My mother stayed at home until I went to school-she had to, because we had no money. She always resented my father for "making" her go to work. However, she didn't want to stay home to be with us kids-she never played with us, or helped us with homework... Mainly I remember her being on the phone all day, or having coffee with the neighbor or watching her soaps. If it was nice outside, my brother and I were expected to go out and play until the streetlights came on. Lots of times I was shipped over to my grandparents, who I preferred anyway. My grandmother was a SAHM after she got married, she had five kids. I loved spending time with her and my grandfather.
When I got older and my mother and father were at work full-time, I was a lonely kid. My brother went off to the Navy and I spent a lot of time at home by myself. By that time we had moved to a smaller town, and you had to drive everywhere, no parks or anything within walking distance and the roads were not bike friendly.
I always said that if I had kids, I would stay home with them and raise them. I personally believe that for me it is the best option, as I would feel awful putting them in daycare-which btw is financially not an option, since I would only be working to pay for the daycare...I agree that a happy mom is a good mom, I just don't think I would be happy working. I know a lot of working moms and they seem pretty harried to me- working all day and then going home to clean up, help with homework, make dinner, etc, and then running around all weekend to do errands and go to sporting events, recitals, whathaveyou. I don't see how anyone could be happy doing all that! I guess if you are a type A personality who doesn't like to relax, then it would be good. Besides, I can't stand office politics, ugh, I would rather deal with a toddler than an adult who acts like one..DH is totally supportive of me staying home. Whenever the subject comes up, and I suggest going back when DD is in school, he just shrugs-he wants to homeschool, but I am not entirely sold on it yet. His mom stayed at home until his dad forced her to work-she started her own business, which never made much money, not that they needed it, since he is an engineer, and a very good one.. I think he just wanted her to work because he felt she was "lazy", which she is not. She feels resentful that he made her work, because she actually was a hands-on mom and wanted to be there for the kids.
SAHM living on the beautiful Eastern Shore with my husband the car nut , and bebe Eleanor, born 9/16/09 plus two kitties!