounds great, I'll have to work on that

Okay someone said something about morning sickness flashbacks. Can you tell me what you were talking about? I've been awful nauseous lately and am, um, keeping my fingers crossed.

Also... has anyone else got a ghost baby in their tummy? I've kinda felt some things off and on, but lately it's been crazy. It has me counting the days over and over since the one time we've gotten to dtd so far, and telling myself repeatedly that it isn't nearly long enough to feel movement even IF! I've also been really tired, achy, head-achey and generally feeling like crap, but maybe I've just caught something that's showing up mildly. By now I'm wondering if all the worrying about it isn't making me nauseous. My milk supply hasn't dropped, I don't think, still too much. Does it usually drop right away? bah! I'm all worked up, probably over a cold or something

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newmommy27, sorry about the bladder infect.. I hope that she is feeling better!

applecore, sorry about your sis. I hope that things get better soon!

Dh made a video of Ashlee swimming yesterday at our baby swimming class. I thought that I would share it with you all. ps. Ashlee is NOT the baby screaming! She actually loved it

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Oh Applecore to you and your sister.
Jenn's not dead, btw Just gone quiet...
Juise, my ghost baby keeps crowning. A truly weird sensation : I was, however, talking to the 30-week pregnant mother of an 11mo this morning, so when in doubt, go take a test Then come back here and post a picture...
Writerbird, you jammy git. I am SO jealous...

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/ducks the wrath of Helen



Don't be jealous, I expect my mate will renegotiate the terms once EG is mobile and these lovely Sundays will end!

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Juise, ghost babies are pretty common. My ob/gyn commented that every once in a while she'll feel a ghost kick too!

smokeylo, I'm so sorry about your uncle. Many healing vibes to you and your family. *hugs*

newmommy, so glad you followed your instincts and took the babe in! My dd was hospitalized for several days with a kidney infection that began with a bladder infection; those things get nasty fast!

Busy busy here. We had a "staycation" last week. Dh had the week off, and instead of going away we did fun things locally. Went to a zoo and aquarium, a water park by the river, a national forest, an indoor playground...whew...I'm tired! Lots of fun, though.

Writerbird, I need to get out in my garden, but it's soooo hot. 95 degrees yesterday. I ran out just for a few to pull up the rest of the radishes. Soon I'll be picking our peas!

Peter is doing wonderfully. He's been grabbing at nearby blankets, etc. and chewing them. He also laughs out loud hysterically at ds1; it's absolutely adorable.

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james in the mei tei

look what i made this morning! (the "babylegs" not diaper cover)

some brother/sister time he really does like her, it just doesn't look like it here!

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greetings all - one handed typing as per usual. things are going and slowly getting better but almost all of my energy is going to keeping my head above water. it's hotter than hell here, so I'm off to the air conditioned part of the house and hopefully a family nap.
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Whoa. River just went to sleep without being swaddled. It's sweltering here- 27 degrees indoors, which is a bit of a shock after the flooding of last week.
Crap- he's up. Gotta go

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Thanks for the advice, Rynna I didn't think he was overtired, because he doesn't SEEM tired earlier than when I've been putting him down. It hasn't exactly worked yet, but he's... less upset when he wakes up and calms faster, so I'll claim it as a partial victory.
When babies seem tired, they're already past the point of no return. You want to get them just *before* that point, when they're relaxed and mellow. With Bean, it was simple-- a particular CD, and then I'd wipe his face with a washcloth, change his diaper and change him into pajamas. At that point, the boob would put him to sleep. In fact, by four months he would occasionally pass out just because he had the jammies on; The association was that strong for him. (I'm nothing like that organized now ).

Sleep training books and many AP sources alike will tell you to "avoid sleep associations for your baby." You don't want the kid to think that the only way to fall asleep is in a bouncy seat on top of the washing machine, or in the car, or with the vacuum running, etc. All well and good, but I think they ought to rephrase. Your child is *going* to have sleep associations; Your job is to make sure that they're things you can live with. For Bean it was pajamas; for BooBah it was darkness. Bear, being the fourth child, can fall asleep anytime, anywhere, under any circumstances (an absolute necessity around here if you want to be asleep before 9:00 )... unless it's perfectly silent. Bella often has a hard time sleeping if Mike isn't snoring nearby (in fact all of the children will wake if Mike is not snoring... isn't that *awful?* ). Definate associations... and all things I can deal with.

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Also... has anyone else got a ghost baby in their tummy? I've kinda felt some things off and on, but lately it's been crazy. It has me counting the days over and over since the one time we've gotten to dtd so far, and telling myself repeatedly that it isn't nearly long enough to feel movement even IF! I've also been really tired, achy, head-achey and generally feeling like crap, but maybe I've just caught something that's showing up mildly. By now I'm wondering if all the worrying about it isn't making me nauseous. My milk supply hasn't dropped, I don't think, still too much. Does it usually drop right away? bah! I'm all worked up, probably over a cold or something
The first period after each baby, I've wondered about pregnancy. And you know... if I don't get my period in another two weeks, I'll POAS. I'm pretty sure I will, though. As to milk supply, it takes several weeks to drop in most cases; For me, it's usually somewhere around 16-20 weeks.

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Sarah, LOVE the pics!

Rynna, great point about the sleep asssociations...it is so much more helpful to think about things this way!

Have had a few ghost pregnancy sensations. Also had AF visit 2 weeks ago. Strangely, also bled a little bit today. Way too much to be break-through bleeding for a pregnancy (plus, I'm nearly positive that I couldn't be positive and HOPE that i am NOT!), but too soon for another AF, so I don't know what is going on. Anyone else have somthing like this? It didn't happen after DS, so I don't know what is going on.
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total ghost pregnancy feelings here and still no AF, with laz i was right back into it, who knows?

i have an ob appt for my iud and pregnancy test i'm sure

i don't feel pregnant so fingers crossed i'm not!

i just got a vitamix today from a co-op. it was so cheap i can't believe it! well, cheap for a vita-mix. i made fresh cashew butter, so yummy!

little boy needs attention, gotta go. i love you guys!

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Glad to see some swimmers in our DDC! Blake and Taylor and I spend somewhere between 2-4 hours a day in the pool (depending on how hot it gets, and if there is shade from the trees over the pool). Blake sits in a little floaty thing when he's not being held, and just hangs out, floating around, and kicking his legs, perfectly content for hours at a time. After having two girls who couldn't stand the water, it is unreal to me that he enjoys it so much.

In other news, my grandmother has moved in with us. She has dementia, and recently had a stay in the ICU for a few days following gallbladder surgery. Because my mom and I can't bear to have her in a nursing home, she stays here with me and the kids all day, and we get visits from a physical therapist and occupational therapist twice a week, and a home health aide is supposed to start this week. It's been physically and emotionally draining for me (especially at night, because she likes to take her oxygen tubes out of her nose...she can go for awhile without it, but then we'll be woken up with the sounds of her coughing, so I'm checking her every hour or two to make sure it's still on. I got more sleep when the baby was a month old than I do now!), as I am her primary caregiver for the better part of the day, and it is exhausting. The good news is, she DOES know who all of us are...I have no idea how I'm going to deal with it if/when the day comes that she DOESN'T know who I am.

The kids make her happy, especially Blake, and that's all that matters to me.

This week, we are venturing out with her to a doctor's appointment for the first time since she left the hospital about a week ago, and it should be interesting! (Two kids and an 86 year old with an oxygen tank and a wheelchair, in HOTlanta. Oy!)

applecore - Have someone write your sister a prescription for Newman's Nipple Cream. My midwife gave me the script when I was still in the hospital. You can't get it from a regular pharmacy (like CVS, Walgreens, etc.); I can't remember what they called the pharmacy I got it from, but it was close to the hospital, and had a more diverse formulary, I guess. Anyway, that stuff is GOD'S GIFT. Better than ANYTHING I ever tried (and I have tried a LOT of stuff. I'm a redhead; I think we automatically have sore nipples!)

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Emily, I've noticed that since three pregnancies ago, my EWCM is always blood-tinged- could that be it? Otherwise it could just be randomness because you aren't ovulating yet.
AlwaysByMySide, big hugs to you. You know we're in the same situation with my FIL (except that he doesn't have dementia), right? I'm here if you need to vent.
Well, he slept until 5, and ended up rolling back onto his back without waking up. First time I've seen a child hit a milestone in their sleep It's so HOT though, I'm really not looking forward to today.

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Hugs to alwaysbymyside and Helen...there's something RIGHT with society when people (to the best of their ability, I know it's not always possible) place the needs of their elder family members high on the priority list. If only we could all do for our parents and grandparents what you guys are doing.

Helen, its awfully heavy for EWCM...not blood tinged, more like mild to occasionally moderate bleeding. If I hadn't already had my first period 2 weeks ago, I would think this is it. Not quite as heavy as 2 weeks ago, but pretty close. I guess I'll just watch what happens over the next few weeks. I don't know what to think about it really.
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UGH it has super hot here too, almost 100 I think.

Always...I used to live with my mom and grandmother, my nana has bypolar disorder and man when she misses her meds...watch out!!! She also doesn't get around much so I feel your pain in a sense...good luck at the dr.

Smokeylo so very sorry about your uncle.

So I updated Henry's blog if anyone reads that...and posted some new pics in my sig.
Things here are ok...we are still working on sleep issues...some days are better than others. I agree that children learn sleep associations...Henry is sleeping with a certain blanket and likes to have it in is face to sleep. Make me nervous but I check him a lot and move the blanket when he is a sleep. I used some Aveeno Calming bath last night and he didn't fight going to bed as hard, but maybe it was a fluke.
Henry is still working very hard on trying to sit up. He is starting to pull his head up when sitting in either the bouncy seat or the swing...so those will be put away soon. He is starting to like his johnny jumper. I think we may have to get an exersaucer for grandmas house.

I officially started school on June 4th, they are all online classes. It is tough trying to make sure everything gets doen but I feel like over time we will get a routine.
DH finally got his stimulus check, so now we can finally register the car. We will be saving the rest just in case we have to pay 2 mo rent in Sept. Looks like we will be renting a house for $20 more a month starting in Aug. It is a nice house that we may also have the option to buy. I am glad b/c this apartment is just too small and I would rather pay $800 a mo for a 3bd house than a 1bd apartment, and maybe we can get a roommate for the 1 extra room.
Well speaking of finances we are broke...it sucks. We are under a lot of credit card debt, and dh is making me crazy. I spoke to him yesterday about putting ds on medicaid and me going on WIC but he still refuses. I feel like I don't eat enough...and it would be so dishonest if I just went on wic without telling him. I also feel like we cannot afford insurance and need some help. our policy costs us 250 a month and a $30 copay and ds isn't going for his 4mo check up b/c we don't have it...and for some reason dh cannot get past his pride about not being on govt programs that I just want to scream. I get it...but sometimes you need help and that is what it is there for...it isn't forever.

anyway...rant over.
My sister is still doing well bf and I am so proud of her.

Can't believe our babies are getting big so fast.

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Oh Allyn I'm so sorry you're in that situation. I'm a big fan of universal healthcare anyhow but in my book, every individual owes it to society to ensure that children have access to medical care, time for their mothers to adjust to life after birth and the best possible education. I think for us it's slightly easier because we pay our social security contributions separately through National Insurance, which covers unemployment and old age and that kind of stuff, it makes it easier to understand that what you put in now, you get back later. I have to say though, for me it would be non-negotiable and I'd do it with or without him : Even when I was dirt-poor ($10 a week on food poor) I still couldn't handle the idea of the kids doing without necessities.

Emily I don't think you've ovulated yet, but that's pretty much all I know. I'd probably start noting down days and dates of the mystery bleeds, and maybe charting temperatures as well, just in case it doesn't settle down of its own accord.

We're in a really weird situation with my anonymous-letter writing neighbour. We're sure it's him- he's spontaneously badmouthed DH to at least three neighbours that we know of in the last week, and other than advising the police how we feel about them interviewing him voluntarily, there's nothing we can do until something else happens. Weirdly, we don't actually feel that bad- given that it almost certainly isn't teenagers, it makes this street feel like a much safer place to live, and I feel able to let the older kids out to play- I didn't before. Whyever he's doing it, there doesn't seem to be a sane reason, so it takes the burden of guilt off us (although he told someone that once your car's been vandalised, you just don't park it there again. Well, where DO we park it then? Pennsylvania?) In a way, it's almost liberating- and Steve talked straight to his uncle about everything that's happened and what we think, and he's being remarkably quiet about it. One way or another, I believe that things are going to work out for us and we're going to come through this.

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The first period after each baby, I've wondered about pregnancy. And you know... if I don't get my period in another two weeks, I'll POAS. I'm pretty sure I will, though. As to milk supply, it takes several weeks to drop in most cases; For me, it's usually somewhere around 16-20 weeks.
Agreed, it was about 20 weeks that I started losing my milk. But, I did have a dip right before AF always. Could that be it Juise?

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Sarah, LOVE the pics!
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i have an ob appt for my iud and pregnancy test i'm sure

i don't feel pregnant so fingers crossed i'm not!
<snip>. i love you guys!
Well we are planning on trying for another one when James is 18ish months so I didn't want an IUD for such a short time but I have been having some random bleeding and worried about getting pregnant too soon for fear of my milk supply. Let me know how it goes, I'm really starting to consider it...... Love you too Playa!!

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Glad to see some swimmers in our DDC!
We have a hot tub (thanks to my bad back issues before DC) and Grace and James both love swimming in it! Grace is going to do swimming lessons this year at 2.5 and I really hope she likes it! James "swims" in the bath tub too. I just put him in and let him go to town. He kicks and waves and smiles and giggles, it's great to watch. I have swimmers too! It would be awsome to have an actual pool to swim in! It's awsome you are taking care of your grandma, what an amazingly difficult and fulfilling experience that must be!

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One way or another, I believe that things are going to work out for us and we're going to come through this.
I'm glad to hear this. What an odd and unfortuate experience this has been!

Applecore, I hope your sister is doing okay. I'm thankful her birth ended up so well and certainly there are times that igornance is bliss! I went thru a very difficult nursing relationship with dd. It was actually almost 8 full months before I was able to nurse without pain. If she is determined she can do it but it can certainly be a difficult road! Loving/healing thoughts to her!

So I just have to share because I don't have anyone else to tell right now. My dd (2.5) asked to take her nap in her tent in the living room today, okay, that's fine. So she's laying down and she poked her head out and said "Mom, I just love you so much! You're my best friend. Good night." Man I love that kid! Then about 5 minutes later she poked her head out again and said "I want to pick up my toys, man it's a mess in here!" I think she's nap avoiding!

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Holy cow. We have video footage. Proof. I don't know what to do right now (so I'm on the net instead of going to sleep)

Sarah, that's so sweet. Why don't you ever come and post with the November 05 mamas?

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Sarahn...that is so sweet!!!

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Hi all. I am really excited cuz I recieved Lakshmi's teething necklace today. I tore into the package and then set it outside in the sun for a bit. When she woke from her nap we went outside in the sun to sit for a few minutes and I put it on her. It's so cute! So I am hoping to see if it makes a difference or not with her. She drools tons and loves to chew on her fingers. Its so cute cuz she will usually chew on her index and thumb, jamming them both into her mouth. But sometimes she must really want to chew cuz then she tries to fit both hands into her mouth. I've recently been trying to get her interested in a wooden spoon, but her fingers taste better I guess. The past two-three nights have been kick-fests after 4AM. It's not hunger cuz even if she eats, she will start kicking again in 30 min. to an hour. Even DP is complaining and wanted to know what it's about. I said something like she is learning the kicks and wiggles and it keeps waking her up. Funny thing is she isn't really awake, eyes are closed and she is at least in a light sleep if not a little deeper. How long does this last? I can handle it, but DP has to get up early and her kicking is spoiling his last 2 hours of sleep.

Sarah, that is so sweet. I can't wait to experience such moments with DD.

Helen, you have video? As in this guy doing something that you can show as proof now? Thats awesome.

to those in the blistering heat back east and the floods in the midwest. Hope everyone is safe. I know Smokeylo is in Iowa City and they had some big flooding, has she been around lately? I'm sure there are others, in our group in these areas.
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Aw, Sarah! You know, two year olds et a bad rap, but in my experience they are the most loving creatures on Earth. They can be loud and temperamental, but they are *so* sweet it just makes your teeth fall out. . Here's Shriekabella, hollering about who knows what... next thing you know, there's Snugglabella, telling me, "I wuv you mamma, you're cute and mini, mamma, I miss you mamma," chubby little hands pressed against my cheeks and slimy kisses all over my face.

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Well speaking of finances we are broke...it sucks. We are under a lot of credit card debt, and dh is making me crazy. I spoke to him yesterday about putting ds on medicaid and me going on WIC but he still refuses. I feel like I don't eat enough...and it would be so dishonest if I just went on wic without telling him. I also feel like we cannot afford insurance and need some help. our policy costs us 250 a month and a $30 copay and ds isn't going for his 4mo check up b/c we don't have it...and for some reason dh cannot get past his pride about not being on govt programs that I just want to scream. I get it...but sometimes you need help and that is what it is there for...it isn't forever.
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I have to say though, for me it would be non-negotiable and I'd do it with or without him : Even when I was dirt-poor ($10 a week on food poor) I still couldn't handle the idea of the kids doing without necessities.
I agree with Helen. When I was pregnant with BooBah and Bean was just shy of a year old, and we had NO food in the house and couldn't afford to do any grocery shopping (because the brakes had gone out on the car and had to be replaced *immediately*)... The next time I went into town for a doctor's appointment, I talked to the social worker who put in a food order for me and then I went to apply for food stamps. Mike's pride was not worth listening to my baby cry because I didn't have enough milk to feed him and there wasn't enough stuff in the house. I mean I had like, two packages of dried beans and some deer bologna that Mike's dad had given us. We didn't even keep things like ketchup in the house. It was an absolute wreck. Mike was upset with me for going, but he was so happy to be able to eat again. I was just relieved to be able to feed Bean something relatively nutritious... and from the food bank, we learned that Bean really likes Spam.

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Holy cow. We have video footage. Proof. I don't know what to do right now (so I'm on the net instead of going to sleep)
There's always YouTube. Actually, that's not a bad idea... if you're the sort for hanging dirty laundry out to the public. If not, I'd say, "Take it to the police during reasonable, daylight hours." (And then YouTube! :evillaugh: )

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Birthmomom - if it helps on the medicaid/wic/foodstamps issue - you've been paying money into it all your working life it so it's not a hand-out, more like insurance. s

Holy Cr*p Helen, Good luck - in your shoes I'd proably be avoiding the issue too and surfing to distract myself.

Things are definitely getting better - I was able to get Alex down for a nap this morning so I could doze while "Lots and Lots of Trains" raised Michael for an hour. He took a few more short naps today but he's giving me clearer signs as to when he needs to sleep so it's definitely getting easier. I still can't quite believe that four years ago today I was counting down the hours until I got to meet Michael for the first time. Definitely the hardest and greatest thing I've ever down in my life and it's so much better for it.

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Birthmomom - if it helps on the medicaid/wic/foodstamps issue - you've been paying money into it all your working life it so it's not a hand-out, more like insurance. s

I second that, as well as what flapjack and eilonwy said! When I was a single mom, the state paid for my daycare, both kids were on medicaid, we did WIC, and when I was a student I received medicaid as well. I never felt a moment's guilt. I'd worked my rear off paying into those programs - aid is there for those that need it. But seriously...if you don't think you're eating enough you need to apply for the foodstamps and WIC NOW!!

Looooong day today. I have got to find a way to make everyone else in the family responsible for the housework too. I simply can't continue to do everything for six people!

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Oh, Helen, I hope you've got enough to nail that turd!

Twyla started rolling from back to front. She seems to be much more motivated to move than the other two!

There's been quite a bit of talk about teething necklaces, and I have one for Twyla, but it doesn't seem to make much of a difference. I noticed quite a difference for Marley, though. She wore hers for at least 2 1/2 years. Even if it isn't working, it still looks cute as sin!

My sis is now pumping and giving bottles of EBM. She said it breaks her heart when he turns to her breast and she knows she can't nurse him. I'm just hoping that within a week things will be healed enough for her to try again at the breast. : Thanks for all the good thoughts, girls. I love you all, too!
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well mamas I totally agree.

actually when I was a single mom i was on WIC, foodstamps, cash assistance,and bdd was on medicaid...and after awhile i felt awful. I feel like we just need a little boost right now, not forever , and heck if we aren't going to get our ss that we pay into why not get seomthing back when we are in need.
I think I have found and insurance plan for just ds that we can afford so that should help. Of course I am still looking for FT work but daycare wil be an issue...guess we will worry about that if I get an offer.

Would it be totally awful if I went on WIC and just didn't tell dh? I feel like that is horrible and a total break of trust...he just wont bend. I tried to talk tohim about it yesterday but then he tells me to take the cc and go get groceries...hello we are in debt consolidation we are trying to get OUT of debt not in more
I have been eating more but the food is going quickly...heck i just at a salad and half a big hamburger and I am still starving. For dinner we had baked potato with broccoli and cheese. it just doesn't go far enough and I think, well if i don't eat and ds stops nursing we will have to get wic for formula and that is just dumb.
dh says...well the good thing abotu being poor is we can loose some weight...I am losing weight!!! and not the good way with exercise. I have stopped exercising b/c I want to hold onto every calorie I have for milk production.

well anyway...Henry practiced sitting up today and did really well...there is a pic on his blog in my sig.

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well mamas I totally agree.

Would it be totally awful if I went on WIC and just didn't tell dh? .
NO!! Not awful at all! Normally, I am a big fan of openness in a marriage at all times...honesty is so important for trust, yadda, yadda, yadda...but in this instance, you are a nursing mama, and you have to be in a place where you aren't worried about getting the calories you need to produce milk. Its as simple as that. You have been paying into this program every time you have ever paid taxes, and this is EXACTLY what it was designed for.

Some men (my DH for insance) has a strong connection to the idea of being a "provider". Maybe for your DH, the idea of WIC makes him feel like he is not providing. But, even if this is true, that doesn't make it ok for you guys to go further into debt for groceries when there is a program that is designed for your situation.

Is your marriage the kind where, instead of not tell him at all, you could just say, "I love you and love how you take care of us all, but WIC is designed for nursing women like me with kids this age, and I am going to take advantage of it." Or something along those lines, to make clear that this isn't a front to him or his manliness, but you are making a personal decision for yourself.
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You know, two year olds get a bad rap, but in my experience they are the most loving creatures on Earth.
I totally agree!!!

helen, can't wait to hear about what you do with the video!!!

Mommy2abigail, have sleep issues ever gotten any better?

applecore, thinking about your sis and her sweet babe!!

Sarah, hugs to cutie-patootie Grace! Ben likes to wrap up his stuffed animals in his "moby wrap" too...I totally need to get a pic!
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Is your marriage the kind where, instead of not tell him at all, you could just say, "I love you and love how you take care of us all, but WIC is designed for nursing women like me with kids this age, and I am going to take advantage of it." Or something along those lines, to make clear that this isn't a front to him or his manliness, but you are making a personal decision for yourself
I don't think so...he is very against it. But thanks for the back up...I may do just that I not say anything...i do the shopping and money stuff so he wouldn't even know.

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I am really excited cuz I recieved Lakshmi's teething necklace today. I tore into the package and then set it outside in the sun for a bit.
did I miss something...was I supposed to put this in the sun before he wore it?

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Wow Helen! I can't believe you caught them! I hope this helps your case in getting this resolved!! I guess I've never posted there because I wasn't in the DDC. I didn't find MDC for a few months after she was born so I felt weird jumping in. There have been people here that have joined since the DDC closed and I don't think that's weird at all so maybe I will! Thanks!

Thanks Allyn! I wouldn't do it without DH knowing. I'm not saying don't do it, because it sounds like you need to get some more food! But I wouldn't be able to keep something like that from my DH. I would just say that you love and appreciate him and this is a cercumstance that these programs were designed for. It will be temporary and put to good use suporting you and your child. Perhaps focusing on needing the food to continue to provide food for Henry and if you don't you will have all the extra costs of formula and the medical problems that statistically accompany that.

Peace, I am just outside of Des Moines and we are having some major flooding issues. I know Iowa City is a well. There was talk that the levy/damn near there was going to go but it is hanging in there so far. The really scary part is that we are supposed to get from 3-6 MORE inches in the next 2 days!! Thankfully we don't live in a flood area but with that much water noone is totally safe! Thanks for thinking of us! I'm also interested in hearing how the necklace goes in the next few days. I'm very interested in the whole thing!

eilonwy, I totally agree with you on the "terrible 2s". Yes, there is more boundary testing and individuality but I'd never say she's terrible! There are wonderful things that come with that newfound individuality! That's so funny that Bella "misses" you. I get that too!

Jen, I'm glad you're getting a little break!

Opera, you definately need to make those boys do their fair share! It's not healthy to do it all yourself. Just remember that it's for their own good. They will move out one day and need to know how to take care of themselves!

Raina, That is great the Twyla is already rolling, wow! I'm so sorry for your sister. I know you are a great support for her and you'll help her get thru this. I think it's almost as hard ot watch someone go thru this (as a lactivist) as it is to do it yourself....almost. Big hugs to her.

Emily, I'd love to see pics!! I've never seen your little ones! A Moby's pretty advanced! He's doing good!

Does anyone else get high on their baby's breath? What I wouldn't give to be able to bottle that smell! Poor boy get's sick of havign my nose in his mouth! I was the same way with Grace. It was so sad when she started eating enough solids that her breath started to change. Am I a freak?

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