any one suck at keeping their house clean?? - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
Reply
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 32 Old 11-21-2010, 05:06 PM - Thread Starter
 
forumyonly1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Mesa, AZ
Posts: 515
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

i'm feeling like a crappy mom/wife/person right now... i had a really hard time keeping my house clean.. i have 4 kids (oldest is 5 1/2 and has autism.. and youngest is 2 months) i feel like to keep up on my house i would have to clean all day every day... literally... dh and i will spend 3-4+ hours getting ready for company to come over and that's just to get all the main areas clean clean... our bedroom and the kids bedrooms will still be a disaster... ugh..  i'd like some help/support/advice...... please?!?!


Amanda~ mommy to Brayden (06/05), Noah (08/07), Alex (11/08), Lucy (09/10) and Kara (10/12)
forumyonly1 is offline  
#2 of 32 Old 11-21-2010, 07:03 PM
 
pearl2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Posts: 736
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Pop in on the decluttering forum. I could lurk in there for hours. There's a thread right now about being overwhelmed and not knowing where to start. 

 

Flylady and Motivated Moms are 2 programs that some people find really helpful. Flylady talks about the CHAOS syndrome--Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome. 

 

And basic decluttering really does help, as knowing that most SAHPs don't keep a house like you see on the Clorox commercials! Ha!


Mama to 2 little darling squooshy faces
pearl2 is offline  
#3 of 32 Old 11-22-2010, 06:05 AM
 
waiting2bemommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: buried under laundry
Posts: 1,956
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Me! me! *raises hand wildly*

 

I like to have a clean house but I really suck at it. It is one of the points of tension in my relationship with my SO actually. He feels like he can do it, so I should eb able to also. He misses a few kepy points, one beign that I actually play with the kids, not jus set them in front of the TV to clean. This takes up more of my time. 2, i cook meals, usually with both kids clamoring for my attention, and they are "real" meals and not frozen pizza. If i gnored the kids all day and fed them junk food tit would probably enable me to keep the house cleaner.

 

thirdly, I have a bit of an internet addiction. redface.gif I'm working on that. MDC seems slower since the format change so that helps, lol.

 

things that I've learned from flylady which helpme:

DO IT NOW. take the extra 30 seconds to clean up as you go along.

shine your sink. It sounds crazy, but the shine your sink concept helps me because once the sink is shiny and empty I feel motivated to wipe the counters, declutter the table, etc.

 

the thinkg I love most about flylady is that she always says "you're not behind. just jump in wherever you are." sometimes the gult/embarrassment around how our house looks or doesn't look can be immobilizing. knowing that it's not the end of the world, other people have the same problem, and you don't have to do it all right this minute makes it easier to take baby steps toward the end goal of a clean house.


Very blessed mama to one bouncin' boy bouncy.gif (12/07) one angel3.gif who didn't get to stay (6/09), one potty learning, mess making divaenergy.gif(4/10), and one cheerful milk monster. aabfwoman.gif (12/11) Happy partner to the love of my lifedp_malesling.GIF.  

waiting2bemommy is offline  
#4 of 32 Old 11-22-2010, 06:42 AM
 
AFWife's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Texas
Posts: 5,214
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I know your post isn't meant to be funny. But I cracked up when I read the title....because it is SO ME RIGHT NOW!

 

I loved this:
 

Quote:
Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy View Post

the thinkg I love most about flylady is that she always says "you're not behind. just jump in wherever you are." sometimes the gult/embarrassment around how our house looks or doesn't look can be immobilizing. knowing that it's not the end of the world, other people have the same problem, and you don't have to do it all right this minute makes it easier to take baby steps toward the end goal of a clean house.


 

Check out my thread in this section (the one about why Bree drank) and there are some great tips.


Kas (24), Helpmeet to Stefan (25), Mom to Franklin Gaudelio 4/15/09, Jonathan Boswell 1/2/11
AFWife is offline  
#5 of 32 Old 11-22-2010, 10:41 AM
 
AbbieB's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Florida
Posts: 2,279
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I suck at it. It's been my goal for oh, 7 years now (the age of my first and the number of years as a SAHM) to be good at it.

 

I find I am getting better and I make progress, but then something happens (holidays, illness, travel, new baby) and my progress takes a step back. I am not hard on myself about it though. I know that what is most important is happy kids and a happy mom so that takes priority. I have no problem leaving a mess to go take advantage of a fine day at the park or to go to the zoo or aquarium. I have also seen a pattern, when a child reaches the magic age of 3 it suddenly becomes easier to make a progress. I guess I am able to move some of my energy from the intense early years of parenting onto other things like cleaning and organizing.

 

I am finding the key to hanging onto progress is less stuff and living a simpler life. It is sometimes painful to let go of clutter and make room for everything to have a designated place, but it is the solution for me. I find that the feeling of freedom I get from the taking big step of letting go of "stuff" to be well worth the pain of the process.

 

I'm also finding that I need to be very honest and practical about my own hangups and way of being. That means that the vacuum needs to live close to the living room so it will be used regularly and put away when I'm done, keeping it down the hall, in another room's closet just doesn't work. I need to keep a trash can in the living room to quickly pick up all of the paper and trash that seems to breed there. I can't stack things, somehow the extra step of lifting to get to something makes putting the thing away when I'm done too much. I have to have lots of shelves in my linen closet so I don't have to stack piles of linens and towels. I can just stack one set together or only have a stack of 4 towels, rather than tall stacks that are easily disheveled when you reach for something in the middle. Same for the kitchen. Only there buckets or bins work in the cabnets rather than stacks. (Sounds crazy, but it's true for me.) I have to minimize surfaces, because shelves and tables collect clutter. Strangely, cabinets or shelving with doors does not. I started arranging all of my clothes in my closet by color rather than by type and it made it easier to put clothing away and find it again (this works for books and DVDs too). I have hooks by the front door to hang up diaper bags, purses, jackets, etc... We recently rearranged the furniture in our living room and put all 3 of the kids toy strange units together, in a line, like it's one piece of furniture. I can't even begin to tell you how much better/easier it is than having the 3 toy storage units even slightly apart. Little simple changes in how I do things, changes that would not seem to be that big of a deal, have made all the difference. I don't really know why this is, but it is.

 

Hang in there mama. It will bet better/easier. You have your hands very full with a new baby and a child with special needs. Your kids need you to be focused on them right now, the house will still be there when they are older and are less intense about there needs. (FWIW I do understand. I have a 7 year old that is very spirited, enough so that I often wonder if she has mild SPD, and a 3 year old with Ds that was just diagnosed with leukemia. Homemaking is not at the top of my list for where to focus my energy everyday.)

 

PS It helps to have everyone, especially DH, on board with your goal to make the house more organized and clean. Nothing makes me feel more defeated than trying to implement a change to make thing easier than to have others, *ahem, DH, ahem*, not follow through with the change.


One happy momma joy.gif to a very spirited little girl dust.gif, her tough little brother superhero.gif, and a happy little suprise late April 2012 stork-suprise.gif. Wife to an overworked and under paid husband geek.gif.

AbbieB is offline  
#6 of 32 Old 11-23-2010, 06:04 AM - Thread Starter
 
forumyonly1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Mesa, AZ
Posts: 515
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

thanks ladies! i appreciate the help!! i will go check out those other forums in a bit!

 

decluttering is a huge problem for me... we just moved back to az from alaska and we had to downsize..... and we had too much stuff for our house up there to handle... the problem is my dh has a REALLY hard time when i try to get rid of things... and it doesn't help that he doesnt mind coming home to a mess..

 

do it now is probably the thing i am worst at.. the last thing i feel like doing after i eat is cleaning the kitchen.. and my kids are so little i dont get much of a break!

 

*sigh* oh well i'll figure it out some day.... probably when the kids are out of the house and i dont have 6 people to clean up after!!


Amanda~ mommy to Brayden (06/05), Noah (08/07), Alex (11/08), Lucy (09/10) and Kara (10/12)
forumyonly1 is offline  
#7 of 32 Old 11-23-2010, 06:06 AM
 
sosurreal09's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: USA
Posts: 3,446
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

oh hey i SUCK lol i clean all freaking day but somehow my house is trashed...


 Young born-again mama and loving wife peace.gif to DH jammin.gif and SAHP to two crazy girls dust.gifwehomebirth.jpgfly-by-nursing2.gifslinggirl.giffamilybed1.gif and believe gd.giflactivist.gif  signcirc1.gif !

sosurreal09 is offline  
#8 of 32 Old 11-23-2010, 06:16 AM
 
earthmama369's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Connecticut
Posts: 6,989
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

That's me! I'd blame it on the crippling disability, but really, I've never been good at it. It's just not an overwhelming interest of mine; I can always find something more fun to do than clean. ;)

 

I'm getting better though. I can actually blame the disability for that. It's slowed me down a lot and I find it very difficult to get anything done some days, but because I use canes, I NEED to keep the floor clear. And for my sanity and to maximize what I can get done when I'm having a good day, I need to have the house be more organized and less cluttered. So I've gone on a major decluttering spree this year, aiming for 2010 items in 2010. Almost there! I've switched up how I do a few chores to stay on top of them and keep things organized.

 

The house still isn't a showcase of clean by any means, and some days it's downright messy, but overall it's better. Onward and upward is my motto!

earthmama369 is offline  
#9 of 32 Old 11-23-2010, 06:19 AM
 
nola79's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: chocolate city
Posts: 1,926
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I suck at it, horribly! I can clean the entire house one day and the next it's trashed. I'm just not organized and that contributes to a lot of it. Oh, yeah, and I'm lazy, too. hide.gif

nola79 is offline  
#10 of 32 Old 11-23-2010, 04:18 PM
 
MrsBone's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: Oak Point, TX
Posts: 1,184
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I used to be really good at keeping a clean house, but since having kids, it just seems pointless some days! You know? You know that if you clean top to bottom, the next day it's going to be trashed again, so why do it? That's why I just have a minimum cleanliness level I like to keep. Toilets need to be clean for hygiene reasons, laundry needs to be kept up with, diapers washed, counters wiped, and rooms picked up at the end of the day. Floors getting mopped has fallen way low on my list since having a kiddo. Dirty mirrors can go for weeks, sticky cabinets, windows, tables, etc can be put off. It helps me keep some level of sanity without getting obsessive compulsive about cleaning. I'm definitely more of "neat" person and less of a "germaphobe" So the house can be dirty but still be neat.


DH(9/04) DS(12/08) and DD(5/11)

MrsBone is offline  
#11 of 32 Old 12-15-2010, 05:48 PM
 
RPGamingGirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: SW MO
Posts: 16
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I tell myself that if the house is clean enough for company 1 day a week, i'm doing alright.  With kids in the house, it's not until it gets to the point that it 'can't' be cleaned that you have a real problem ;)

RPGamingGirl is offline  
#12 of 32 Old 12-16-2010, 10:26 AM
 
lonegirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Toronto and Sault Ste Marie
Posts: 1,637
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

LOL I am glad to have seen this thread....it means I am not alone.  We have too much stuff....I find that every flat surface is used to put stuff (not hoarders bad of course-just cluttered).  I  find with the hardwood floors I am sweeping multiple times a day....old house and 2 cats=lots of dustbunnies.  It seems that I get the kitchen spotless in time to make the next meal.  The sitting room is also the toy room....well that is a lost cause.  I clean the baathroom regularly and with a little boy and a husband who decides not to put his glasses on in the middle of the night I am constantly wiping up accidents....grrrr plus I am to blame too as I would rather put off til tomorrow.


PAT- photosmile2.gif Mommy to a super little boy kid.gif Tyr -Nov 17, 2006 Married to joy.gif Sky -August 28, 1993 
Sadly, Jan 21, 2011  m/c 6w5d  angel.gif
lonegirl is offline  
#13 of 32 Old 12-16-2010, 05:39 PM
 
mom2happy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Posts: 992
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

 I'm not so great at it. I wouldnt say I suck, but it's definitely not easy for me. I had to answer your post though.

You are being WAY too hard on yourself. You have 4 kids, 5 years old and younger!!

If everyone is fed, loved, their bodies are relatively clean and clothed (even in pajamas), you are doing a great job.

mom2happy is offline  
#14 of 32 Old 12-17-2010, 07:21 AM
 
AFWife's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Texas
Posts: 5,214
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)


Quote:
Originally Posted by mom2happy View Post

 I'm not so great at it. I wouldnt say I suck, but it's definitely not easy for me. I had to answer your post though.

You are being WAY too hard on yourself. You have 4 kids, 5 years old and younger!!

If everyone is fed, loved, their bodies are relatively clean and clothed (even in pajamas), you are doing a great job.



This is what I'm REALLY trying to come to terms with before I give birth...It's been hard on me to take care of a spirited toddler and be pregnant. There are days where I think, "He's fed, he's playing happily (by making a mess), and I did one chore today (dishes usually). Day = Success." There are days my son wears his PJ shirt all day long. Or just goes naked (we're PLing) If nothing else it cuts down on laundry!


Kas (24), Helpmeet to Stefan (25), Mom to Franklin Gaudelio 4/15/09, Jonathan Boswell 1/2/11
AFWife is offline  
#15 of 32 Old 12-17-2010, 10:18 AM
 
RPGamingGirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: SW MO
Posts: 16
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Aw heck, most days i wear pajamas all day long, never mind what the kids are wearing lol!

 

But seriously, the best encouragement i ever got was from a childless older man; he told me that being a mom was work enough, and keeping my kids happy was far more important than keeping the house pristine.  Of course that was something i had (obviously) decided for myself, but it was nice to hear it from an un-invested third party.

RPGamingGirl is offline  
#16 of 32 Old 12-20-2010, 03:39 PM
 
maisiedotes's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: Central MA
Posts: 2,962
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

My mother in law likes to tell me the story of how my father in law came home from work one day and said "what do you DO all day?? This house is a mess!" and she said "do you want a clean house, or children who are alive?"  (my DH and his brother were holy terrors and needed CONSTANT attention and are only 11 months apart). 

 

My house is usually a disaster.  I blame alot of it on DH.  He comes in the door and puts his jacket on the back of a chair, throws work papers on the kitchen table, and kicks his shoes off wherever.  I really can't stand to pick up after him so sometimes I just leave it and see if he picks it up, which he never does.

 

I started cleaning the kitchen after dinner because it is SO much nicer to wake up to a clean kitchen, and me and DD pick up the toys before DH gets home.  Thats about all I can say about our clean-up routine... the bathrooms get cleaned once a week and the beds are never made.  And the laundry is another story altogether...

 

I need motivated moms. 


Kerri, mom to Doran  angel2.gif  (born still 7/6/05 at 33 weeks), Mairaed (11/16/07),  angel1.gif 11/15/08 at 10 weeks,  Kieran (11/2/09).   angel1.gif 1/11/11 at 15 weeks
maisiedotes is offline  
#17 of 32 Old 12-20-2010, 08:40 PM
 
AFWife's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Texas
Posts: 5,214
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I'm currently blaming the mess on: a 20mo, being 9mo pregnant, and we're moving. So there! lol

 

Seriously, though. We don't have a lot of "stuff" but we also don't have enough space in this stupid apt. The closet space is crazy limited. I'm looking forward to moving (and I usually don't like to move) because I'll be able to put stuff away as we move in and then develop a system. (That's the plan anyway)


Kas (24), Helpmeet to Stefan (25), Mom to Franklin Gaudelio 4/15/09, Jonathan Boswell 1/2/11
AFWife is offline  
#18 of 32 Old 01-07-2011, 07:10 AM
 
FoxintheSnow's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Location: nak
Posts: 5,976
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My house used to be a lot tidier, but my 2 year old is a tornado. I don't know what to do with her. I'm cleaning up one mess, while she's making another. I can't even take a shower without her getting into something and messing up the house.

Mother of 3, welcomed a new baby girl July 2011

FoxintheSnow is offline  
#19 of 32 Old 01-16-2011, 08:32 PM
 
Drewsmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Naples, FL
Posts: 1,524
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

OH thank you for your post.  I was coming on to say the *exact* same thing but our kids are: 9, 7 and 3 so you have a much better excuse.  I just have some friends whose houses are constantly clean and organized and I seriously wonder how in the world they do it?

Drewsmom is offline  
#20 of 32 Old 01-17-2011, 11:56 AM
 
snadaska's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: northern CO
Posts: 159
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

um yes. i can't even says it because im a parent. i have always had trouble keeping things neat and tidy. i have been working on keeping things tidier. 

snadaska is offline  
#21 of 32 Old 02-09-2011, 06:10 AM
 
Zimbah's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: England
Posts: 263
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)


Quote:

Originally Posted by forumyonly1 View Post

 

decluttering is a huge problem for me... we just moved back to az from alaska and we had to downsize..... and we had too much stuff for our house up there to handle... the problem is my dh has a REALLY hard time when i try to get rid of things... and it doesn't help that he doesnt mind coming home to a mess..

 


Just on the decluttering, one option if your DH hates getting rid of things, admittedly it's a bit underhand.  If you've got a box of stuff that you haven't opened since moving, and you know it's stuff you don't actually need, can you go out without DH knowing and take it to the charity shop/tip/wherever you go to get rid of stuff?  Or, put some things into a box and if he doesn't notice for some time, then dump them without telling him.  Chances are he won't remember you had all the stuff in the first place, or if he does you can blame it on things going missing during the move.

 

This might not be possible though given how busy you must be with the children.  I say this based on the fact that I moved house nearly a year ago and we are still missing things that we definitely had - now I haven't dumped them and I know DH hasn't, but they don't seem to be here! So it's easy to see that things get lost during a move.

 

Obviously there would come a point where he'll notice but it might help a bit with those odd things that you know are useless.

 

More generally, my house is still an absolute tip since moving in (which like I said, is nearly a year ago now!!) and I only have one DD aged 2.3, currently preg with DD2 and hoping that we'll get organised before she's born but probably a little unlikely.

Zimbah is offline  
#22 of 32 Old 02-09-2011, 06:35 AM
 
AFWife's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Texas
Posts: 5,214
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)


Quote:
Originally Posted by Zimbah View Post



Quote:

Originally Posted by forumyonly1 View Post

 

decluttering is a huge problem for me... we just moved back to az from alaska and we had to downsize..... and we had too much stuff for our house up there to handle... the problem is my dh has a REALLY hard time when i try to get rid of things... and it doesn't help that he doesnt mind coming home to a mess..

 


Just on the decluttering, one option if your DH hates getting rid of things, admittedly it's a bit underhand.  If you've got a box of stuff that you haven't opened since moving, and you know it's stuff you don't actually need, can you go out without DH knowing and take it to the charity shop/tip/wherever you go to get rid of stuff?  Or, put some things into a box and if he doesn't notice for some time, then dump them without telling him.  Chances are he won't remember you had all the stuff in the first place, or if he does you can blame it on things going missing during the move.



Not as underhand but the same concept: Put a bunch of the junk in a box and hide it for 3 months. Write the date you put it away on the box. After 3 months sit DH down and show him "Look at all of the stuff we have that we didn't even miss"

*bejeweled* likes this.

Kas (24), Helpmeet to Stefan (25), Mom to Franklin Gaudelio 4/15/09, Jonathan Boswell 1/2/11
AFWife is offline  
#23 of 32 Old 02-13-2011, 03:09 PM
 
Amys1st's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2003
Posts: 8,449
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

any one suck at keeping their house clean??

 

No, not at all. Its just my family is really really bad at making it messy and dirty.


"The true joy of life is the trip. The station is only a dream. It constantly out distances us."
Amys1st is offline  
#24 of 32 Old 02-14-2011, 11:42 AM
 
The Imp and I's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Way Down South but Still the states!
Posts: 20
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I totally suck at cleaning. Well no thats not true. I'm really good at doing what has come to be called, by my family,  'the white tornado'. Which means i have just been told company is coming. I'm also good at cleaning vacant houses and stables. I am not a house keeper. I just don't care enough to stay up late and do it. I hate dishes and laundry and vaccuming. i do not find it satisfying. I do like a clean house though. right now i'm going to choose sanity and hang the dishes though. I told my husband i signed on as a mother and a wife, I have a job title of SAHM. the 'H' is for home not "house-scutt"winky.gif

The Imp and I is offline  
#25 of 32 Old 02-21-2011, 07:34 AM
 
hippiemum21580's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: a persistant vegetarian state
Posts: 682
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Lets see....I have five little boys, three of whom are home with me all day, a one year old, three year old and five year old. As well as I babysit for a 2 month old girl. this means, I am teaching them very young to take responsibilty around the home and HELP out so I am not running myself ragged. but it also means if I don't have a spotless house then I need to relax cuz some things are more important. Organization is key for me. Having one specific spot for shoes, keeping all coats hung in their spots by the door, etc..... helps cut down on time consumption that comes from searching for stuff.....like missing socks, etc.... And teaching my boys to PUT THINGS IN THEIR PLACE!!!! That being said, the belief that SAHMs are home all day so why cant they keep a clean home........UGH!!!!! there are far more things involved than just house cleaning!

hippiemum21580 is offline  
#26 of 32 Old 02-21-2011, 06:50 PM
 
angela67j's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 28
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I have battled with keeping my area clean my whole life. I was the one with the locker in school crammed full of god knows what!!

I have a new friend....cordless vacuum! She is awesome. I can't believe I lived without her for so long. It picks up the crackers and dust bunnies misc stuff found on floors even cleans up my rugs in a jiff you don't have to deal with a cord its kind of soothing too to run it and see how much stuff you swept up! So much better then a broom smile.gif
angela67j is offline  
#27 of 32 Old 02-21-2011, 09:37 PM
 
azhita's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 3
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Ha, everyone must be feeling the pinch today!  I just wrote a blog post about this very subject this morning.  Check it out if you wish:

 

http://azhita.blogspot.com/2011/02/oh-futility-of-it-all.html 

 

I struggle with this daily.  If you're not right on top of it, it turns into a shambles in minutes.  Sigh.

azhita is offline  
#28 of 32 Old 02-22-2011, 04:45 AM
 
Greenhouse's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Lake District, UK
Posts: 4
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Hello

 

I am new here and you are the reason that I joined - I read your post through a link via twitter (I imagine because of my line of business cleaning related articles are sent but must admit to not being knowledgeable on twitter etc).

 

Anyway, I read your post and I just wanted to reassure you that from time to time we can all feel a little crappy - the 'could try harder' thing from school.  I think that perspective is lost here - you have done the most amazing thing in the world, not once but four times!  Huge pat on the back from the rest of the world (come on, think about it, how lucky are we, take it down to what you have done, harboured and nurtured for so many months - it is just mindblowing when you think of the process).  Now your family is here and they need your attention almost constantly, you forget about you, and everything but everything else comes first - you do the basics, we need to eat and use the bathroom but apart from that it is children, children, children and that is absolutely what you have to do - housework (I am assuming here we aren't talking rats and roaches, lice and mange- in which case we would need to revisit!) can be so down your list of priorities - the role you are playing now is far more important.

 

Some jobs have to be done on a daily basis, have to have to - but know that this situation will get easier - for goodness sakes you have a 2 month old baby, your hormones are flying, your sleep is disrupted, be kind to yourself.

 

The company coming over which requires hours of cleaning - are they coming to see the state of your house?  No I imagine they are coming to see you and your lovely family.  If they have children themselves they are likely to understand and if they haven't well crikey give them some of your laundry to do and get them to put the kettle on for you!

 

If I were closer I would fetch you over some lovely home baked meals, blast through your house (making games out of the chores with any child up for it) and then we could sit and chat.

 

I want to thank you for your post and wish you all the luck, realise what is important, what can wait and what can be done by others - which in the future (and they do grow up so quickly) you will be able to do for others in a similar situation - all of us can recognise aspects of your post I am sure.

 

Perhaps your situation is already a lot different I note you first posted last year - look at how your baby will have developed during that time!

 

Gill

Greenhouse is offline  
#29 of 32 Old 02-22-2011, 04:49 AM
 
Greenhouse's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Lake District, UK
Posts: 4
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Oh and in response - no I do not suck at keeping my house clean but then I feel that I am a bit unusual in that I clean when I am stressed, I clean if I am happy, I clean if I am unhappy - I genuinely really enjoy cleaning.

 

Dull women have immaculate houses. A fridge magnet one of the kids bought for me!

 

Gill

Greenhouse is offline  
#30 of 32 Old 02-22-2011, 08:39 AM
 
asraidevin's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Alberta, Canada
Posts: 169
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I suck. Itès way more interesting to crochet, sew, write, play with the baby, play on the computer then to do dishes and fold laundry.

applecider and angela67j like this.

I was off to save the world, but I got distracted by something shiny.
asraidevin is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off