pft. at the risk of offending some of you lovely ladies, i just have to say FUCK THEM! i have dealt with this kind of CRAP for all of Rowan's life. Rowan was always and still is a big kid. at 2yo he was already pushing 40lbs. and 40". since then, he hasn't gained much weight but has gotten taller...so now he's about 43" and probably 41lbs. i have heard so much crap about him "never missing a meal". whatever. he had feeding issues and he DID miss almost EVERY meal because he gagged and threw everything up. never judge a book by its cover, that's for sure. my breastmilk alone was responsible for his tremendous size. and you know what?? brava to me!!!
ANYWAY - now my daughter is a chunk. i mean CHUNKA. LOL what made me anxious when my son was born (all the fat rolls) has made me absolutely giddy with pride this time around. babies are supposed to chunk up. it's their one and only job. they have ONE JOB and that is to get bigger and fatter. your son is a PRO!!! good for him!! he's roley poley perfection!!!
when rowan was getting all of the flak, i let it get to me bigtime. and i felt the need to make excuses. but thankfully, i have gotten WAY past that in time for me to not damage my son. i REFUSE to allow that kind of attitude in my life anymore, or in his. i do not make excuses for him anymore. when someone says "he never misses a meal, does he?" i don't feel the need to justfiy things and say "Well, actually, he does have a problem with food...etc" unless i feel like they need to be educated about something specifically. if it's a friend of mine i will go the extra mile and explain his issues. if it's a stranger i will just say something like "he is gorgeous, isn't he? stunning, really. i only wish that adults were able to feel so free and happy with their bodies as he does with his. it's beautiful to see in him."
i have owned my children's chunkiness. and i LOVE it. they are exquisite beauties who are so happy and joyful and scrumptious. my attitude about their weight will affect them FAR more in later years than their weight itself. so i have made the decision to NEVER let it be an issue in my own mind or in theirs.
i realize that i've probably gone overboard with my post, but i know what you might be in for if your child stays on the chunkier side. my advice is to let that go COMPLETELY. i'm not saying that YOU have an issue with your baby's weight, but i know how defensive you must feel when others say it. and the best thing i can suggest is to just let it rollll right off. combat their ignorance with the unabating pride you feel for your little boy. let them see you ADORING his rolls. LOVING his chunka chunk. he's doing EXACTLY what he's supposed to be doing. he's eating the PERFECT amount becuase HE does not have food issues. your family members do. babies are born with absolutely NO hangups. he has no idea it's not acceptable to eat 4 times in 4 hours. he knows he's hungry, so he eats. when he's not hungry, he doesn't eat. it's perfect and beautiful and we should be learning from HIM! can you imagine if we were able to regulate our eating based ONLY on hunger?? we'd all be our own body's ideal weight. LOL!!
and the next time your FIL reaches for a donut or a handful of chips or an extra serving at dinner, i'd look aghast and exclaim "oh, dad, SURELY you don't need ANOTHER serving! did you SEE the amount you ate the FIRST time around??" see how much he likes it.