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Talking to Your Children About Pedophiles

At what age did you start talking to your child about appropriate and inappropriate touch? How did you explain it and what was their response?
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We have been reading the book 'Everyone's Got a Bottom' since they were 4yo and 18mo. They love it.

We also teach them that no-one can touch them if they don't want them too and they can hold out their hand and say "No! Stop!" This is mainly in the context of unwanted affection and roughness from other kids but the lesson is there nonetheless. This starts around toddlerhood too.


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Great response @katelove , thank you!
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We don't teach them about pedophiles so much, but rather about their own power to say "no" to anything that makes them feel uncomfortable.

We teach them to trust their instincts (mostly by honoring their instincts and comfort levels around people).
They are never made to hug, kiss, or give affection if they don't want to (even to grandma).
They are taught the proper names for their body parts from infancy (penis, vulva, vagina, anus etc).
They are told their bodies are special and personal and belong only to them -- and that no one can touch them (including their genitals) except in specific situations and only with their consent.
They are taught that "No" is a complete sentence that requires no justification or excuses.
We always believe them when they tell us something, we don't discourage "tattling" (a lot of parents do this which I think can backfire), we thank them for telling us difficult things. We tell them we will never get mad at them for telling us the truth.

It's not one conversation but more a series of ongoing, age-appropriate conversations that evolve into more mature discussions as they get older and are reinforced by life situations. Hope that helps!

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