|View Poll Results: For the most part are you happy or unhappy being a stay at home parent?|
|I am mostly happy||131||74.43%|
|I am back and forth and in the middle ground somewhere.||36||20.45%|
|I am mostly unhappy||9||5.11%|
|Voters: 176. You may not vote on this poll|
I LOVE it! That doesn't mean I don't have crazy, frustrating, just-at-my-wit's-end kind of days with my kiddos though. Of course I do, but I am realistic and KNOW that if I worked outside our home I would many crazy, frustrating days then too. I wouldn't change my "job" for anything right now. Someday I'll go back to earning a paycheck but hope to still be home part-time.
I voted mostly happy as I have a very supportive partner, family, and community (I live on an island full of interesting and helpful SAHMs!) If the wide culture valued what stay at home parents do for the next generation I think we would all be happier, but there is still this undercurrent of not really contributing because we don't make money. I would also be happier about it if I had some kind of retirement plan... I found employed work to be draining and boring and hard and though life as a SAHM is sometimes like that too, the love of my baby girl and helping her become the best little person she can is so much more rewarding than anything a job could provide. It's all about outlook.
i voted unhappy I am a student parent now but still stay home. i voted unhappy because I want to work but could not find a job that paid enough money to justify working right now. Even when I was married and a sahm a lot of it was not very happy and I felt like i sacrificied myself for the family. I am not even sure the kids are any better because i sahm. But I don't regret it and I am glad I have been able to sahm, but if i had another child down the road with a new partner i am not sure i could sahm again. However i am choosing teaching in part because of the time off in the summers to still be with the kids more than a year round job.
I have been a SAHM for 6 years. I am mostly happy. I have been reading in another forum that has a lot of members very vocal about how SAHMing is a terrible choice that is ruining my life and future. It did make me feel bad and unhappy. But it brought out some points to consider, so that was the silver lining. I've stopped reading there because it really brings me down.
When I first started to SAH, I thought I would never work again and be happy to live blissfully taking care of my kids and household forever. I didn't give any thought to the reality of the future. So now I have a 6 year old and a 2 year old and I see them getting older and I know I won't be doing the SAH thing forever. I am taking some online college classes and preparing myself for re-entering the workforce sometime in the future. It gives me a little bit of security and makes me feel better about myself.
Yep, I don't have a career. Yep, I have a huge gap in my resume of office receptionist/waitressing jobs. It is what it is. Also, I never really wanted a career until now. I guess if I had, I wouldn't have dropped out of University and moved to Costa Rica and lived on the beach and partied for 5 years. But that phase of my life is long over now, and I am sure the SAHM thing will be over at some point also.
DH(9/04) DS(12/08) and DD(5/11)