I'm in the midst of a crazy-stressful time in life. We've got a lot of upheaval going on...a major overseas move looming on the horizon, saying goodbye to friends and family, staying with the non-English speaking in-laws for weeks (!!), trying to find a new home at our destination, trying to buy a car...lots and lots that is totally stressing me out. I know it will all work out and we'll be fine eventually.
The problem is that in the meantime, I'm home with my 17-month-old, who's just being a regular toddler...whining, testing boundaries, into everything...but I get way more frustrated with him than usual because I've got so much going on otherwise. I don't want to take out all of the stress on him!! I want to give him space to be a toddler. I don't want to be yelling at him a lot. But my stress level starts out so high that the irritating things he does just push me over the top so easily. How on earth do I manage all of this? I am so very overwhelmed and I feel guilty when I lose my temper and yell at him. He's just a little guy doing what little guys do...
I`m sorry, it really sounds like a tough move. I am also living abroad in my DH`s country so I know it`s a big decision. Finding a place of your own and having your own car as soon as possible is a great idea. It sure is really stressful.
The only way you won`t take it out on your son is by reducing your own stress level. Try relaxing whenever you can. Go for long walks with your DS in a stroller, eat ice cream :) Whatever helps you to stay relaxed.
Hope your move will be smooth.
BTDT - I have the same issues (upcoming move, etc.) and had it the past 3 years, since we moved during each year of my son's life (also oversees). And every move was around his birthday There is so so much to think of and plan for.
I don't have much advise. It's still hard for me even though my son is older and I've done it 3 times already.
The biggest issue for me is that I have to make calls to make arrangements and he wants my attention at the same time. Ugh!
What I try to do is:
- stay positive
- pack, make calls etc during his naps or get someone to watch him for a few hours to get me some time to "work"
I think the most important thing is to reduce your stress level. Easier said than done - I know!
What is the thing that stresses you out the most?