i planned a hospital birth and it mostly went well - a few thoughts for you:
-i'd say *clamp* the cord after it stops pulsating... we asked to delay cutting - so they clamped it right away
and then had DH cut it later
-request that one parent be with the baby at all times - we ended up with a couple situations where i couldn't be with the baby, so DH was there with him to make sure nothing happened we didn't want, like eyedrops, bottles, bathing, etc...
-ask for baby to be put on your chest right away - even for most cases where medical attention is needed right away, they can give you a few seconds together which i'm sure you would cherish. and if no medical attention is needed - it's much better that they be on your chest, keeping warm, initiating breastfeeding... than off being apgared, weighed, bathed (a.k.a. chilled). they can check for the apgar indicators while the baby is on you - they can delay weighing and bathing... for us our baby wasn't weighed until he'd latched on and had his first nursing (so i probably added an extra 1/4 oz. to his weight
) and bathing didn't happen until about 12 hours later.
at the top of our birthplan we distilled everything down to 2 major points for quick reference
** we have prepared for a natural birth and appreciate your support in this
** we would like one parent to be with the baby at all times
i didn't find there was much i needed with me in the hospital - i arrived with only 4 hours left to go and so i certainly didn't need the things you might bring for early labor or amusement while on an epidural
they provided a gown for me and socks and a diaper, cap and receiving blanket for the baby. food for me was provided but not DH. the main things we needed were:
-phone card (can't use cell phone in hospital)
-going home clothes for me and baby
presumably your DH could handle the last two post-partum if need be, but you may want to have a phone card handy to call family.
best wishes for a wonderful home birth!!!