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Old 10-18-2010, 05:02 PM
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Mine's gone from about 8AM-8PM on the good days. Sometimes he doesnt get home till 10. By the time he gets in Im done putting the kids to bed and Im wearing the baby while loading the dishwasher or starting laundry.

Im really mad at him today, so I'll add.
Then he sits down and relaxes with the meal I cooked and had to eat standing while bouncing baby. He then turns on the tv and complains how tired he is while I finish kitchen and laundry and get ready for a night of nursing every two hours.
When Im not mad at him this doesnt bother me so much, but I am seeing red right now. Oh new thread I think!
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Old 10-19-2010, 02:06 AM
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12 hours is the norm 5 days and then he works one day over the weekend. That is the good times. When it is crazy he either works till 10 or later sometimes coming home for dinner sometimes not and then he also has to work all weekend.

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it really varies by where he is on a project. crunch time means he's leaving for work at about 7 am and coming home at 7, 8, 9pm (or even later, for a couple of days near the end of a project). we haven't had a serious crunch time since the baby was born, thankfully. not looking forward to that by myself. most weeks things are pretty flexible for him... he usually leaves around 8 or 9am and is home by 6pm, but if he needs to go in later, leave earlier or take a couple hours off during the day, he can.

one thing i'm looking forward to next year is moving very close to his office. his commute is only about 45 min by public transit, but we are hoping to move about 5 min away so we can see him during lunch, etc.
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Old 10-19-2010, 11:34 AM
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Wow. Everyone's parnters work such long hours! I suppose mine should be a little more thankful?

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We just moved so that my dh only has a 30 minute commute, which is HUGE and wonderful (he did have an hour+ depending on traffic).

He leaves around 6am, and he gets home about 5:00, so 11 hours, 5 days a week. The funny thing is that he totally thinks of himself working 50 hours a week as being "daddy tracked" and taking it easy while we have little ones at home. I can't say that I ever felt the need to work that much. LOL
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normally, about 10.5-11 hours M-F. He's on call 24/7/365 though unless he's on leave, since he's Active Duty Air Force and due to the nature of his job.

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Normal hours (best case scenario) are 8am til 5pm, with a 45 min commute each way.
Usual hours are 8am til 6pm, with a 45 min commute each way.
However, crunch time is coming, and will be coming for the next 1-2 years, and DH will be working probably the same hours, but also including Saturdays and possibly Sundays as well. Neither of us is looking forwards to it.

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Old 10-19-2010, 11:26 PM
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It depends...he doesn't have set hours being active duty military. Currently, he's deployed so he's gone every hour of everyday for the next few months. Usually from 6:30 am to anywhere from 1 pm to 6 pm when in home port. Depends on what is going on at work on the ship.

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Old 10-19-2010, 11:36 PM
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well im the wohp. i get OT at one job and working FT for a couple months at my other job. so 110 hours a week im gone. 70 of those hours are overnights though.
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10 hours a day (including drive time), 5-6 days a week.

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Old 10-20-2010, 11:38 AM
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Gone at work? Well, he leaves at 8am and returns at 5:30pm, so that's 9.5 hours a day.

But working? He works at home every evening... so from 8pm to 12 or 1am. So that's 5 more hours a day. When he works at home it is *much* harder for me because I have to keep the girls out of his way and quiet.

And then most weeks he has at least one, often more, evening meetings at work. So that's about 2 hours a pop.

So, my guess is that he works at best 13 hours a day, often more like 16.

It sucks.
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He works generally 8:30 to 4:30/5:00, M-F, with a 15-20 minute commute by bike (longer if he takes the bus). One night a week he teaches a university course after work and gets home around 9:30. He usually has to stay up late 2-3 nights a week to get work done, but hopefully that'll change once this semester is over.

We feel fortunate that his commute is so reasonable, and it's a big part of why we live where we do.
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The title, says it all.
12-14 hours a day, Mon-Fri.

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Old 10-20-2010, 03:12 PM
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He leaves at about 9:00am and gets home at 4:30pm, so about 7 1/2 hours out of home M-F. In exchange for these hours though, DP does some work from home in the evenings when necessary.

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Old 10-21-2010, 12:00 AM
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DH works from "8-5" but he works a little ways out of town and can't come home for lunch so he's actually gone from about 7:30am-5:30 or 6 pm, Monday through Friday. I almost wish he worked a first or second shift (and so does he) so he'd be home more during Piper's waking hours but it is what it is! I know it could be worse.

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Old 10-21-2010, 03:10 PM
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My hubby is gone 12 hour a day. Usually he can work from home 2 days a week, and only be 'gone' for 10 hours, but he just got a promotion and it is requiring he be in to train new hires, so it looks like we'll be lucky to have one day a week that he can work at home.

Honestly, it is very had for me to be alone so much, we're relatively new to the area, and we share one car, hubby drives into work 1-2 times a week and takes the bus the rest of the time. The bus commute is 1 hour each way, and driving is 45 minutes, so it doesn't make a huge difference when he takes the car. The one redeeming factor is that hubby makes a very nice salary after this promotion, so it doesn't feel totally 'sour' knowing how much he is making.

I think having two cars is going to make things easier, but we really want to pay off student loans before taking on another car payment, and we are also committed to getting an electric vehicle as our next car and would like to wait a couple of years for there to be more options then just the Nissan Leaf.

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Dh is a pilot so he is gone a lot. His schedule goes month to month and it really varies. He will usually be gone from 2 to 4 days at a time, then a few days off in between. His commute to/from the airport is about 3 hours, depending on traffic/weather. He's really beat when he gets home from work. Next month, though, he will be doing a new route (with more days off) - he'll do two 3-day trips, one 4-day trip, and two 1-day trips. He may pick up an extra trip or two, but we're really looking forward to seeing more of him. On his days off from work, he works at a home business... So he is always busy.

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When he isnt working over time he is gone for 9 hours counting the drive time. But is home on the weekend. When he is working overtime he is gone 13 hours counting drive time plus 8 hours on Sat. and up to 6 on Sunday.

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Old 10-21-2010, 04:19 PM
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Mon/Wed/Fri it's anywhere from 11-12 hours (depending on if his supervisors decide to let them go on time or keep them late)

On Tues/Thurs he has class so he's away from home closer to 14 hours.

We only have the one car and DS hates it when Daddy leaves so we usually don't get up to see him off...we also don't really know anyone outside of DH's work so it's really just me all that time...

Wow, it's kind of depressing to see it typed out...

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generally out by 8am and home at 6.30pm - an hour earlier on fridays. the commute is 20 min by car, or 30min by bus. he usually doesn't do more work after he gets home.

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He works from home so his schedule is flexible but he works 7 days a week! Nice having him close though to help with our 4 girls.
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Old 10-22-2010, 02:22 PM
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My husband is military so he works a LOT. He leaves here normally around 5am to beat traffic and because he's the boss so he needs to get ready what needs to be done for the day. Then gets home around 6:30pm. Until they go out to sea. Then he's gone anywhere from 7-9 months. With a few 2 week "trips" with the command not on a ship and a couple more of 2 week to 1 month deployments to get ready for another long deployment. So yeah, we're single parents most of the time. Some weekends are thrown in there for good measure too which are another FULL working day. Every now and then (like 2-4 total all year) are half days (which is still around 2pm instead of lunch time. LOL. )

I think it would be easier to just say "all the time".

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Monday to Friday he leaves around 6 am, home around 6:30 pm. On the weekends he sometimes does construction/reno-y work for friends/family, and so will be gone at least all of one day, and sometimes even part of the other. At least now with the Fall weather we'll see him a bit more....
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Old 10-22-2010, 06:16 PM
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it depends usually 8-10 hours 5 days a week, but more often then not it is 10. but his drive time is like 8 minutes.


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Old 10-24-2010, 04:32 AM
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um..24. He's deployed in Afghanistan so it's all me...all the time until aug of 11

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depends... for the 1st month of each quarter, it's about 9 1/2 hours (that includes drive time), 5 days a week, for a 40 hour work week. He leaves about 6:30am and gets home just before 4pm. But usually the next month months he works overtime - which could be 50+ hours working a week (5am - 3:30pm). Ex - because of a shippment they needed to get out - DH worked from 3am - 5pm on Friday, and then from 7am - 4pm today.. and who knows what next week will bring... but the closer to the end of the quarter they get - the more he works to get work done and shipped out on time (he does testing of pressed circuit boards for electrionical compents for military and hospital grade equipment).

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