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#1 of 6 Old 10-24-2013, 10:31 AM - Thread Starter
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Hi everyone!  Yes, I am new here and am glad to have found a place for someone like me.  It feels good to fit in.  :)


Anyway, I was wondering if any of you have older kids -- middle school or high school?  How do you adjust yourself from the elementary school years?  Sometimes I feel a little more isolated since my involvement isn't as much as it was and I don't see my friends as much either.  I have one child in elementary school and one child in middle school.  Many of my friends have returned to work....mostly PT and my circle of gals is getting smaller and smaller.  Are any of you planning to be SAHMs until becoming empty nesters?

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Hi Pepin, I know what you mean, things do change when kids get to the high school years. There are way fewer social outings at school; it is nothing like when they are little and there are playgroups and birthday parties and girl scouts, etc.  It's a tough adjustment. Would it help to volunteer for something related to the school? Like a booster club for sports or the theatre dept. parent group? What are your children into at school?


I'm not a SAHM mom anymore but I do understand your feelings!

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Pepin~ my two oldest are in grades 4 and 6. I have a nearly 2 year old too, but even without her I had no plans of going back. My mom used to say that you need to be home MORE when they are teenagers than when they elementary school aged. I am starting to understand her reasoning. I can't imagine yet what I might do when my little one is through high school. I will be 50-something...

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My yes I fit in with this thread! I have a college freshman, junior in HS, and a 5th grader. You'd think as they got older I'd have more time. eyesroll.gif
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Mrskpete!  Hello!

Hello everyone!

I have a college sophomore, a senior and a 10th grader.  I feel so old!  But I am glad to see friends on Mothering that are like me.  I do feel out of touch sometimes so this thread is refreshing.


Being a stay at home mom to older kids is an adjustment, but I am busier now than ever.   I am involved at the school and with the sport my kids participate (running).  I have thought often about returning to work.  But husband doesn't want me to and well....right now I am enjoying everything about being a mother, wife and me!

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Yes, the older the kids get the more involved us Moms seem to get in their actives, organizations, sports, and most importantly school, When they were little it was like we lived in this bubble. Isolation. I thought that'd change totally. It takes an effort to stay and feel connected to other Moms, especially if those Moms work. Still this lifestyle was a choice and I haven't regretted it at all!
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