My DD is 16 month and though I love to spend time with her I need a loooong break(though I'll take just one full day) I've never been away from her for more than 4 hours and I just need some time alone.
Only problem is I'm still nursing during the day and she nurses right before bed time and right when she wake up. I think one day with out nursing should be ok. My husband could give her cows or goat's milk instead and though she would be a bit upset not to nurse before bedtime , but she normally falls asleep on her on.
any thoughts? Have any other nursing SAHM's gotten a full day (and night!) break?
My advice may not be appropriate for you. That's ok. You are just fine how you are and I am the right kind of me.
We, of course, are still nursing, but DH gave DD a bottle before bed. He said she went right to sleep, no problems. We have a family bed so they went to bed around the same time, and he swears she STTN. She was SO excited to see me the next day, showing off all her toys like I'd never seen them before. It was so worth it. I hope you get to take one night for yourself, it's like recharging your batteries!
Carrie SAHM to Nora Caitlyn ('08) and Finnley Dax ('11) homebirthing, breastfeeding, babywearing, intactivist, doula mama!
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AP Mom to 5
I hope you are able to take care of your needs somehow, even if you have to be creative!
Mommy to an exuberant 3 yo and a new one!
DS just turned 1. I don't think I'd try it until he's sleeping through the night and nursing a lot less. I've started fantasizing about it, though.
I'm leaving my 18 mo dd with my parents while I go on a trip with my dh. She still nurses about 3 times a day (and not during the night) and I'm going to try to get it down to about once per day before I go.
When she was 14 mo, I needed to be with my other dd in the hospital and left her for hours at a time, over normal feeding times, and she was totally fine. This time will be harder, leaving her overnight. I'm actually not as worried about her missing nursing...I'm more worried about her missing me. I wonder if she'll let grandma comfort her when she realizes that I'm not there. At home, when she wakes up in the night and dh tries to take care of her she throws HUGE fit. She goes right back to sleep for me. So....we'll have to see what happens.
Good luck to you! I think you should take your trip!
Don't let the idea of getting away for a break become more than it is in your head.
Remember that many people are away from their children all day every day. My DD started daycare at 19 months. She was exhausted when I picked her up, but entirely fine. She had been nursing multiple times a day at that time and nothing changes with that.
I did my first over night away from her at about that time too. She stayed with DH and did just fine.
The 12 month old was still nursing, but he took a bottle, and I knew he'd been fine. I was hospitalized for 5 days when he was 9 months old, and he was fine then, so that eased my fears.
Honestly? It was really nice to get away, but I'm not clamoring for it again or anything. I prefer smaller snippets of time here and there. I have been to 5 cooking classes (about 3 hours away) since the first of the year that are heavenly. On the weekends, I frequently go to the grocery store or library by myself. I've gone shopping all day a few times on a weekend. Last night, I let my almost 4 year old spend the night with grandma for the first time. These type of things refresh me more than a big 24 hour trip does.
Elizabeth wife to Matt , mom to Logan (2/21/01) , and little man Desmond (9/23/08)
Mourning the loss of her father: Robert Edward Dillon 5/31/52 - 01/03/2011
Mama to (DS 7) and (DD 5), wife to DH
I can't imagine 24 hours now, let alone at 16 months.
Mind you, without those occasional hours here and there, I'd NEED a 24 hour break.
I can honestly say that I have no strong desires to be away from the kids overnight, particularly without my DH. I do a "mom's night out" fairly regularly (maybe once a month?) and that seems to work to keep me sane. Also, my DH helps A LOT once he gets home from work every evening. Maybe more frequent, shorter breaks would help?
He has had one overnight at a friends house 2 months ago, but it was unplanned and his decision. (I stayed up all night waiting for the phone to ring to come pick him up. )
I don't really have much desire to spend the night apart though. I love having an evening out alone with DH every so often. And I need a few times per week where I get several hours to myself. But having one really long stretch doesn't mean much to me.
Midwife (CPM, LDM) and homeschooling mama to:
14yo ds 11yo dd 9yo ds and 7yo ds and 2yo ds
I think if I don't do it now I might lose my chance for a while and I just need to recharge. Plus...I'm actually going to pick up our car in Seattle as we are relocating, so I'm helping our family really . I'll just happen to stay over with my best girl friend for some me time.
I have to give it up for my DH who is willing to let me go for a bit...