Well, before I quit working, we were very comfortable... sometimes I miss the days where I could go out and buy whatever my little heart desired.... but when I look at my son's happy face and knowing that he can come to me any time of the day, I know what I did was worth every penny lost.
My husband not only doesn't make a ton of money, but he also pays a TON of money in Child support... we don't own a home, we're putting that off until the step-kids are over 18 because we pay what would equal to a housepayment in child support so when they turn 18 we will have that money to put into a house. It will be like a free house since we aren't used to having that money anyway. But anyway, I'm getting off subject. DS will be 12 years old before we are living in an actual house. Right now, we live in a 2 bedroom townhome... DS sleeps with me and the step-kids share the other bedroom. We want to have more children but have no intentions of moving to a bigger place anytime soon. We actually enjoy having a smaller place. We moved here from a huge 4 bedroom townhome shortly after I quit my job. We live a very frugal life. I make all of my sons cloth diapers, I make cloth paper towels, cleaning agents... pretty much everything we use, I make. We are living outside of our means with just basic bills and groceries by about 80 a month but we steal from peter to pay paul and it's been working for over 3 years now.... it's not the ideal way to live but it works and keeps me at home. DH is moving up quickly in his business so I expect sooner or later we'll be a little better off. But it's amazing what you really can do when you work out all the bills and live off of what you absolutely have to. We don't have cell phones, we just recently got cable and internet because of a raise DH got. We treat ourselves to something nice every once in awhile when something good happens but for the most part, we live simply and only have the basics. My son has everything he needs and more... we have everything we need and my son has me at home... in the end, that's what really mattered to us. So, I guess my point is, if we can do it... anyone can. But it depends on your priorities. Do you need to have all the extras, do you need to have your hair done every week, do you need a cell phone, etc.... anyway, good luck on your decision. It is not an easy one.
Jeri, Natural lovin' Mama to Elijah (9.29.03), Eden (10.2.06), and a little one lost along the way (1/12)., Step-monster to Shelby (18) and Stephen (16). Celebrating 12 years together with my soul-mate, Eric. Hoping for a someday!