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#1 of 2 Old 12-07-2010, 10:08 AM - Thread Starter
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I have four little ones under six.  The oldest goes to our neighborhood school, and the 4 year old goes half days twice weekly.  I am home with my two year old and six month old sons, and I want to enjoy them so badly, but I just dread filling the long days.  It's very hard for me to get out, and my husband works an odd shift (noon to 10pm), so I have long evenings.  We have recently moved and have no family nearby.  I am feeling down and lonely, jealous of my husband's quiet commute to work and his freedom (going for a run, playing tennis with a work pal).  When I am home, I am surrounded by laundry and dishes and can't seem to get on top of things!   I feel I need to get a break -- a feeling I never wanted to have -- and yet I can't imagine when I'd do that with a nursing baby, or what I would even want to do if given the time, particularly w/o a sister or dear friend nearby.  It's hard to imagine I could feel lonely with all of these little ones around!  We were homeschooling last year, and I felt like I had more purpose...  now there is still much to do, but I feel like I am wandering.  


Any tips for this difficult time?  I had some baby blues after my second daughter was born, and I am beginning to feel as I did then, but I want to avoid medications, of course.  



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Hi Mama, I have 4 little ones and have the same thing going on to some degree... too busy to do anything, but needing to do something.  Can you use meetup to hook up with a group of people?  Do you have a hobby you can force yourself to take part in on the weekends, when hubby can watch the kids?  Even if it is for 45 minutes? 


Can you find another paretn through the school to swap baby sitting, so you can volunteer at your kids' school? 


Just some ideas.... I think that it is good to get out even for a walk every day.  Can you go for a walk in the AM before your DH goes to work?  That way you can get some fresh air and exercise... and get away from the dishes and laundry...

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