Today I actually broke down and starting CRYING! My DH is a bad eater. He has some weird undiagnosed stomach thing, and he often doesn't feel like eating, or he skips meals, or he gets really picky about food. I used to try making breakfast for both of us, but I've given up on that. DH's parents are here now and they eat such crap. This morning, as DH was leaving for work, he didn't want breakfast and then my MIL was like "here, at least drink this"--orange sharbat, which, I'm not kidding, is like giving your child Kool-Aid for breakfast. I just started crying. a) my DH never gets me anything in the morning. He just doesn't think of it. b) my in-laws don't get me anything in the morning. They don't think it's their job. c) I was making my own food, and I feel like my MIL was trying to make a point that at least SHE was giving DH something. It's so irritating. They eat fried Indian snacks constantly, and it's just BAD for health, and since they've been here my DH has totally gotten back in that habit. And it all makes me really, really SAD because our girls are starting to eat, and this is what they observe. Dad drinking orange Kool-Aid for breakfast, then skipping dinner b/c his stomach is spoiled b/c he didn't eat anything all day.
And then there's the dining table.....we have a dining table but no chairs (this is b/c it used to be a desk in our former, larger apt.). So I asked DH if he could please either have a carpenter lower the table so we can use chairs we have, or get some cheap chairs. He was like "yeah, great idea!" then he never did it. I reminded several times, any more and I'll be nagging
so each night with his parents we have to sit on the floor, on the carpet I THOUGHT we bought for the babies to play. The carpet gets covered with crumbs from food and fried snacks, and while we eat K&A crawl around begging for food from our plates which are ON THE FLOOR! (I have nothing against eating on the floor, as most ppl do it here, but we have an easy alternative.) And by the way, theTV is on the whole time. DH prolly thinks it's weird how my family turns off the phone and TV during dinner, and we even have b'fast together, but i for one think it's great for kids.
I don't know if this is making much sense, and I don't know if there's much i can do, either. But I'm so upset. I hate seeing DH eat badly when we have the money and resources (we can afford a cook here!) to avoid that. And I hate that we are exposing K&A to bad ways of eating and sharing meal time. I'm just really irritated with the whole situation.....
Sorry if this is too much of a rant. i feel bad, because if DH read this, I think he'd be shocked and kind of insulted, but it's not a judgemental thing. I feel that I'm not doing the right thing for my husband and my children the way things are right now.