For myself, I use Aubrey Organics shampoo and conditioner, and bar soap (whatever "natural" type soap is on sale). I like to avoid shampoo, etc. that contains phthalates, parabens, and other risky chemicals. For dd, I use only dr. bronners mild baby soap. I usually shower myself first while dd sits and plays with toys, and then I bring her into the shower with me and wash her. Final rinse for both of us and out we go.
You might want to check out safecosmetics.org for info on the safest personal-care-products for you and babe.