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#241 of 242 Old 02-14-2011, 09:31 PM
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Honestly, SSM, I put the quotes around "know" because I don't have a grasp on what YOU mean by it. However you personally define it, then yes, I am quite sure that you have that dynamic with your child. But the particular dynamics that work so well for MY family - a SAH homeschooling mom and a WAHD - are clearly not what's going down in your family, because WOH is making you guys happy, and for us it was an epic fail for both parents and children.

One lifestyle is not better than other, but they are very, very different. When a person isn't financially/socially/personally empowered to parent the way they want to, I think it has the potential to hurt them and to hurt their kids. And I'm not talking hypothetical "if we got divorced someday" hurt. I'm talking actual suffering in the here-and-now.
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I think a lot of the mommy wars thing is society/media seems like women are almost taught to be catty and competitive with each other, for attention, partners, who is more attractive, etc etc.



I think you are completely, absolutely right!  Honestly, one of the things I love about this board is that there is a helpful culture instead of a competitive culture here.

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