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Yes, he has no time for it 74 18.69%
Yes, it's just part of my job description 197 49.75%
Sometimes yes, sometimes no 95 23.99%
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Old 08-19-2007, 07:08 PM - Thread Starter
 
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After the responses I got to my almost-comical episode of dh running out of underwear due to my not noticing the full hamper, I must ask. Do you do dh's laundry? Why/why not?
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Old 08-19-2007, 07:12 PM
 
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I am in charge of laundry in our house. Have been since we moved in together when I was working and getting pregnant wasn't even a thought in my mind. But I took it over willingly, because laundry and dishes are the two household things I actually enjoy doing, plus I'd freak if DP washed something that was delicate in hot water.
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I usually do it. I'm home, and take care of most of the laundry. DH and I use the same hampers in our bedroom, so when it's full, I wash it...that means that dh's gets washed at the same time as mine.

DH doesn't usually put his jeans in the hamper, so they usually don't get done with the rest of the laundry, and he generally does them himself. It's never been an issue, one way or the other.

Household laundry...I probably do the bedding, towels and diapers about 80% of the time, and dd and ds1's clothes about 70% of the time. Right now, ds1 is in charge of bedding for himself, dd and ds2.

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Old 08-19-2007, 07:27 PM
 
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My husband actually does about 90% of the laundry in our house. It is pretty much his only household chore, aside from the garbage and the diapers. I hate laundry, but I do all the linens, and I'm not quite sure why.
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Its my dh's job to bring in $
Its my job to care the kids and the house.

He helps in raising the kids being thats a 24 hour job and he helps in anyway he can in the housework. being that also isn't a 9-5 job either
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Yes.

We don't do hampers. Everything goes straight into the washing machine and is washed together. Unless the freak item exists, can't think of one now, that would ruin the other laundry. It all goes in on cold/cold and all gets dried on regular.

Dirty dipes went in the pail of course.

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I do it because I'm home all day so it's easy for me to do, plus I prefer not to use the dryer which means hanging daytime loads regularly. He helps put away. I already begrudge the time he has to spend on the yard and pool--marathon weekend laundry sessions might send me over the edge.

One of my big issues w/ returning to work when DS is older is how we'll then divide the housework load. I foresee paying others or LOTS of negotiation.
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DF used to do all of the laundry. His, mine, household.

Now he works two jobs and I am at home all week, so I do it. It's just part of my job.

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Yeah, I do. It just all gets done together, there doesn't seem to be any point in seperating it out by person. And I do it, because I'm picky about how it's done, just like he does the dishes, because he's picky about how those are done. So I guess it's "my job", but it's because I chose it, not by default because I'm the wife or the SAHP.
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I do most of it, but dh will throw in a load if the laundry sorter is full. He also puts away all the clothes, a job I loath
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I never really thought of it as "his laundry", we just have "laundry", and I do most of it because the washer/dryer are at home, as am I most of the time. If it is still going once he gets home, and I am nursing or something, he'll fold it and put it away.

I really find this question strange (not an insult, really). I just can't even imagine doing my own laundry and not his.

I would have imagined the question being "Who does the laundry?" Just my POV.
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Yes, I do most of his clothes, but I don't wash his work uniforms because I don't want his nasty work clothes leeching anything onto mine or my girls' clothes. I do wash his clothes because I don't sort clothing. We all just throw dirty clothes in the washing machine, and I wash it when it's full. After drying, I sort the clean clothes into separate baskets for each person. His go in his bucket, mine go in my bucket, etc. If he chooses not to put his clothes away, he digs through his bucket to find what he needs.

I couldn't vote yes, he has no time for it, because he does have time to do it. He chooses not to.

I couldn't vote yes, it's part of my job description, because it's not. My job is mother, not maid.

So, I just couldn't vote because none of those 4 choices apply to me.

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I would have imagined the question being "Who does the laundry?" Just my POV.
I tend to agree and I don't really like the term "job description" (no offense meant to the OP). DP didn't "hire" me, so I don't feel like I have a job description in the home. DP and I both have things that we take care of ourselves. Laundry is one of the tasks I've taken on, because I like it & I don't want it to sit around until Saturday, like it would if I waited for DP.
I don't put anyone's laundry away, though (except sometimes DS2's). I wash and fold, then everyone takes their stack.
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I do all of the laundry together -- his, mine and household. He will switch a load from the washer to the dryer or occasionally fold/hang dry clothes. But I get picky about how things are folded and hung so I usually just do it myself.

I can't imagine us doing our own laundry separately. I mean, that would use twice the water and electricity. I actually cringe at the thought of such waste.

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I do all the laundry. We tried doing it on a whoever-gets-to-it-first basis in the beginning of our marriage when we both worked outside the home, but after several "incidents" DH was removed from laundry duties. Even if he only has to wash his clothes, there's still the possibility that he'll have to put my stuff from the washer to the dryer, and he has no concept of what can and cannot go in the dryer (on high heat no less!) :

DH has his "jobs", too, mainly dog and cat poop- or puke-related stuff, walking dogs, mowing lawn and trimming stuff up (any excuse to use tools). So anyway I don't mind being in charge of laundry.
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I never really thought of it as "his laundry", we just have "laundry", and I do most of it because the washer/dryer are at home, as am I most of the time. If it is still going once he gets home, and I am nursing or something, he'll fold it and put it away.

I really find this question strange (not an insult, really). I just can't even imagine doing my own laundry and not his.

I would have imagined the question being "Who does the laundry?" Just my POV.
I agree. I do most of the laundry since I'm home more often and I like to use the clothes lines as much as I can. DH will do it if I don't get to it or if he needs something - I'll wash everything that was in the hampers, on the floor, ect., and then he'll realize that all his pants for work are dirty but never got put in the hamper. This usually happens just as I'm heading to bed , so at that point, it's his job.
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We disagree about the right way to do laundry so he washes his own clothes. I do all the rest. I HATE when he helps with the towels, etc. because he doesn't believe in folding--he just stuffs it all in the linen closet and kitchen drawers: .

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I always do the laundry but my dh helps fold sometimes when there is a pile sitting on the couch.
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I really didn't agree with the options in this poll--none of them seemed to fit. I agree with others that "Who does the laundry" would have been better. Anyway, in our house I tend to do most of the laundry and DH tends (okay, always) does the dishes. Sometimes I get really behind in the laundry and DH definately will help me with it and every great once in a while I might do a dish or two (I absolutely hate dishes).

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Mostly, DH does the laundry around here. He's much better at it than me.... Not sure why, he just is.

I do all the folding though. I *hate* how he folds just about everything, so he does the laundry, brings it up and puts it on the couch and I look at it for a week before I fold it.

DH does most of the dishes too.

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...but there are times when I ask DH to take care of his own laundry. He is always in charge of folding and putting away his own.

There are 5 people in my house, three of them who are not old enough to help out. I work full time hours (three 12 hour shifts) so if he doesn't help, then all my time off is spent doing house chores.
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I mostly do the laundry, just because I'm a lot more picky about how it gets done. But if there's something in particular he wants done sooner rather than later, like his biking clothes, he'll do those.

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I can't imagine us doing our own laundry separately. I mean, that would use twice the water and electricity. I actually cringe at the thought of such waste.
DH and ds1's laundry is lumped together, and mine and ds2's laundry is lumped together, since ds2 has sensitive skin, so we use the dye/fragrance-free stuff for him. We never do small loads - we always wait until there's a full load - never occurred to me that people might do only part of a load just to separate out the laundries.
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I really find this question strange (not an insult, really). I just can't even imagine doing my own laundry and not his.

I would have imagined the question being "Who does the laundry?" Just my POV.
Yeah, it was strange to me that when I mentioned in my other post that dh ran out of underwear because I neglected to do the laundry in time, a few people's response was "why are you doing dh's laundry!?" So I decided to do this poll! I was starting to wonder if I was in the minority being mostly responsible for all the laundry in the house.
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We both do each other's laundry, and the kid's laundry, and the household stuff. I try to get to it every day as I'm the one who is home. But I don't always get to it. DH will throw a load in before he's off to work, or on the weekends he'll do what he can.
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I didn't vote. I do the laundry because I enjoy it. My husband has time for it but he hates to do it and I wouldn't call it part of my job description.

However, I do NOT pick clothes up off the floor, nor will I search through dirty clothes pockets to see if anything is in there. I did "punish" him for a couple weeks by not doing his laundry because he wanted a specific shirt so I asked him to put a load in the washer and he went through the basket and picked out only his clothes. That made me kind of angry.
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I do the majority of the laundry here. If I need some help from DH, I don't split up his clothes from mine and ask him to wash his own, I just say, "Could you throw a load in?" Just like when he makes dinner, he doesn't have me make my own. :
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Yes, it's just part of my job discription. And he doesn't really have the time for it either.

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There should have been a way to vote no my partner does my laundry.
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I do all of the laundry EXCEPT for dh's work clothes. I voted "sometimes" for that reason.

I have a neat system worked out where I do a load of diapers/dishtowels/underwear/socks every other day (I put the diapers through a cold rinse first), light colored clothes every fourth day, dark colored clothes every fourth day. This keeps the amount of work down for me and ensures we always have something to wear. Dh washes his work shirts and pants on his own schedule. If, for some reason, I slacked off and stopped doing laundry altogether, dh would notice and do it himself before he ran out of underwear.

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