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It's cold and crappy and for various reasons, we hardly ever leave the house or see anyone else!

 

I get soooooooooo tired of hearing my kids talking.  And I feel bad like I don't always have the nicest tone of voice.  I want space!!!!!!!!  They don't nap.   I used to love being with them all the time, but maybe it's since dd2 was born, it's really hard and full on.    I feel bored.

 

I think it will be better in summer when we go out to playgrounds and stuff every day.  And I can connect and talk with friends.

 

Anyone else, so I don't feel like I'm horrible?


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It's cold and crappy and for various reasons, we hardly ever leave the house or see anyone else!

 

I get soooooooooo tired of hearing my kids talking.  And I feel bad like I don't always have the nicest tone of voice.  I want space!!!!!!!!  They don't nap.   I used to love being with them all the time, but maybe it's since dd2 was born, it's really hard and full on.    I feel bored.

 

I think it will be better in summer when we go out to playgrounds and stuff every day.  And I can connect and talk with friends.

 

Anyone else, so I don't feel like I'm horrible?


 

I don't think it's horrible at all but I don't think it's sustainable, either.  Why don't you leave the house?A boring life is going to be boring - SAH or not :)

 

I feel for you b/c we're trapped at home a lot b/c of my baby napping.  but I can't fathom doing that voluntarily!

 


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We don't leave the house because it's too difficult and not worth it.  It used to be worth the 1.5-2 hours of getting ready, ie fighting with them both to get dressed into daytime clothes (they hate getting dressed), then coats, mittens, hats, socks, shoes, each one go to the bathroom, pack food, get stroller out, get backpack, make lunch or snacks, water bottle.

 

We don't have a car.  Dh needs it for work.  So we have to walk everywhere.  We live in England, weather's not nice, it's just not pleasant to be outside.  Sometimes we go out in the communal back yard for a walk through the woodsy area, but even that takes forever to get them out and we don't even need to pack food and get all the stuff out.  

 

Here in England kids go to regular school at 4 years old, so all our friends are in school now, except one, who is on vacation in South Africa for 2 months.  We homeschool, and the homeschool group is boring and huge and impersonal and loud and cold.  And there are only like one or two kids dd1's age, and they all have tons of older siblings so the moms and the little kid aren't interested in friends!  Not worth the fight to get out the door for.    I know, I need to make more of an effort to get to know these homeschool people anyway.........and get invited to their houses!

 

We used to go out every single day cause it was just horrible staying home, but now it's the opposite!

 

 


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Then I think you know what you're challenge is. 

Is the car thing permanent?

 

Things like them not wanting to get dressed, etc... that's disciplinary IMO and there are ways to handle that.  

If your HS' prospects aren't good then would you consider school for your oldest?  That's no life for her either, being stuck inside all the time.  :hug:

 

I grew up in ireland so I know the weather scene.  Depressing.  

 

Sending good thoughts your way.


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Ok, my challenge for tomorrow is to get out of the house and go somewhere!

 

The other thing about getting them out of the house is that dd1 never wants to!  If I say, 'who wants to go to the ______?'  the little one says 'me me me!' and dd1 says, 'I don't waaaaant to.'  They are never bored, they have fun playing all day.  So that's also part of how it's not worth it.  Sometimes I'm sooo bored I want to go out even just to walk out back, and I see them sitting there setting up some scene with their toys and having some imaginary world, or playing with their dolls, or whatever, and I think, 'ok, if it ain't broke, don't fix it.'  IBut It's me who's bored out of my mind, and for my sake, I need to get us out!   So, no, dd1 doesn't need to go to school, she has loads of fun at home.  And the staying inside thing will only be a couple more months till it's nice out and we can spend all day outside again. 

 

My husband's job is classified as 'essential car user' and they give him money each month in his pay to pay for the car.  So, he has to have it all the time.  But I do get it on Fridays, so tomorrow, we'll try and go out.  We do have some good friends whose kid goes to preschool every day except Friday but she is in bad health with kidney disease and can't really do much, but I'll message her right now and see if we can meet them somewhere!

 

Thanks for listening and for helping!


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