I agree with your post! It took a long, long time for dh and I to get a system down that we both feel happy about. For a long time my standards were too high and I was stressed trying to keep a clean home *and* nurture our children the way I wanted to.
The house is clean but cluttered. Things get cleaned when they get to a certain point where I can't stand it any more. I keep up on laundry and dishes, and I keep the guest bathroom clean, but not most other things on a daily basis. I cook most of the meals but it's not always gourmet. My favorite thing is to cook up a big veggie stew and have it last for 2 days (even longer if I put some in the freezer for later).
My dh's main job in the house is to pick up those little things that are out of place at the end of the day: toys, books, crayons, etc. That is half the battle right there, and makes the house look cleaner when that's all put away. He also does the yard work and pet care.
7yo: "Mom,I know which man is on a quarter and which on is on a nickel. They both have ponytails, but one man has a collar and the other man is naked. The naked man was our first president."