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Hi all. I'm in the middle of a big decision. I just had baby #2 and I'm suffering from ppd (being treated tho with therapy and meds). Work is literally too much for me right now (like I can barely make sure meals are made, kids are clean, etc). On top of this, I've come back to work at a time when there are a lot of changes occurring that I could really care less about. In other words, I'm sucking at work right now and I don't really care. It's a good time to bow out, and financially we will survive. I have 2 fears: 1.once my depression improves I'm afraid I will regret leaving my job. 2. I will be more depressed at home. Although work is hard, at least I'm around other people. Anyone else have any situation like this??
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You may also want to post this in the Postpartum Depression forum because it sounds like your questions are more about your mental health than being a SAHM. It sounds like it might be a good time to leave. Would you be able to take a leave of absence for health issues while you work on getting better from the PPD? That might alleviate the regret factor if you can make the decision later. Key to dealing with PPD is support. Being a SAHM can be isolating, but there are lots of groups and activities that you could get involved in so that you will not be alone, you will have other adults to talk to.


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Thank you pokey. I was thinking about the ppd forum, but it's so quiet so I thought I'd start here. I'm thinking that some stay at home moms have probably dealt with ppd.
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Thank you pokey. I was thinking about the ppd forum, but it's so quiet so I thought I'd start here. I'm thinking that some stay at home moms have probably dealt with ppd.
I'm sure they have. Just a thought to get the most helpful advice.


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I've certainly has some struggles from depression post natally but not necessarily PPD related. There was a bunch of other stuff goin on. I had a year of government paid mat leave but I definitely felt isolated. Not like after the birth of my first when I was out doing things with people all the time.

I never went back to work, but I did need to learn to not isolate myself. I had to find friends, did odd jobs and had to get out more. I'm about to have #3 and now live in a place where isolation due to a long harsh winter is even easier. I've already reached out to mamas due around me and hoping that I can work on NOT isolating myself this time. Baby time at the library, going to the walking track, coffee and play dates.

As long as you have support that will push you to not isolate, and you can reach out and can afford to stay home then there isn't anything wrong with it. But if you are wanting to stay home so you can isolate? That's when I'd worry. Is there someone you can talk to professionally (counsellor/psychologist/etc) that can help you work through these feelings?

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