Do you find yourself totally connected and bonded to this baby in utero like you were with your first? (if you weren't with your first, thats fine too.)
I'm finding myself thinking a lot more lately that I am not as well bonded as I was with my other two. With my first pregnancy, I was hanging on to every single detail. It seemed to drag on forever. I was VERY anxious to meet my baby. The second time, I was very excited as well. I talked to my belly and rubbed it a lot. My dh did as well. It was our first pregnancy and child together. (first baby was with my husband of my first marriage) So now dh and I are gestating baby #2. I'm noticing that its not as... special? No, thats not the right word. It is to us! But it seems that maybe having a 2 year old to chase around has taken some of the daydreaming and bonding away. Does that make any sense?
I find that I don't get a lot of time to rub my belly and dream like I did with the other two. I haven't even made any guesses as to hair color or anything yet. I'm realizing that in a few very short weeks, there will be a baby here! Will I be distant like I'm feeling now? I'm not depressed. I'm not uncaring. I'm just... tired and have less time. Will that translate into a mother who doesn't bond with her baby??
Though this is baby #3, I truelly am going from one child to two now. My oldest lives with her father half the time, so she is not in my home 24/7. This will be my first experience ever with having two children, at the same time!
Are these feelings normal? (wow that sounds so textbookish
Am I completly horrible because I feel not quite as connected as with the others?
This pregnancy has just been so diffcult physically. I have not been able to take a nap during the day, no.. not even once. To put my feet up, or to get a massage (oh that would be heavenly. I haven't gotten one of those either)... I guess I'm feeling typical "end of the pregnancy" stuff, but I'm wondering if I'm alone?