Simple question...probably a complex answer! You can list up to three different things...SO, What was your biggest challenge adjusting to motherhood?
Unassisted birthing, atheist, poly, bi WOHM to 4 wonderful, smart homeschooling kids Wes (14) Seth (7) Pandora Moonlilly (2) and Nevermore Stargazer (11/2012) Married to awesome SAH DH.
I waited a while to become a mother, so the other stuff I felt pretty prepared for. But not the change of in sleeping habits. That was shocking.
Originally Posted by Sharlla
The biggest adjustment for me was being selfless when before I could be selfish.
Originally Posted by Village Mama
Going from jobs or school situations where you always recieve feedback or praise for a job well done.
I know it sounds totally superficial, but I was totally raised with being praised for almost everything, and now....well, lets just say my DH and I have had many a conversation about this!
Also, I had (and still am having) a hard time adjusting to the money issues. Pre-baby I could just buy what I wanted when I wanted. Now, I am TRYING to not do this so much as we are on a very tight college students budget! This kinda of ties in with the being selfless thing, though.
a mama to DS and DD
2) Lack of mental stimulation. Tried to make up for that one with reading a lot about attachment parenting, etc but after 4 yrs that's worn off :LOL
3) Financial dependence. Even if Dh was a millionaire I would still want to be earning my own money.
4)Maybe this is actually the biggest. The lack of value/recognition given to who I am/was aside from motherhood. Most of my friends know what my career used to be but rarely ever ask anything about it, or talk about their own. It's like we've forgotten who we are. oh, yeah, that's it:identity crisis.
Also, I'd have to say the lack of independence. I can't just run out to the library and browse if I want to - everything's more complicated.
change in the marital relationship (my first ended in divorce)
devaluation of the role of moms
lack of me time
Midwifery student , Mama to my 4 amazing kids.
Originally Posted by RainCoastMama
2) Being able to see a task through from start to completion. THIS drives me bananas...not being able to finish ANYTHING that I start.
Also trying to be a good housewife too. DH says my household job should be to write him a list of what to do when he gets home but I really wish I could get more done around the house so that he doesn't have to. He said before DD was born when I was beginning to freak out about getting stuff done (gotta love nesting) that if he came home and the house was spotless but DD was cranky then he would be cranky but if he came home and the house looked like a bomb hit it and DD and I were happy and laughing then it was a good day gotta love him. But I feel like I should be getting more done.
Finally, and this is my biggest challenge--second-guessing myself. Why oh why isn't there THE way to raise a child? I so wish someone would tell me, look, this is THE BEST way to raise your child/nurture yourself/strengthen your marriage because I would do it in a heartbeat! Everytime I think I've "got" it I read or hear something that makes me think I should be doing things differently. I wish I had the self-confidence to not worry so much.