Yeah I feel like things have changed for me since the last sex thread. We're just not having nearly enough sex & it's frustrating.
For me it's 3 different issues.
One, sometimes I am just so exhausted that I don't want to move a muscle except to close my eyelids.
Two, I'm having so many freaking aches & pains. Between heartburn (Ug, I have no desire to do *anything* except try not to tear my own esophagus out) & excruciating tailbone pain (I can't even roll over without wincing in pain, & can't lie flat on my back & would usually just prefer to curl up with my heating pad or sit on the birth ball), along with BH cx, bloody noses & freaking bloatiness I've had since conception, there is just not a lot of room left for sex. And I too have very strong BH cx after sex, and esp after O. I always have to roll to my left side & relax through it as if I were in labor. Sometimes they last several minutes. Hmph, sexy.
And thirdly, I often times (um, a lot of the time) am just not feeling sexy. Sigh. I wonder if I'm odd for feeling this way, but if I don't feel like I look cute or sexy I have a hard time FEELING cute or sexy. Do you guys feel that way? Or are you able to just let your lust guide you? Besidesthe fact I'm 20+ pounds larger & have the giant belly, my vulva is SO freaking engorged AND hairy (since I can't reach/see it to shave) that it just doesn't feel like *mine*, I have the bloaty gassiness far more often than I would like to (um, NEVER would be nice), I'm WAY uncoordinated, can't get in half the positions I used to & certainly can't whip around all quick & vixen-like in bed, more like I have to move like a slug so as to not disturb my tailbone or fall over.
Whew, venting about this feels really good. I haven't really vented about all of this to anyone.
My DP is wonderful, he doesn't make me feel any less beautiful than he normally does, & never pressures me, these are all my own issues. And to top it all off, my DP (whom I find incredibly gorgeous every second of the day) would probably be very happy to have sex like twice every day, but at the very least I know he would like to at least every OTHER day!! My poor neglected boyfriend who I love like crazy.
So yeah. I LOVElovelove that I am growing our baby. It fills me with unbelievable love & joy & I could lay there cuddled with DP & touch our baby parts poking out of me & fantasize about our new family member for endless hours... but when it comes to sex I'm all frustrated & am very anxious to get my body, the NON-fetus incubating one, back. But then again I'm not! This is such a wonderful amazing time, I want to savor every moment! HAHA! I'm a bit torn... :LOL
Thank you for sharing your stories, and for giving me a place to vent!!!