I used to consider myself a SAHP when my kids were young, even though I kept myself busy working on a graduate degree from home, working part-time at various things, volunteering, etc. I LOVED being at home and being available for my kids the majority of the time. Now I have basically a career that I thought I would love (but don't anymore) that was supposed to be part time (3-4 days/week, home when the kids get home from school). I've been at this job for 2 years and I am so miserable! I feel I don't have enough energy or patience for my girls after school, I'm stressed out about getting dinner on the table, I miss lots of things I want to do (like volunteer meetings, kids' special events at school, going to the gym, cooking from scratch, seeing friends), and most importantly, I'm having a lot of issues with dd1, who is almost 13.
We could manage financially if I quit, but would definitely have to cut things out to make up for it. Dh would prefer not to have all the financial burden on his shoulders, but reluctantly supports me quitting if it would make me happier and help improve things with dd1.
I can't guarantee that me being a SAHP would solve the problems dd1 and I are having, but I do think that I would have more patience and be more willing to spend quality time with her if I wasn't overwhelmed with a job I hate.
For my happiness, I would definitely quit.
But I would like to get some perspective from other SAHP's with teens on how staying at home benefits them and your relationship with them. Or am I just justifying quitting for my own benefit and deluding myself that it will have any improved effect on our relationship?
(I made an appt to start seeing a family therapist to work on improving things with dd1, but if I quit, its an expense I can't really justify).
If you've read this far, thanks.
Mom to two daughters born in 1997 and 2000