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#1 of 6 Old 12-16-2005, 01:20 AM - Thread Starter
 
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im a stay at home mom to a 16 month old and a 6 week old, the weather is freezing and snowy in our area, and i have no vehicle, my 16 month old barely gets out of the house except for some shopping trips and maybe once every 2 weeks we go to a play centre. is this awful what i am doing, is it damaging my daughter??
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no it's not damaging. I'd be more worried about the damage it's doing to you. I know how needed it is to get out of the house with the kids. If you're still feeling like you need to worry about the time with your dd, my sure fire cure for those feelings is "enrichment" i.e. painting, play doh, cooking with mom, extras that you wouldn't do on a regular basis to break up the day and make it fun.

Be sure to take care of yourself mama, those long days home can burn you out too.
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Totally agree. I had to stay at home for the first calendar year with ds1 b/c he was a preemie and it was hard work being home all day every day. Make a plan for yourself every day and find an enriching activity or two every day to do with your 16 month old. I think that's the best way.

But I don't think it's bad for your 16 month old--I think it's probably wonderful for her to spend all that time with mom, especially with the 6 week old sleeping so much.

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Oh God NO!!! Read some books snuggled on the couch and give her some great attention while your second child sleeps. How wonderful to have time where you CAN'T go out!! Enjoy this bit of solitude.

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I don't think so, at this age children don't really play together anyway as much as beside each other. Once they get around 2-3 years old they start enjoying playgroups and playing with other kids more.

If you're happy then I don't think its damaging to you either. But if you feel depressed, lonely or stressed out then maybe you should find out if there's a local bus route in your area or some way that you can get out of the house and do something. I get tired of being cooped up in the house all day. I'm not a very social person but I get out at least once or twice a week, even if it's to go to the library or window shop for things I can't afford :
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No, you're not damaging your 16month old at all! Think of the olden days. In my area the houses are older--- and they all have one car garages. It was very common for dad to work and mom to stay home-- they couldn't afford a second car.
Your 16month old is thrilled to be w/ you. Maybe you could go to the tribal area and meet some other like minded moms (or contact lll) that would come over to your house?
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