I've woke up this morning exhausted because ds decided to wake up throwing tantrums last night at 3 am. It finally ended when I put him in the shower : after two hours of screaming and kicking and banging his head against the floor/bed/pillow because it was such a major distraction I guess. Then I cuddled and rocked him and fed him a banana and he was asleep again within a half hour only crying like two or three times more. It's nights like these that dh and I wonder if we should have CIO'd from the very beginning, but neither of us had/has the heart to abandon him in the middle of the night like that.
So I'm taking him out to breakfast and hoping that these darn menstrual cramps I woke up with will pick up the pace and get regular and strong!!!
Oh and Jenn, I forgot you live in ATL, you should try finding a chiro who combines regular manual adjusting with some light force techniques, maybe even a cranial sacral therapist who has experience with pregancy care and breech presentation. And don't for a second feel that you are cheating on your chiro. If he/she is a professional they will understand that there is only so much one chiro can do. Every chiro sort of has their own niche; because it is such a hands on profession,every chiropractor is different in their approach etc and your body will respond differently to every one too. Some of my patients back in SC didn't like the way my husband adjusted them when he substituted for me and some of his patients preferred his touch to mine when I worked on them. It's a pretty interesting dynamic. Best of luck in getting that baby head down!!!
i had some insomnia last night, too...or this morning, really! up from 5am-630am. yawn! sorry your husband woke you up last night, bensmom!
my first ring sling arrived in the mail today- it's gorgeous, hope i can figure out how to use it! i've only used pouches, wraps, and mei tai before...
i've been in very crampy the past 24 hours. willemsmamma i can't imagine that anyone would think you cried wolf over labor! it can be so hard to tell, and we're all so excited to meet our little ones! btw, thanks for the huge welcome and neat that you and your dh are both chiros! my parents practice together, too- dad is a chiro, and mom is a massage therapist. unfortunatly for me, they live in CA (where i'm from), so i haven't had the lovely adjustments and massages i got when i was pg with ds....
at any rate, i'm all about overanalyzing every twinge these days
my ds seems to have a touch of a cold (or it's teething, but i'm thinking cold) he's been weaned less than 2 months and this will be his second cold...i feel kind of guilty about that, even tho he was only nursing once a day for the last 2 months before i went ahead and weaned him
DS (17 months) is unbelievably cranky today. I just gave him some Motrin becasue I think its his teeth that are causing this - both top canines are coming in. But I'm about to totally loose patience! All my friends who have had babies while their toddlers were little said that their toddlers were just awful for the last couple weeks before the baby is born. They really seem to sense that their whole world is about to turn upside down and freak out. Rationally, I understand that and I have sympathy... but when he asks for a cup of water and then cries hysterically when I insist on putting the lid on his sippy cup and throws it down it just drives me insane. Same thing with breakfast - cries the whole time I'm making it like he's starving, then doesn't want to eat. Cries and begs to nurse RIGHT NOW, latches on for 20 seconds, then jumps out of my lap and cries begging to nurse again. WTH? I soooo can't deal with this for another two weeks.
i'm sorry your boy is chipil, too, but i'm glad mine isn't the only one!
Oh Willemsmama - I so did the EXACT same thing two weeks ago, and it has been just awful thinking for two weeks that any minute now things could pick-up again. That being said, I'm going to go ahead and cry wolf again today. I was so crampy all night, and now am losing my mucuos (sp?) plug, and still feel pretty crampy. So, HOPEFULLY this is the beginning of something bigger than a false alarm. However, I don't have any urge to throw the last minute stuff into a bag for the hospital or anything, so I don't think anything will happen until probably tonight at best. On that note, does anyone know if it's ok to have sex after you lose the mucous plug? Just in case I need to kick-start this all again tonight!
Guess my womb is nice and comfy! It's alright, I'd rather have a nice fat baby with no vernix than a tiny skinny baby with cheese skin (but I'll take 'em either way )
QoC, 13 times??????? Wow... now THAT makes me feel better.
Laisett... overanalyzing every twinge.. yeah, that's me. They all feel like they're really doing something. Maybe it means a shorter labor once the active part actually starts. My midwife made me feel better when she told me that with her 8th baby she was in labor for 6 days!!! It would start, go for 12 hours or so and then just stop for a night, maybe a few hours, whatever, then with no warning start just where it stopped. Crazy how non-textbook our bodies are, huh?
And I went to the different chiro, who has a great success rate with turning babies and specializes in pregnant women. She said we are kinda late in the game but she will do her best. And she did the Webster technique very different from my regualr chiro who I have been seeing all along. Fingers crossed!
As my mw told me, "What got you into this will help get you out of it!"
I think this baby may have dropped, at least partially (I'm 36W tomorrow). A friend of mine commented today that I look smaller and lower, and I've been having different sensations down low. Most of the time it isn't any more uncomfortable than anything else, but I went for a walk today and was really uncomfortable in my hips and pelvis by the time I got back, and her head just feels so...hard, and in the way!! All I can wear is yoga pants now because I just can't stand anything pressing in on my lower abdominal area, right where her head is.
And my breasts are killing me. Killing!! Is anyone else dealing with this? I feel like I need to go get a really tight sports bra and bind them up.
Thanks for those words of empathy about my MIL -- DH talked to her last night on the phone and told her she would have to call those she invited directly (2) and tell them that they couldn't bring anyone else, and that she should have asked us before inviting them etc. She did it becase she was more concerned about "bringing together the parts of the family" than about respecting me and DH as heads of our own household and me as a hostess. He was like "she could go at any time, she's really pregnant" since tomorrow I am 38 weeks -- and she was like, "oh, I was just thinking Nov. 10" (my due date). He told her less than 5% give birth on the due date and she was suprised. I don't feel that she has any idea of what pregnancy is, physically, even though she has 2 kids herself. She says she felt great through her pregnancies (in ref. to me being tired). Well, she was not working at all when she was PG with either, so with the first she didn't have any children to care for and the second she had one. I am trying to get my PhD while pregnant, doing TONS of physical work in the lab -- and mentally stressfull stuff, too like traveling around the country presenting at conferences full of professionals where I am very much a junoir. It's a little different, I think. Plus, she had tons of extended family and neighbor support that I don't think she even realized or remembered. I gues like willemsmama said, I am getting more she-wolfish and things are pissing me off more and more. It bothers me that I feel so angry about this -- I don't know if it's a disproportionate response. I also feel like she missed the point about just not inviting to someone else's party and was focused more on trying to explain that these people would not be trouble and that she didn't think I was so pregnant, or whatever, which is not even the main point!!!
I am trying to just chill out about this though -- and even tried to tell myself and DH maybe it's good that this happened now since this is relatively minor and maybe it will get her in-line before the birth so that she doesn't start inviting people to the hospital without our permission or whatever.
On a happier note, the people at work took me out for a shower-lunch -- it was organized by the secretary, a woman who is totally baby-oriented, but the rest was all men -- she organized it all which was sweet. It was funny to be at a "shower" where the pregnancy/baby barely came up and they were talking about baseball most of the time. At one point the babe moved so much you could see the movement under my sweater and I was sitting across from the other woman and she saw -- we started laughing but the guys had no clue -- pretty funny. It was sweet they all chipped in and gave us $100 gift card to babies 'r' us!
And after much, much debate, I had decided to do the GBS swab at my last visit. And it's negative Yeah for probiotics!! So everything is terrific at 38+ weeks, and I'm just hanging out and waiting on this baby.
I had another terrific swim this afternoon, and went to the last farmer's market of the year. I'm feeling good today- my back ache is almost completely cured (as long as I don't sit for too long), and I have another accupuncture appointment for tomorrow.
"Guess what? It's a magical world. And when I sing, my songs are in it."
Madly in love with my 7 and 4 year old daughters
Originally Posted by MelW
I had decided to do the GBS swab at my last visit. And it's negative Yeah for probiotics!!
plagio--what you wrote about your MIL even pissed ME of on your behalf, so I don't think it's at all inappropriate to be upset, and I don't think it's even a pregnancy thing. Maybe it is more upsetting b/c of the pregnancy thing, but I think I (and if I'm guessing, probably you too) would be upset about that if not pregnant. It's just completely a violation of a pretty obvious rule of ettiquette!!! Usually it's known that when you are invited to a party, particularly if it's a thing for which you actually have a written invitation (and you're over 23 and NOT living in a frat house!) you are not authorized to invite others! And if you do want/need to bring someone else along (a date, or a visiting out of town guest, something like that) you should get permission of the host/hostess first if it's someone you're close enough to that you feel comfortable asking. NOT just randomly invite a bunch of other people!! If she wants to have the family together, SHE should throw the damn party!! Call me crazy, but I'm on a major ettiquette kick in the last week or two. I live in a particularly flaky and ettiquette-deprived part of the country--I have talked with other people who have moved to here from the Midwest or Eastern parts of the country, and we have agreed that there is a little more respect for certain social customs there than here. (Like RSVPing or not just flaking out on a party/social event when you say you're going to be there, or calling if for some reason at the last minute you can't attend. Here people don't even seem to think that this is rude, and act like YOU'RE weird for being disappointed when they don't show up after they said they would!) So I guess it's good to know that Chicago isn't the promised land of manners that I remember the midwest to be! (I'm originally from the Detroit area.)
I'm having a busy week at work--I'm teaching classes all day every day this week. Was 37 weeks yesterday, and I don't think this baby is coming any time soon, although I am noticing more BH cx the last day or two. The baby's head is well applied but not too low, and I'm not dilated or effaced at all (per my DH, whom I "walked through" a cervical exam!!) I decided to work next week too. Strangely enough I am feeling better in many ways than I was a month ago--partly, I think it's because the work stress is abating because the end is in sight! But now I almost want to keep working a little longer! Partly, a month ago I was bummed that I've been too tired and stressed and preoccupied with work problems and finances to really do some of the things that I wanted to do in the pregnancy--like going to prenatal yoga, meeting other pregnant ladies, going to a couple of LLL meetings, getting certain things in the house together, etc. A month ago I was really wanting to have the time and freedom to do those things. Now, I'm just sort of in the waiting stage--although I'm not miserable and desperate to go into labor, I'm close enough to giving birth that I'm less interested in getting INTO being pregnant than I am in getting out of it on the other end!! Also, my perspective sort of shifted on some of the things that I want to do and the relative benefit of doing those/vs. working longer. For example, I was all interested in cooking and freezing some meals, but then I realized that at my current pay scale, about one hour of work will pretty much pay for a decent dinner for me and DH--so what's the point of taking off early to slave away at home to try to prepare a few meals when by working just another week I could afford take out or pizza or something every night for the first month, or extra household help? Especially now because I am enjoying it more because I'm so close to leaving anyway that nothing really matters that much at this point!
The people at what I jokingly refer to as "the mothership" (ie my employer, who places me offsite at a school) are having a shower for me tomorrow there in the afternoon. My only request about this has been, nothing involving toilet paper!! The people I used to work with onsite are doing this for me, and they LOVE doing parties/showers so I've been to a lot of them that they've given for other work colleagues! Seems like every bridal/baby shower this particular group of friends has thrown has featured some game that has involved wrapping the guest of honor in toilet paper for one reason or another!! (Either the "toilet paper bride" for wedding showers, or for baby showers trying to visually gauge the girth of the expectant mother and tear off an appropriately sized piece of toilet paper, later having the opportunity to check accuracy of said estimation by wrapping it around the mom's belly!) I hope I'm not cramping their style too much with that request!!
I think the people at school are planning to do a (semi-suprise) something for me next week too--a couple of weeks ago one of the administrators gave me the third degree about what we have for the baby and what we need for the baby, and finally just made me inventory our supplies and then cough up our registry information plus a list of what we need! Then the secretaries and the ladies in the school nurse's office kept asking me about plans for my last day, and when I was kind of waffling about that two of them exchanged a look, and then one of them just said that they need me to be there next Wednesday! Since then I've noticed a few furtive glances and then conversations ending when I walk into a room, but not in a bad way!
Well, other than that, no news. See, here I accused all you of being chatty and now I'm just ing away!! Shame on me!
|I don't feel that she has any idea of what pregnancy is, physically, even though she has 2 kids herself. She says she felt great through her pregnancies (in ref. to me being tired).|
to all mommas with toddlers... I really think that children are more in tune with their psychic abilities than we could ever imagine. Ds has known that something is up/ something's about to change for the past 3 months at least. He's super clingy, wants to sleep pressed up against me, etc etc. I just try to smother him with whatever love and attention I can muster at any given moment. Patience is a little on the rare side for me but I'm getting better at ignoring his tantrums (not getting my emotions involved) and redirecting him, and he responds well most of the time. All the moms I've talked to who have children close in age (under 2 years) have all said it's rough, rough, rough, but you can do it. So here's some extra special for us!!! WE CAN DO IT!!!
Originally Posted by *Amy*
Wonderful news!! Did you do anything specific to prepare? Mine's on Monday so I'm wondering if it would be worth it to try a few things, proactively.
My big pet peeve is when people do stuff to "eliminate" GBS for the test only, and not the birth- like do hibiclens or garlic, but don't continue through with the "treatment" after they get a negative swab. Plus I wasn't keen on doing anything antibacterial ("natural" or not) to potentially killing off my normal "good" flora just for the sake of a negative swab. So... to FINALLY answer your question- I took oral probiotics consistently from about 3 weeks before I did the swab, and will continue taking them until baby is born. The other thing I did to "prepare" was not have sex the night before the swab- don't know if this matters or not (other than delayed gratification). And I spent time thinking about treatment options, etc. if it was positive.
"Guess what? It's a magical world. And when I sing, my songs are in it."
Madly in love with my 7 and 4 year old daughters
DiD, I know, isn't it getting ridiculous??
I had a dream last night that I was losing my plug/had bloody show, and I got soooo excited that it meant my time was coming soon. Of course it's not happening in real life, but eh, it will be soon enough.
in better news, i'm 39 weeks today! i don't think baby is going to come soon, but it's exciting to be getting ever closer to meeting her...
i've also been on a big ol' cereal kick- and we don't have any cereal! it's on my to-do list for tomorrow
Hubby put the curtains back up in the birth room last night, so it looks all purdy. I had so many BH ctx last night, some crampy, I thought I HAVE to get that room all organized today, and then I think that's it! We'll put the carseat in and then just take every opportunity to relax after that and rest for labor.
Maisie and I have been getting in the birth tub every afternoon, her sometimes twice a day. It's so relaxing when I step in there, my body just melts. Kind of reassuring for labor.
Physically, I've been feeling nauseous when I wake up in the middle of the night. And is anyone else's uterus seeming "tired" in the evening. I have so many more BH in the evening, my uterus just seems tired.
Up since 3 am...
cuddled willem back to sleep when he woke up whiney at close to 4am...
Posted a major ISO list for one of the swaps here (took me like an hour) then lost it : grrr...
woke dh up for some nooky...
tried to lay back down and sleep but no luck...
got back online while watching the sun rise...
oh, look it's after 7...
woke dh up...
laid back down...
started falling asleep and whaddya know...
ds wakes up and dh comes in to take a shower.
Yep, no sleep for me. luckily the arugula omelette dh made for me this morning (from leftovers from our dinner date last night ) kind of makes up for it, but not really.
I'm going shopping again today just to get out of the house. I got a great deal for ds yesterday... Lands' End snow boots for $4.99 at one of those brand name discount places!!! Dh was even excited when I showed him!
Then after a nap I'm planning on taking ds to get his pics done. Maybe I'll even get a pregnancy one done too :yawning:
I also have been feeling a bit down because I feel like my mom is the only other woman (in real life) who even cares that I am pregnant or is interested in the baby. I am thankful to have her, and a supportive partner -- I know some mamas don't even have that -- but there are some other people that I am close to, but because DH and I are the kind of people that appear to always be doing great -- (they don't realize how hard we work for school or where our stipends come from, or how little they really are) I think that they just assume it's all fine. My mom has sent us tons of awesome used baby clothes and is into the baby in a healthy way, but besides that and the gift swap from babykaoss, not ONE person has given us anything 'cute' or special for me or the baby -- I am thankful for the diaper shower -- which was awesome, but some of the women i know are pretty crafty and have made stuff for others, like knit scarves for friends, etc. and I don't care about getting stuff at all -- it really is the thought that I feel is missing. They will all want to see the baby right away though -- they have no concept of what when into making this baby -- the analogy I used when complaining to DH last night was "if you want to sleep with me, you have to take me out to dinner first" and WANT to take me out to dinner -- OK that is kind of crude and not really how I have dealt with relationships but you get the idea. I know I am feeling super-sensitive right now.
OK, I did have some things I wanted to respond to so:
MelW and Amy I also just got my NEGATIVE result, too! -- thanks for reminding me to take my probiotics -- I have not been good about that even before the test but I really want to get back on that
NatalieK I am 38 weeks today, too -- we must have the same DD!
Kavita I'm interested in knowing how to have DH check me -- where did you get that info?? or how to you do that?
many mamas I have sleep issues like that but things have gotten better in the last 2 weeks I am SO thankful -- I still wake up a lot but I now fall back to sleep, whereas before I was up at all hours like you all -- I hope it stays this way . .
Finally -- just a plug for my latest belly shot -- I put the whole "real me" on there . . .
is anyone else an emotional basket case right now? i'm pretty even keeled normally, and during most of my pg, but the last few weeks i was pg with DS i was crying nearly every day from wanting him to come so i could stop being pg...and the past week i've been crying a lot again. i've cried 3 times in the past 14 hours- once over the temp in my apt, once when DS didn't want to give me a good night kiss (tho not in front of him), and once emailing my DH to apologize for being an emotional basket case. ack!
DS had *another* bad day at school. First time that he has had bad days for the whole week. He hit kids, kicked teachers and dumped the water table and had water everywhere. And then he ran out of the classroom twice. I was going up there at 10:30 for his Harvet Party and instead had to take him home.
Well, it took all I had to keep from crying when talking to the administrator who called me and then talking to the teacher in person. Once I was alone with DS, I let it all out. I said I was "sad at him" and he seemed only mildly affected (autism sucks!) and just said "stop crying." Which of course made me cry even more wondering if my child will ever really have empathy.
And then the guilt...is he picking up on all this stupid breech stress I have been under all week? Other than this mess at school though, he has been doing fine at home with me.
So yes, I am an emotional basket case. Not to mention when DH came home from work yesterday, he was irritable and griped at me about something stupid and just made me completely loose it with him. I am a mess. I need a vacation or something!
im with you all on the night wakings and inomnia, but i truky believe its our bodies way of slowly getting us used to it because there is lots of it to come
our fridge died a few days ago so we had to get another one from my mom last night ( a spare that she had in her garage) because the land lady wouldnt help us till "this weekend some time" what the HELL are we supposed to do without a friggin fridge for 5 days? and plus she was going to give us her old one and buy herself a new one : sometimes i HATE renting. anyways, when we moved the old one old disgusting fridge water go everywhere and all over the carpet in the living room and the 20 years of grime behind the fridge was just nasty. i was out at my knitting group through most of this, but i came home to hours of scrubbing and cleaning. the upside is that we have a cleaned out fridge, a bigger freezer (sat in my baby blessing and folks are bringing food to freeze) and the kitchen is bleached spotless and the land lady said she would replace the linoleum in there ( its also disgusting and falling apart..kept together with duct tape ) i think ill do it myself ( with the help of sister and elwynns pappa..) though and make her give us money for supplies and labor because her "handyman" is a total creep and i dont want him in my house. so that may be what im doing sunday :LOL Talk about major nesting..we are also gong to carpet clean the living room for good measure.. *Stay in baby till we get it all done!!*
when i got home elwynn was decked out in an amazing witches hat and a magic wand and these amazing bat wings and little pumpkin drinking cups with straws and all sorts of other fun halloween stuff that my momma brought him. its great to have such an enthusiastic grama.. sometimes i have a hard time getting into the holiday spirit.. ill post a picture of my little guy on the pic page later when we get our camera!!
elwynn wants to be a "little" ghost for halloween.. oOOH scary! we carved our pumpkin the other day and its out on our porch waiting to be lit. how exciting.i think it would be fun have a halloween baby
anyways, im babbling..
but it looks like a few mommas here may be having babies now or very soon!!
First, and best - a NEGATIVE GBS TEST!!!!! Yeeehaw. No more worries about going into labour with an allergic reaction to antibiotics. My midwife also said some interesting things about the whole GBS thing, she's had a lot of positive tests lately but she thinks that if someone actually put some research into it, they would find that the strain of GBS we have around here is a much more benign one than in other places (like the southern US for example) and she wished that they didn't even test for it here. Also, baby is fine, I am fine, and I actually got a sympathetic wince and a "ooo, you must be uncomfortable" from my midwife with respect to wee Blobby's feet and bum stuffed up against my ribs. So I now feel vindicated in my whining, but to be honest, it hasn't been so bad the last couple of days.
Second - we have a new fridge too. Our old one wasn't quite dead, but it had an extremely noisy "death rattle" thing going to the point that we actually had to pause our DVDs if it turned itself on while we were watching. The new fridge is slightly larger too which is nice, matches our oven and makes normal fridge-noises. Also, we got an under-the-counter dishwasher to replace our old mobile one so we have WAY more space in the kitchen, which is great. The kitchen is now as renovated as we need it (it still needs some aesthetic finishing touches) for the baby. Well, for us, with a baby. Babies don't need kitchens.
Third - the bad dreams. I had 2 last night! One was a really gruesome, horror-movie kind of thing involving an exact duplicate of me turning its head inside out and attacking me. Fortunately that's so over-the-top that it wasn't disturbing for long. The second was more of a CSI-type plot involving some evil pervert that I locked up and then later found that everyone else liked him and had let him go, so I had to chase him down but he was hunting me because obviously he was a little pissed at the whole locking him up in the first place bit. That one wasn't really scary so much as nerve-wracking and non-restful. And my darling baby woke me up at least 3 or 4 times with some awfully weird squirming. Bleh.
Anyway, 2 more days of work after today, then I can nap in the afternoons to make up for crappy sleep, and DH has promised me at least one day of sitting on the couch eating bonbons So listen up, little baby - you need to stay in there for a bit longer, k? Mom needs some "down-time".
Oh yeah and I've totally been getting more BH in the evening too.
Postpartum doula & certified breastfeeding educator, mama to an amazing girl (11/05) and a wee little boy (3/13).
I also got a negative GBS result today at my MW appointment! I wanted to get up and dance, I was so happy... I don't do well with antibiotics, since they tend to give me mutant systemic yeast infections, so I've been really sacred that if I was GBS+ I'd have huge BF problems from thrush. And after watching one of my RL friends with a brand new babe fight that one out with her pediatrician and CPS I did NOT want to go there.
Unfortunately, we do NOT have a new fridge. We don't really need one, but I'm starting to stress a bit about the state of our dryer and whether it's up to the challenge of full-time CDing a newborn, and if not exactly what I'm going to do about it.
Spending all of my money and time on this wild, wild life.