Slings can be really hard to master, so don't feel bad!
A couple of tips:
Before you put him in the sling:
- Make sure the sling is not twisted behind your back
- pull on both sides of the tail where it comes through the rings to make sure that the fabric is evenly distributed and not twisted
- Make sure that the rings are not too high or too low on your shoulder, but in "brooch" position (i.e. where you would wear a brooch if you wore one!)
After you put him in the sling, in any position
- Check to make sure that the fabric is distributed widely across your back, not bunched or twisted again
To get him in nursing position
- Put him in the pocket of the sling with his feet outside of the sling on the ring side
- Then adjust it bit by bit, by pulling the fabric up near his head, and pulling/releasing the fabric through the rings until it feels good. (If the rings are on your left, for example, chances are the left part of the tail will correspond to the outside of the sling, and the right part will correspond to the inside of the sling that's against your body)
- Check the tension of the inside part of the sling by running your hand along your belly. Is it too loose? Pull it gently to pull the excess fabric around from your backside, then pull on the tail to bring up the the slack around your belly.
Those are some common things that I have finally figured out with baby number 2! Another thing I finally realized is that different slings are different to use to. I had a handmade sling but for DD sprung for a Maya Wrap and I can't believe how much easier to use the Maya Wrap is; it's a truly quality sling.
If you want to consider getting another carrier, you might like to consider two in particular.
1. a structured carrier. If you like the ease of use of the Bjorn, you might like the Ergo, for example. It has buckles and is REALLY comfortable and good for your back because it has waist support. I use this almost every day now. I nurse it it in the front carry position and also use it to carry her on my back.
2. A soft carrier, such as a Mai Tai. These take a slight bit more effort to put on because you tie them (instead of buckling). But a good Mai tai will be really comfortable for you and the baby and you can nurse in it too.
Two great sources of babywearing info that I always recommend are:http://wearyourbaby.org
- non-profit; videos and photo instructionshttp://www.peppermint.com
- online store, but they have LOTS of really great instructions and it is very educational too to look at all the different kinds of slings they have.
of course, there is http://www.thebabywearer.com
but that can be a bit overwhelming at times.
Hope this isn't too much info, but hope it helps.