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#1 of 8 Old 08-25-2005, 04:14 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Would it be tacky to put a place on our registry letting people know if they want to donate finanically for our birth supplies, we'd like that?

Here's how I kind of have it worded now: "Since we are having a homebirth, the responsibility of buying some of the birth supplies falls to us. If you would like to help out financially, that would be wonderful too."

I figure since the whole point of the shower is to help us get supplies for the baby, it's not so bad. But, then I've never been the queen of proper etiquitte.
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It's not bad ettiquite. People ask for money at wedding showers all the time. Your wording sounds good. I think, considering I know more about your "baby wish list' and how it'sbeen received, that asking for money might actually get you somewhere. I'm actually pretty sure that with our holiday letter this year we'll ask for some kind of financial assistance from family/friends, though I'm not exactly sure how to word it yet. I don'tthink such a thing would be terribly il-received. In fact, it might givesome people a feeling of being part of the birth, having donated to it a little at least.

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I think it is great for the registry, but don't put it on invitations. Also, let the person giving the shower know. She can then point it out to people who ask what you need. She might also want a list of the birth supplies you need. After all, some people love making gift baskets, and birth supplies would be a great theme.

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As long as it is on the resgistry and not the invitation, than I think its ok. Otherwise if its stated on the invitation you sound a little....umm, greedy?
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Wow. A homebirth themed gift basket. What a great concept!

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I agree if the person hosting knows , and can relay it either as the registry or personally. A list of supplies needed would be great too -- as suggest some people might make gifts of them. I agree just as long as it 1. isn't yu asking, it the host suggesting, and 2. it is included with the rest of the registry stuff, not ont he invite.

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Right. This is going on the registry, not the invitation, but the link to the registry will likely be included on the invitation.
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I think as long as it is on the registry and not the invitation, it would be very acceptable. What a great idea!
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