So sometimes I wonder if I am ignoring my kids. We are on GAPS (a pretty strict diet that is supposed to solve my oldest's problems with eczema and allergies) and that takes a lot of time with cooking/prep. Then the regular overwhelming duties of keeping the house clean, bills, extended family, etc. I do spend time with them and discipline them and talk to them throughout the day. I also take them to storytime, etc. for fun. But I still feel like I don't do stuff with them. I honestly don't know what to do! When it was just the firstborn and before this diet, I spent loads of time building things, playing in water, drawing and writing letters. But now with #2, he still doesn't want to do most of the things I enjoy and can do with the 3 yo.
Any ideas of how to spend more quality time? How do I engage my 1 yo without losing my 3 yo, or engage my 3 yo without ignoring the younger (something I've felt I've done more of since his birth)?
I am sorry that I do not have the answer to this, but I am expecting my second child in August and I am most definitely interested in hearing some examples and advice from mothers or fathers who have some good solutions here!!!
I have a 2-year-old son and expecting a girl August 9th!!!
When my 1yo and 3 yo aren't fighting they are usually playing together, and entertain each other pretty nicely. I do find it a bit hard to do certain crafty/education things with my 3 yo that are out of my ds' grasps, but typically we can do something thats friendly for both (ie, puzzles...infant ones for ds, a little harder ones for dd, color wonder for ds, crayons for dd, etc.) I have also noticed that ds is pretty quickly catching up with dd, but he has the type of personality that does NOT like to be left behind for anything.
For me, the key is to work with both of them on their individual interests (admittedly, at this point thats easier with the 3 yo) and just allowing them a lot of independant play.
I have three children: ages 5, 3 and 14 months. Im also expecting, due in October! I have a little list of things I like to do with mine. Some of the things that are on the list:
Art- any and every form.. Finger painting is popular with all three. My older two like to paint with brushes. All of them will draw/color. Even my 14 month old will "color" in a coloring book with his sisters. I also do the paint with water books for all of them when my youngest wants to have a paint brush like his big sisters.. We do some sticker art, this really requires my active guidance for my youngest but all three enjoy it!
Rice and cups or for the baby macaroni and cups.. I dye the rice/macaroni different colors and let them have fun mixing it all up.
cooking/baking is a LOT of fun, even the baby enjoys dumping measuring cups of different things in bowls
anything outside, especially if it has to do with water
Nature walks and trips to the park
lots of story time and we act out stories. Nothing gets them giggling more than when I start doing lion roars and giraffe munches (what sound do giraffes make?? Really, I have NO clue)
Answering any questions they come up with! Google and YouTube are our best friends
playdoh and cookie cutters
playing in shaving cream or whipped cream if you worry about them getting sick from the shaving cream
flashlights in a dark room- can even make this into a seek and find game
board games! I start playing games with them starting at 18 months! My oldest learned her colors playing Candyland
Let them help you clean up around the house. Mine all love playing laundry "basketball" and 20 item pick up, seeing who can get it done the fastest
Relays or "races" which even my 14 month old enjoys.. Today we did a hug relay (baby hugged big sister, big sister hugged middle sister and middle sister hugged me then I hugged the baby.. we rotated around.. Good way to spread some love)
Plant a garden!
Help washing the car is a popular one as well
Find the hidden animal (hide an animal and give them clues to where it is. My 14 month old just walks around until he finds it.. Sometimes his sisters show him where it is so he can bring it back to me)
Tackle Daddy is popular when DH gets home
This is a great blog! http://playathomemom3.blogspot.com/ I love a lot of her ideas.
Come on over! haha Thanks.! Most of my friends HATE having their kids at my house because they are likely to climb trees and get totally messy then ask why they can't do it at their house.. Ooops..
Thanks! Ive been saying they go "munch munch" like they are eating since I figured Ive never heard them make any sounds any time Ive seen them..
I don't have any solutions but I wanted to say that you are not alone. I felt like I wasn't Mom first when my daughter was on the GAPS diet as well. It just takes so much time!
Becky- Wife to DH, Mama to "Nani" (July '08) "Coco" (July '10) and expecting one very wiggly baby boy in May 2013!
My oldest loved to vacuum at that age (3) and sweep. He now loves to watch me sew at the machine and knits alongside me (my boys are 8 and 5).
thank you for your input. I do try to incorporate them in what we do and we love walks and being outside for the health reasons (but some for natural learning/development too). I looked up the Waldorf edu and honestly it sounds a bit weird, like just mimicking being at home! but I do wonder about it since it claims to address the whole person, and yet nothing about the spiritual/religious part. At any rate, I'm sure there are a ton of things involved in that that I didn't read about and many helpful things that get us away from the rush and busy lifestyle that most american lives are now.
I don't think this one was mentioned, but what about bath time? It's starting to get nicer out, but in the winter, we do a LOT of bath time as playtime. My children are 22 months apart and they both love bath time. I don't wash them every time.
Mama to three
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