yes, i completely agree. there are different levels of communication. the way that i would approach a 'very good friend' vs an 'acquaintance' vs a person on a message board is very different. For the second and third groups, i'm still striving to find appropriate methodologies.
from the most basic aspect, it should be asserted that when a woman says "i formula feed. . ." or "i just signed up for my elective c-section!" i am curious as to why they would choose these options, but i do not assume that they are doing it out of ignorance or mindlessness.