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Monotony at times was terrible in the first two to three years. Terrible!

My kids are four and six now and it gets so much less boring because they talk, are interested in listening to cool chapter books, can play cards and checkers, can hike in the woods etc etc

I swear it WILL get better.

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Yes I get really really bored...in the winter.  And it is usually boredom of my own making.  I just get into these winter ruts where I don't wanna get a newborn and 3 year old ready to go outside, or it's too cold and windy, and we stay inside for days at a time. 


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I am bored daily, I adore my kids but with 2 in school and just the baby at home and I HATE to clean, im online a lot. LOL


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I am desperatekly bored all day. I limite my tv watching in the day for lo's sake, and if i try to read any books besides picture books he won't leave me alone, and i keep trying until finally i am frustrated and he is in tears. I am bored, bored, bored, bored bored!

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It's nice to see I'm not alone. I used to paint and be creative. But since I've been a SAHM I've lost all creativity and motivation, and just end up doing nothing because I don't have the energy to do any of the things I used to enjoy. I desperately want to be creative again, but I just can't seem to get back into it.

I also don't get out enough which probably doesn't help.

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I'm always a mix of overwhelmed and bored. If I have a minute to just THINK, then I get stressed/overwhelmed, so I try to keep myself busy. Sometimes it's online. 


 

 

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Yes i sure do but then again that is why my house is usually spotless bc when I am bored I clean..lol..Have no idea what my house will be so clean in the summer but the winter just kills me!


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Bored and unfulfilled.  I'm a SAHM out of circumstances, not choice (I don't have a work permit).  I resent that a lot.


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It's nice to see I'm not alone. I used to paint and be creative. But since I've been a SAHM I've lost all creativity and motivation, and just end up doing nothing because I don't have the energy to do any of the things I used to enjoy. I desperately want to be creative again, but I just can't seem to get back into it.

I also don't get out enough which probably doesn't help.


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For me, it's the thought of going through the setup of doing something creative (get fabric, or yarn, or paint or nails, etc) with the constant distraction of little kiddos. My littlest one only naps while being held, and my oldest seems to have this desire to touch/play with dangerous items.

 

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I think boredom comes from a lack of people to socialize with joyfully on a regular basis- which I think is sort of an epidemic in our culture! I hear about other cultures (just being vague and general) in which they have lots of other problems (poverty, hardships) but cultures where people are always out and about and socializing with each other- and I think they don't have boredom as a thing like we do in the US. Wouldn't it be great if when we were bored, all of us on this thread could meet up at a park or a kid friendly cafe and gab and drink coffee and eat cake and our kids could play? I think many wonderful and great people can get regularly bored- mostly do to lack of community- lack of social interactions on a daily basis. I am speaking for myself of course but I do see it all the time. People  wandering around wishing they could connect with others, but somehow our culture lacking the places or ability to easily do that. I know sometimes before I had ds I was bored- so I don't think it is only a sahm thing! So that is my 2 cents.

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No, I don't get bored easily. I have two book clubs to read for, various and sundry volunteer things to do and then there's the usual housework and shuffling the kids around. I listen to NPR, I listen to classical music.. I read books and magazines. Once or twice a month I have lunch with a friend.

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I think boredom comes from a lack of people to socialize with joyfully on a regular basis- which I think is sort of an epidemic in our culture! I hear about other cultures (just being vague and general) in which they have lots of other problems (poverty, hardships) but cultures where people are always out and about and socializing with each other- and I think they don't have boredom as a thing like we do in the US. Wouldn't it be great if when we were bored, all of us on this thread could meet up at a park or a kid friendly cafe and gab and drink coffee and eat cake and our kids could play? I think many wonderful and great people can get regularly bored- mostly do to lack of community- lack of social interactions on a daily basis. I am speaking for myself of course but I do see it all the time. People  wandering around wishing they could connect with others, but somehow our culture lacking the places or ability to easily do that. I know sometimes before I had ds I was bored- so I don't think it is only a sahm thing! So that is my 2 cents.


I think this is very true for me! When I feel myself starting to get bored and isolating myself, I try to force myself to make plans with people. That usually makes me feel better. And yes, I think it would be wonderful for us to be able to get together! The interesting thing about these boards is that a lot of people here want to be anonymous and maybe they are able to share more deeply? On places like facebook, it's all kind of, superficial, kwim? Like it's hard for people to be real there. I've started realizing that I want to be more real with people and trying to not think so much about what they might think of me, etc. Or have people over even if my house isn't spic and span.

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Monotony at times was terrible in the first two to three years. Terrible!

My kids are four and six now and it gets so much less boring because they talk, are interested in listening to cool chapter books, can play cards and checkers, can hike in the woods etc etc

I swear it WILL get better.


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This is EXACTLY how I feel!! There is loads that needs to be done, but I'm just not motivated to do the housework and I'm tired of playing pretend, peek-a-boo, hide & seek, etc. It's better when we can get out of the house more, but with all of the snow we've been getting, we've been in a lot.



 



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This is me exactly.  I know there are things I could do.  I could clean.  I could cook.  I could surf the internet.  But those things are not satisfying to me.  I want to talk about politics or gender roles or something that makes me *think*.  Or play music.  Or write.  not really things that I can do with a toddler in tow.

 

I also don't have many friends who are home during the day, so I can't just call someone up and hang out. 

 

I am amazed at how bored I get now.  I need a hobby...or six.



I'm in this club for sure. I have 3 kids (almost 8, 2, and 5 months) and I babysit a 2yr old everyday. We have one car that hubby takes and I'm relatively new in my city. I am lonely, bored, borderine depressed. And on top of that, I just got 'kicked out' of a mom's group I attend because they don't want older kids there and I homeschool. Grreeaaat. Needless to say, I'm feeling sorry for myself today and I'm avoiding all my housework. :(

 

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I think bored is the wrong word. I feel tired...but I think it has been from being cooped up for the exceptionally long and cold winter. I have staved it off with lots and lots of playdates. But I am chopping at the bit to get outside and sit on my nice lawn furniture while DD's explore the gardens and play structure!

 

Sigh* is spring almost here yet?

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I used to be part of a really active playgroup. I was busy everyday with the group and never stayed at home. My home was soooo clean because we were never there to make it dirty. I recently moved to a new city and haven't found the right group. My house is a mess. My kids are crazy. I might start drinking.... I'm kidding about the drinking part. :)


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Sometimes I'm frustrated that I don't get more me-time. Tip, if you allow the chaos to get big enough, tidying up is quite an adventure...
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Tip, if you allow the chaos to get big enough, tidying up is quite an adventure...

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I'm in this club for sure. I have 3 kids (almost 8, 2, and 5 months) and I babysit a 2yr old everyday. We have one car that hubby takes and I'm relatively new in my city. I am lonely, bored, borderine depressed. And on top of that, I just got 'kicked out' of a mom's group I attend because they don't want older kids there and I homeschool. Grreeaaat. Needless to say, I'm feeling sorry for myself today and I'm avoiding all my housework. :(

 

 

I feel ya!  I didn't exactly get "kicked out" of a mommy group but they provide abysmal* childcare while the moms talk and everyone else leaves her kid in there.  I have gotten the hint that my son isn't welcome with the adults.

 

*They let him cry for over 30 minutes without calling me.  There is never enough staff.  They say things like "No crying.  You're a big boy.  Only babies cry".


 

 


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I think boredom comes from a lack of people to socialize with joyfully on a regular basis- which I think is sort of an epidemic in our culture! I hear about other cultures (just being vague and general) in which they have lots of other problems (poverty, hardships) but cultures where people are always out and about and socializing with each other- and I think they don't have boredom as a thing like we do in the US. Wouldn't it be great if when we were bored, all of us on this thread could meet up at a park or a kid friendly cafe and gab and drink coffee and eat cake and our kids could play? I think many wonderful and great people can get regularly bored- mostly do to lack of community- lack of social interactions on a daily basis. I am speaking for myself of course but I do see it all the time. People  wandering around wishing they could connect with others, but somehow our culture lacking the places or ability to easily do that. I know sometimes before I had ds I was bored- so I don't think it is only a sahm thing! So that is my 2 cents.


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We definitely need more socialization!! It can be a lot of work to get the kids all ready and out the door, and yes you may not get the laundry done that day, but it is sooooo worth it! I am part of a couple different play groups as well as a breastfeeding support group and it keeps me sane! I get bored at home and have a really hard time playing with my 2yo and reading her the SAME stories over and over.  She gets bored too and hates it when I get on the computer so she is more than happy to get out of the house and do something.  A friend I used to work with said that when she was raising her kids her and her friends used to take turns going over to each others houses and cleaning.  The kids would play together and they would just go to town deep cleaning listening to loud music.  That always sounded fun to me! Just being with someone else cleaning sounds fun! Anyway, totally agree we need to connect more!

 


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We definitely need more socialization!! It can be a lot of work to get the kids all ready and out the door, and yes you may not get the laundry done that day, but it is sooooo worth it! I am part of a couple different play groups as well as a breastfeeding support group and it keeps me sane! I get bored at home and have a really hard time playing with my 2yo and reading her the SAME stories over and over.  She gets bored too and hates it when I get on the computer so she is more than happy to get out of the house and do something.  A friend I used to work with said that when she was raising her kids her and her friends used to take turns going over to each others houses and cleaning.  The kids would play together and they would just go to town deep cleaning listening to loud music.  That always sounded fun to me! Just being with someone else cleaning sounds fun! Anyway, totally agree we need to connect more!

 


How do we get there though? I have some friends, but I don't feel like we are close enough to do this kind of thing for each other. I guess maybe it just takes a LONG time to get there? I wonder if the internet has anything to do with it? Maybe because I can get my connection online, I don't go seeking out connections as much? Hmmm....what to do in this day and age.

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Yes. I get really really bored. A lot lately. It's not that I don't have stuff to do- I have tons of housework and childcare to do but I still feel just bored. I think for me it is mostly being lonely and in need of adult interaction and also I just need to do something fun. But I can't really even figure out what would be fun at this point.



This is my life to a T. Very busy in fact, but almost completely dissatisfied with my daily routine. My little girl is one, so I am constantly watching her, trying to do household chores and the like. I am trying to keep the TV off too. That's REALLY hard to do during the day. I try to turn on the radio and listen to music or the news and that helps. I don't have internet at home right now (finances), so when I do get on the internet it's when I'm at my folks for my in-laws, so I can't just sit and veg. I work over the internet though (10-20 hours a week), so I'm over at their houses a lot. I also have to take care of my dad and take him to a lot of doctor visits - thank God, it breaks up my week (even though I don't like that he's not well). I need a hobby too. Hard to do with a one year old in your face though!

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Yes, I get bored!!! And I have 4 kids 5 and under all at home everyday all day. I think part of my problem is that it's hard to even get out to grocery shop with all 4 kids.

 

I'm up for the getting together and cleaning with other moms while the kids play. Today I should be cleaning but instead here I am.


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Honestly, I've never found myself bored at home. If I happen to 'not have something to do', I write blog posts, read a book, bake, email my girlfriends, take a nap (really rare). But with the 2 year old and part time online work, there really isn't any time for being bored. :)

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Originally Posted by laceyrn02 View PostWe definitely need more socialization!! It can be a lot of work to get the kids all ready and out the door, and yes you may not get the laundry done that day, but it is sooooo worth it! I am part of a couple different play groups as well as a breastfeeding support group and it keeps me sane! I get bored at home and have a really hard time playing with my 2yo and reading her the SAME stories over and over.  She gets bored too and hates it when I get on the computer so she is more than happy to get out of the house and do something.  A friend I used to work with said that when she was raising her kids her and her friends used to take turns going over to each others houses and cleaning.  The kids would play together and they would just go to town deep cleaning listening to loud music.  That always sounded fun to me! Just being with someone else cleaning sounds fun! Anyway, totally agree we need to connect more!
 


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I get bored. It is generally related to not being able to do what I want and having to do other things. Sometimes it is the monotony and routine of my life that gets boring. Overall I enjoy my days and I find ways to entertain myself but not every day is bliss.

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Yes, I get bored.  Just like when I used to work, life before kids.  Some days I'm bored, some days I'm tired, some days I'm stressed, some days I'm energized... it runs the whole gamut.  In general I don't find being home with the kids boring, but some days it seems I'm just not in the mood to do anything (don't want to read, not in the mood to cook, no one to call on the phone, etc.) which is when I find I'm bored.

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Never. The only time I've ever been bored was when I was in school (elementary, high school, college) and when I had an office job. When I am free to do what I want, it's impossible to be bored.


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