wife to wonderful mama of three-DS1 born December 30, 2005 and DS2 born September 27, 2008 and one lovely little girl born September 7, 2011
I also babysit here and there.
Wife, mom to 6 great kids!...avid crafter, music lover, reader, gardener!
Unschooling, writer mom of Matt, 22; Lydia, 21; Alex, 18; Liam, 16; Jack, 9; Kiara, 7; Seamus, 5; Anais, 1 and ??? May 2015. About to hit the road in an RV full time. Currently live off grid in Alaska.
Mother to Sandrel(oct 2003) and Liesl(mar 2006) and someone new coming February 2013
What makes it possible for me to stay at home is that we bought a house 15 years ago when prices were low and then didn't upsize even though we could have. I also work about 20 hours/month on weekends and evenings. That pays for a lot of extras.
I'm fortunate in that dh has a very well playing job. He's a VP. But it comes with a price of him not being home because of trips or long work hours.
Yes, he makes decent money that allows me to stay home. But if I was employed outside of my home, there would be other expenses that also would come up which we dont have right now-daycare, gas to get there, more income taxes, work clothing all kinds of things.
My husband is currently currently a stocker at Walmart, but he'll be quitting end of this month and we'll be living off of student loans so he can do his internships. At that point he'll be a paramedic so money won't be a huge issue-though honestly we've been lucky that in our area the col isnt' too high so we've made due with some budgeting. Eventually hubby is going to be a surgeon so we'll have money for me to stay at home, but that's a way off and our first dd is on her way in December.
DS 7 ~ DS 3
When I chose to SAH, I knew eventually I would need to bring some money in, so I chose to watch kids in my home. I babysit 3 days a week for a good friend. Her two boys are like my own, and my kids love them. It's well worth it.
Soon to be unemployed, unfortunately, due to the state of the economy.
I started a home-based business venture recently, and I hope it helps.
When I read about husbands that get home at 6:00 or 7:00 I think how lucky that is for the family, but can't really imagine it because we have never had that. On the weekends my husband will help out if I ask him specifically, but he doesn't typically ever help with anything on his own.
I am now considering going back to work part time while the kids are in school subbing with the school district, but I am not sure I can handle one more thing on my plate. We could use the extra money to save for college, as my son just started high school. My husband can't and won't change anything with his schedule, so it would be up to me to figure out how I am going to take care of everthing I do now and work as well.
I've always SAH. It was a priority for both of us. We just made it happen. We were teen parents, and we both wanted to "do it right" so we just buckled down and made it happen.
He has an internal drive to work. He has also done weekend jobs as a carpenter. On his holiday's he works odd jobs. When he has nothing to do with his hands he kinda goes batty.
There is construction going on in our area. He decided to go and pick out large stones to line our driveway. Lifting and moving those stones almost knocked him off his feet. But it gave him about 2-3 days work and that made him happy.
But anyway, my DH is an accountant with the government. His salary is pretty good but I am more thankful for other benefits of working for the federal government, including eight hour days. I'm sure he would be working much longer days if he was still in the private sector.
Mommy to an exuberant 3 yo and a new one!
I think for a lot of women it's not about whether their husbands had "lucrative" jobs, at least not from what I've read on these boards.
DH works construction. But it's a commitment we made (for me to SAH). As long as DH doesn't get hurt or sick and cannot physically work I will be a SAHM, even if it takes sacrifice. Honestly though, if you're clever/careful one income can be better than two (depending on the situation). I'll probably save our family more by being a SAHM than I could earn our family outside the home.
Up until May he was in the military as an E-5 doing the same thing and we did OK on just his paycheck since we got "free" housing, insurance, etc. Plus he deployed often and you get lots of extra pays and such plus tax free pay when they are over seas.
Now he's a civilian doing the same job and making about $40K more a year but we're in a much higher COL area and we have to pay for housing and insurance...we're still doing better than we were but it's not as much of a jump as one would expect with that type of pay raise.
I used to do intelligence as well so if we ever wanted to switch I could go work and he could be a SAHD. And yeah, sometimes it's tempting to go back to work and just roll in the dough but I'll wait until dd is a bit older.
It's less a question of how much he makes, but more a question of how much I can make at the moment, and almost all the money being eaten up by child care and other costs.
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