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#31 of 39 Old 09-02-2005, 04:26 PM
 
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Wow, can't believe it is already Friday. I've had a miserable week. I've felt woozy all week long. I bring Willem downstairs for breakfast and almost pass out stirring his oatmeal on the stove every morning. Then I have had to lay down on the couch and just stay there letting him watch baby einstein dvds because I was really afraid that if I got up before 11am that I would pass out cold and he would be alone. My mws think it's a combination of baby growth spurt and hormone surges. I remember feeling like this alot when I was pg with W. Although now come to think of it, it might just be a bug passing through my system. I woke up with a sore throat on Sunday and gargled with silver all day so by Monday I didn't have any symptoms, then on Tuesday dh woke up with a sore throat and we've both been pretty run down all week.

So needless to say, I haven't really gotten that much done this week. I was so proud of myself yesterday though because I actually made dinner and even got it done by the time dh got home. Well, our 13 year old neighbor girl came over and helped diffuse some of Willems energy. That was so nice. She also gave me a manicure and pedicure!!! She's so sweet. So now my fingers and toenails are an iridescent alien blue color.

I haven't gotten my birth beads out in the mail yet : because I literally don't have the energy to get out of the house and go get a padded envelope and go to the post office.... So sorry if everyone has to wait on my beads. I hope you all will think they are worth it

Okay, my rant for the day...
Dh's aunt [yuppie well-to-do (they live in a 7000 square foot mansion, I mean "house")] invited us to her son's four year old birthday party. I asked her what kinds of things he's into, trying to get some insight into getting a present for him that will actually be appreciated and used and she said anything new would thrill him. Well, I've been to their house, and all you see is toys, toys, toys and more toys in every room of the house. So dh and I set a budget of no more than $15 to spend on the kid... and I am having a really hard time trying to think up something to give him. I mean, why should I go spend $15-20 on a new toy for a kid that literally has it all when my son plays with toys from yard sales that I steam clean and wash, and reads books that I get by the bagful from the thrift store???? I told dh that we should give him a card with a receipt in it from the ARC saying that we donated X amount of dollars to the Katrina effort in his name, and enclose a picture of the poor children down there for him to understand that not everybody has as much as he does. I don't remember the last time I spent $20 on a single item for my own son, much less myself (my last salon appointment was in May and I have to keep my hair pulled back because it's looking atrocious). My point is that I am begrudging spending money on someone who won't appreciate it and won't even care. And it's clouding my judgement and my ability to go shopping for him. And plus his mom will have something negative to say about whatever we get for him. We are definitely going to the birthday party because it is a family get together (oh, and by the way, he's having two parties this year, one for the family and one for his friends)... eek. Someone please just calm me down about this. Any ideas, suggestions? Since it all seems so pointless, maybe I'll just go out and buy $15 of candy and dump it in his lap :!!!
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oh, Gunter...
I almost forgot to send you hugs!
Don't be too hard on yourself. Just know that it's normal to feel a little more vulnerable emotionally, especially when you are this far along in your pregnancy. Seek out professional help if you get the first inkling that it would help. Antenatal depression has a tendency to play itself out as postpartum depression (it tooke me a LONG time to figure that out) so it's best to nip things in the bud if that's where you are at. Allow yourself room to grow through this. You are at a different place in your life today then you were when you were depressed in the past.
Someone once said to me that each of our babies comes to help heal a part of ourselves. And pregnancy is just the beginning of the healing. And you can fight it or you can use it to your advantage and learn and grow from it.
You do DESERVE not to feel depressed but it just may be some unresolved stuff that's asking for your attention.
Maybe I'm just shooting the breeze here but I've had a long history with depression and I agree that it's not something anyone can understand unless they've been through it. I'd say the best you can do is not let it creep back into your life... take charge, be proactive. Write down positive affirmations that will countercharge every negative/depressing thought. Read them to yourself aloud many times throughout the day. The power of our thoughts and words is amazing.
Hope you feel better soon!
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Hi all

Read all your posts and thinking of those of you/ your loved ones going through tough times.

I as a policy never watch any tv news but just had to turn on cnn and msnbc today since I"m hearing such incredulous things from people- omg- it is so awful, it is hard to watch When is this gonna end? I hope help can get to those people SOON!

28 weeks today- does this mean I'm in the 3rd trimester? Definitely feelin' it! Had some really painful kicks to my cervix yesterday. Picking up and having to carry ds everywhere sure doesn't help.

During my 'break time' (his nap time) I've done nothing but sit on my butt online and make phone calls, pay bills, etc. It's too hot out to do anything else and the house isn't too much of a disaster that I need to do any housework.

On a good note- MIL called the other night and offered to help us out with the carseat or stroller! The only 2 big ticket items we need- I'm pretty psyched about that since $ is really going to be an issue very soon when I leave my job...any little bit helps.
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Gunter, Lots of hugs and good thoughts being sent your way!

willemsmama, hope you feel better soon. I guess you could do a combination of a donation AND a little candy or something for the nephew! Don't have any brillant ideas other than that!

s katrina, sorry about the sinus infection. Probably the normal pregnancy increase in stuffiness/congestion isn't helping any. I had a lot of sinus problems the 1st trimester and it was pretty unpleasant, luckily it resolved. some chiropractic seemed to help.

Jenn, hope you can go on your vacation!!

I too was avoiding reading news/watching TV--I usually avoid these things until they absolutely command my attention, and right now the hurricane situation is commanding my attention. I am finding it hard to understand exactly what the freakin' problem is with getting help to these people, evacuating, etc. I mean, I could understand that there was a problem with the tsunami last year--it was in an "underdeveloped" area of the world, there were a lot of remote villages involved which don't have the same communication with the rest of the world, it was more sudden and suprising, there wasn't an early warning system, there's not as much infrastructure there anyway, etc. etc. But for a week before the hurricane there was a lot of forewarning that it was going to be bad, and I just don't get why one of the richest most "developed" countries in the world couldn't just get people the hell out of there, or mobilize a better response to those who were left/stayed behind after the fact in terms of resucing and helping evacuees and refugees.

On a slightly related note, my breastfeeding-advocating self finds it crappy that babies end up sick/dying whenever there is this type of natural disaster because of a lack of availability of formula and bottles and clean water. Another good reason for nursing. Also, I don't mean to condemn women who can't/don't choose to breastfeed. It's a hard culture for people to successfully breastfeed in!! Beyond the individual level, it should be more accepted and promoted BY THE SOCIETY, as the default way to feed a baby, and the laws and public culture should reflect that. It shouldn't be acceptable to publicly give a baby a bottle in a restaurant or mall but unacceptable to breastfeed there, for example. Hospitals should do a way better job of helping women breastfeed, women should be more supported in the workplace, etc.

Well that's my cheery rant for the day!!

I'm feeling kind of bummed/worried, like I've made taking care of myself/my pregnancy a too-low priority. I feel like my diet has been less than optimal, and I've been drinking too much soda the last couple of months, and I don't drink enough water, and I don't get enough omega-3 fatty acids, and I've never managed to get a reasonable exercise program underway. Now work is getting a lot higher-pressure and commanding more of my attention (school back in session, me being under more scrutiny, etc.) Just at the time that I feel like I need to be focusing more on the pregnancy and the baby and preparing for birth, etc. I feel sort of like I only get one chance to grow this baby, and I've been screwing it up and time is running out!! On the other hand, my health seems pretty good overall and the baby seems to be growing and strong, but part of me feels guilty and is waiting for the other shoe to drop! I'm not sure if that's just my own perfectionism/paranoia talking though. It's so hard to evaluate yourself realistically!!
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I too was avoiding reading news/watching TV--I usually avoid these things until they absolutely command my attention, and right now the hurricane situation is commanding my attention. I am finding it hard to understand exactly what the freakin' problem is with getting help to these people, evacuating, etc. I mean, I could understand that there was a problem with the tsunami last year--it was in an "underdeveloped" area of the world, there were a lot of remote villages involved which don't have the same communication with the rest of the world, it was more sudden and suprising, there wasn't an early warning system, there's not as much infrastructure there anyway, etc. etc. But for a week before the hurricane there was a lot of forewarning that it was going to be bad, and I just don't get why one of the richest most "developed" countries in the world couldn't just get people the hell out of there, or mobilize a better response to those who were left/stayed behind after the fact in terms of resucing and helping evacuees and refugees.
Dh and I were discussing the same thing a couple of days ago. I as a rule don't pay attention to what the mass media says because they are biased and politically (and otherwise) controlled but we turned on the morning news the other day and just couldn't understand why there were so many people stranded down there. I don't mean to sound heartless but it just doesn't make sense.
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Well I had a midwife appt. yesterday and everything looks good. The babe is now head down (but with all the rolling around and kicking I feel I'm not sure she's there for good yet!) Still, I haven't been anywhere near as short of breath the past few days, and the book says that once the baby is head down that can help with breathlessness, so I'm very happy about that. I'm about 32 weeks now and have had some more physical symptoms pop up - some varicosities in my legs, that don't hurt, but my midwife encouraged me to start eating more bioflavinoids for them - citrus and berries - and/or taking a supplement. I'm also looking for an aqua aerobics class to join because she said swimming would be good for them - just what I want to do, right? shop for a swimsuit when I'm 8 months pregnant! I've also been getting bad leg cramps at night the past couple nights, which just started, and having horribly stiff, achey legs when I wake up in the night, too.

Last night it hit me that there are only 8 wks. until my due date and I haven't done anything! I need to write up a birth plan for the hospital (just in case), get all the homebirth supplies together, clean up and get projects done around the house, etc. etc. And I have evals. next week and next quarter of school starts in 3 wks. I'm all of a sudden feeling a bit frantic!

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Kel - I have last seasons's version of this Old Navy Maternity Swimsuit and I LOVE IT! Its very comfy, it actually covers my whole belly still, and people stop me at the pool to tell me its the prettiest maternity swimsuit they've ever seen. And its on sale!

I'm having a tough weekend. DS, who is only 15 months old, has a terrible cold. His first cold since he was about 6 months old, and we're all miserable. He's so congested that his latch is terrible and of course he wants to sit and nurse all the time, so my nipples are really sore. Luckily, he night-weaned himself, so at least I got a break last night. I've been sooo exhausted, though, because he hasn't been napping well the last few days because of it.

I'm feeling tons of movement, and the baby's in the same position as DS liked to stay in, I think. Head down against my left hip, and legs up under my ribs on the right side. I feel absolutely huge, though... One of my friends is 38 weeks and I swear we are the same size.

I'm trying to do my hypnobabies several times a week, but I am soooo exhausted that I keep falling asleep. I might have to start getting up early in the morning to do them.

Anyone else having any weird food cravings? Last night I could not get enough garlic, and all week I've been obsessed with putting wheat germ on top of everything I eat. (Mac and cheese with wheat germ, yogurt with wheat germ, I'm thinking it would be a good salad topper for lunch...)

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I'm feeling kind of bummed/worried, like I've made taking care of myself/my pregnancy a too-low priority. I feel like my diet has been less than optimal, and I've been drinking too much soda the last couple of months, and I don't drink enough water, and I don't get enough omega-3 fatty acids, and I've never managed to get a reasonable exercise program underway. Now work is getting a lot higher-pressure and commanding more of my attention (school back in session, me being under more scrutiny, etc.) Just at the time that I feel like I need to be focusing more on the pregnancy and the baby and preparing for birth, etc. I feel sort of like I only get one chance to grow this baby, and I've been screwing it up and time is running out!! On the other hand, my health seems pretty good overall and the baby seems to be growing and strong, but part of me feels guilty and is waiting for the other shoe to drop! I'm not sure if that's just my own perfectionism/paranoia talking though. It's so hard to evaluate yourself realistically!!

I feel this way, too. I have a conferrence next week where I have to give a presentation but after that I hope to focus more on the pregnancy. I have been able to get some exercises in lately and I have been good about taking my cod liver oil (especially important now that the brain is developing) and that has made me feel a lot better. If you can just get one supllement or exercise or whatever in a day, you will feel better (less guilty). In my case, though, my workload should be easing up after this conference. I am pretty certain it will unless there is something unexpected that someone wants me to do, but I might just say no and stick with work from my desk at home. Are you a student or teacher?
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Willemsmama- I run into the same thing with my niece/nephews every holiday. What I do is either books, clothes, or a craft to do. I refuse to buy a toy that they don't appreciate, and will never use, so I figure I'll put clothes on them, or grow their mind! Good luck, I know how you feel. Now, if I can find something for my in-laws who also act the same way...
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