Why are you the SAHP... - Page 5 - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
Old 05-30-2008, 02:32 PM
 
lyttlewon's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Posts: 4,150
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My DH was a SAHD with DD. He SAH for 2 years. I was laid off while I was pregnant and it was my opportunity to be the one that SAH. I worked because I made 2x what he did. I had a part time job a few weeks ago, for some extra money, and DS didn't tollerate it at all. So I quit.
lyttlewon is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 05-30-2008, 03:02 PM
 
riaketty's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Millersport, OH
Posts: 670
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
Because if DP SAH? The house would be trashed, burned down, exploded, or all of the above.

Seriously. I refuse to work 40 hours and then come home to a pigsty. And while I may not be the ideal Stepford Wife, well, there's dinner every night, clean clothes every morning, and a vacuumed floor. That's more than I'd ever get out of him.
riaketty is offline  
Old 05-30-2008, 03:09 PM
 
Peony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2003
Posts: 15,918
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 7 Post(s)
Dh makes much more money then I ever could as a RN.

There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.
Peony is offline  
Old 05-30-2008, 03:27 PM
 
Storm Bride's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Vancouver, BC
Posts: 25,597
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I think it's really messed up that SAHDs are seen as some kind of joke by anybody. They're going against a lot of cultural pressure to do what they do, and I think they deserve credit for that, not mockery.

My ex was sort of a SAHD for the first year or so of ds1's life. He was a furniture mover, and was low man on the roster. That meant he only got called in when all the guys ahead of him already had work (or were on vacation, of course). There were periods where he'd work as little as 4 hours in a two week period. Without my income, he'd have had to find another job, but the bills were paid, so he stuck it out and climbed the ladder. He was working pretty close to full time by the time we split up when ds1 was 7. (He got fired a few months later, but that's another issue entirely.) We considered having him stay home, but having me stay home just wasn't an option. It would have been tight even without his income...and I was making more than double what he was, most years. Honestly...until he decided that being responsible for a baby was too much stress and he just couldn't handle it (or whatever it was he thought), he was a really great SAHD, and was probably better for that than I am, in some ways...

Lisa, lucky mama of Kelly (3/93) ribboncesarean.gif, Emma (5/03) ribboncesarean.gif, Evan (7/05) ribboncesarean.gif, & Jenna (6/09) ribboncesarean.gif
Loving my amazing dh, James & forever missing ribbonpb.gif Aaron Ambrose ribboncesarean.gif (11/07) ribbonpb.gif

Storm Bride is offline  
Old 05-30-2008, 03:48 PM
 
That Is Nice's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Posts: 6,798
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
I think it's really messed up that SAHDs are seen as some kind of joke by anybody. They're going against a lot of cultural pressure to do what they do, and I think they deserve credit for that, not mockery.
:

I think I'm even more bothered by the mockery, or dismissal, of SAHDs than I am bothered by the negatively (sometimes) directed at SAHMs. It just seems so...sexist?

I give SAHDs a lot of credit.
That Is Nice is offline  
Old 05-30-2008, 03:55 PM
 
JustVanessa's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: On the river bank....
Posts: 6,616
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm the one who's knocked up! I told dp when he is pregnant he can stay home. Seriously though, he makes double what I did and it doesn't make sense for me to work and him to be off.

Vanessa belly.gif, wife to Kev , mama to Byron (5) wild.gif and Billie (2) and  due in June
JustVanessa is offline  
Old 06-01-2008, 02:10 AM
 
kay4's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Colorado
Posts: 1,006
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Leilalu View Post


That~~~and don't flame me, but i beleive this is my place in this season in my life, as a woman..
I agree with you!

Kelly,newly single mom of four wonderful children.

kay4 is offline  
Old 06-02-2008, 12:34 PM
 
hibana's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,582
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I stay home because it is the best thing for everyone involved. Even if I could make more than dh, and weren't nursing, I would still rather be the one caring for my dd.

I don't come here anymore. MDC has become overgrown with ads & useless extra forums.
hibana is offline  
 
User Tag List

Thread Tools


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off