Hi! I can't believe it took me this long to discover this forum. I thought I knew MDC well enough.
This is so cool. I'm a SAHM with two beautiful energetic little boys. It sure is a lot more work than I ever imagined, but feels very good as well. My biggest problem is I'm in poor health, got all sorts of problems and not much energy. Keeping up with basic chores is big accomplishment already. I totally believe in AP but couldn't do everything as I wished due to health problems. Sometimes I feel guilty about not doing enough things, but overall feel quite proud of what I have managed.
DH is wonderful and helps out as much as possible.
My second problem is my parents. Do you guys ever get nagged by your own parents about SAH, because of their own insecurity? My mom does this as least once a month, telling me to go find a job so she can be proud of me, otherwise she feels like a failure. She's always saying her biggest misery is that my brother and I aren't making much money. Well, I never made too much money, I was just starting to work when my health was declining so DH told me to quit and rest at home. I only made enough to pay off my student loan. My brother is a teacher so he's not making too much, either, but he's supporting his family OK. No matter what reason I give her she's just not listening, saying they're all lame excuses. If I worked I'd be able to make a lot more than daycare cost; if I worked my health would improve; my kids would get smarter at daycare; if I don't work my husband will eventually realize that I'm useless and dump me...etc.
Now, my mom is a perfectly healthy, hardworking career woman who never stayed at home. I'm totally like my dad and nothing like her. I can't hope she'll ever truely understand me. Just wondering how to best deal with this. She has many good qualities and I don't want to disown her or anything. How do I best ignore her? Or make her think about something else instead of picking on me? I tried hobbies or even religions she's just not interested. To be honest I don't really care about her opinions, I learned to ignore those a long time ago. It's still annoying and insulting though. Anyone have a suggestion? Should I talk to some of her friends, and ask them to tell her to leave me alone?