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View Poll Results: How many hours are you alone with your children each day?
5 - 6 hours 15 3.86%
7-8 hours 43 11.05%
9-10 hours 148 38.05%
11 hours or more 183 47.04%
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#91 of 114 Old 02-13-2007, 10:17 PM
 
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My dh leaves at 7:30am, gets home when work is done for the day. Usually around 7pm, frequently later. He's on call 24/7, though, so he might be home 2 seconds before getting paged out again (he's the manager of a tow service and their chief operator). When the weather is bad, he's out more. Today is his 69th consecutive day of work (his last day off was 12/6/06).

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My dh leaves at 7:30am, gets home when work is done for the day. Usually around 7pm, frequently later. He's on call 24/7, though, so he might be home 2 seconds before getting paged out again (he's the manager of a tow service and their chief operator). When the weather is bad, he's out more. Today is his 69th consecutive day of work (his last day off was 12/6/06).

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I win. Not that I want to, of course, and he does work at home lots, , so we all can eat breakfast, lunch and supper together, but my dh's last day off was Jan 1 2007. He did do send a few emails and do a conference call from home on Jan 2.
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My DH leaves for work at 5:30 a.m. and gets home around 5:30 or 6.
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My husband leaves for work at 5:15 and gets home between 5:45 and 7:00 most days. So more than 12 hours most weekdays.

On the other hand, he's gone so long because he works a 9/80 schedule, and he gets every other Friday off. It's really nice to have that weekday having him around every other week.

I also just started my son in a preschool, so he's gone for 3 hours every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. This makes my life much, much easier.

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My husband is gone from 6:30am to 9-11:30 pm Monday to Saturday.

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ZERO. except 3 days/month, 24 hours/day.

he works at home.
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During the week, I am home alone while DH travels. On the weekends when DH is home, I am still shouldering all the responsibility, and DH never really helps. So much for this Attachment Parenting. Its more like Attachment Mothering.

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I win. Not that I want to, of course, and he does work at home lots, , so we all can eat breakfast, lunch and supper together, but my dh's last day off was Jan 1 2007. He did do send a few emails and do a conference call from home on Jan 2.
I'm sorry, but I'm confused. Was this a contest? What do you win? The OP asked how much we're alone with our kids. I answered. I'm not upset about how much my dh works. He's doing so much because the boss wants to be home with his elderly wife who is in increasingly declining health. It's also the nature of the job of a tow truck operator to be available 24/7. I'm very proud of my dh, the work that he does, and the skill with which he does it. He's also a great hubby and fantastic father.

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All the time. Dh works two jobs and goes to see his son from a previous marriage twice a week. Not to mention all the errands and whatnot.
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11 hours most days. If the baby's crying all day its too long...other than that we're alright

Mama of two... DS born at 35w5d (11/06) and DD : born full term 38w3d (5/09) on what would have been my dad's 64th birthday. Always missing my dad who died of oral cancer 3/11/09.
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My Dh works 12 hour shift work (he switches between nights/days), so he leaves around 5:30 and comes home anywhere between 8:00 and 9:00. He drives an hour to and from work. When he works nights he comes in and goes to bed around 10:00am and wakes up around 4:30pm. He works alot of over-time, so he isnt home much. We really cherish the little bit of time we have with him.

Both of our families live 6 hours away. I am alone with the kiddos quite a bit.
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I'm with ds 24/7 for 6, 8, or 12 week stretches. This time it will be 12 weeks, but I am visiting my parents in VT right now, so it doesn't seem as long as it usually does. Dp works on the Trans-Ak Pipeline and he only gets 2 week breaks in between unless he is taking classes (unpaid). When he said he would be missing most of ds's childhood (ds is only 9.5 m), it didn't really sink in as hard as it does when we're all alone and it's so dark and cold. Thank god for friends!

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DH leaves for work around 7am, though we don't usually get up until 8. He usually comes home at 7pm, so that's 11-12 hours.

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My dh works Monday-Friday usually 8-4:30 but it takes him about 45 min to get to work so I said 9-10 hours. I don't mind being alone with the kids all day, I spent 8 years teaching preschool and nannying.

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my dh leaves at 7:20, comes home for lunch at 1:30, leaves at 2:30 and comes back at 8:30 or 9. so about 10-11hrs a day. fortunatelly he doesn´t work on weekends.

the same as other mother, if my son and i are feeling good, the day goes by fast. but i´ve been a bit sick...we have very slow days and ver little energy!
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DH leaves at around 9am and gets home around 8pm. He has an hour commute each way.

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I don't see anywhere a place to vote for "0". I do daycare and do not have ANY time alone with my son except for fridays which are days that I took off so that I could have a chance alone with my little guy. I would love to have ore time alone with him but we can't afford to live off of my husbands income alone.
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my husband works anywhere from 8hrs-16hrs a day so it depends on the day! emily

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Trying to get a feel for what is normal. I am a SAHM, my DH leaves for work around 8 a.m. on average, and comes home at 7 p.m. on average, so for me, that's 11 hours on most days.

Do you feel this is too many or too few hours? Discuss.
11 or more is normal for us. While I'd prefer my DH's company/help/presence any time, it is what it is! He works, and HARD, so that I can stay home with DD. Thank God!

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dh leaves around 7am most days (sometimes a tad later) and returns around 530ish most days and then goes into our spare room (sd's room when she is here) and unwinds and has his own time to relax and chill etc........for an hour or so.....

i don't get that time...lmao....
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I'm lucky. DH leaves for work about 4.30am and we go pick him up at 3pm. Sometimes he works later, but only till maybe 4.30pm.

It's definitely going to be a struggle for me if / when he goes to working normal hours.

It's complicated.
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I don't see anywhere a place to vote for "0". I do daycare and do not have ANY time alone with my son except for fridays which are days that I took off so that I could have a chance alone with my little guy. I would love to have ore time alone with him but we can't afford to live off of my husbands income alone.
Oh I am so sorry

I put 11 or more because it is just me and ds.
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