I met my fiancé and it just all fell into place that it would be better for me to stay at home. We are tighter then we would like to be on money but we make it work. Really it would cost more in gas to get me to any job then I would probably make at said job.
I find myself appreciating those little things more. If my fiancé does take me out it feels more special in a way. My son is in kindergarten so I have the house to myself to clean and organize to my hearts content. The family eats at regular times which never happened before I stayed home and we spend a ton of family time together because we have the time.
I don't feel like I lost anything when I choose to stay home. I only gained what I always wanted <3
I gave up 2 years experience in a promising career, a retirement plan, let myself get behind so that I would not be hirable in that field if I wanted to return to it, and our income was cut in half. Was it worth it? YES! We struggled and scrimped and saved. But I felt lucky to be a SAHM.
I did go back to school and I started a new career as a nurse when my youngest entered Kindergarten. I wish sometimes I was still a SAHM but we need to supplement the income as the girls get older and their needs are more costly. Also we need to start saving for the future and not living paycheck to paycheck. I recently went part time and took a hit, but now I feel more % mom than I do a nurse, and that makes me feel like I've found a good balance.
Honestly...nothing. Growing up I didn't have a passion for anything except being a stay at home mom. I never knew what I wanted to do career wise. Which sounds depressing at first but reality my husband and kids inspired me and I started to grow a passion for things. Now I wasn't always optimistic and I never fully understood how awesome my life actually is. I definitely had a depressing moment when I was 21/22. I never finished college, I didn't have a career plan, I didn't have any mommy friends or anyone I could relate to. I felt like a loser basically. But I got out of that and found many reasons to be happy and created reasons to be happy instead of feeling sorry for myself.
Honestly, the choice to care for my Mom and DH's Grandmother has involved giving up much more than choosing to have one of us available for the kids at all times. Travel is impossible now and even day trips involve lining up several caregivers. Children we can take with us, elders that aren't mobile require funds we just don't have.
I don't regret that choice either though; both are very much worth it.
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