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Im curious which types of jobs pay well enough for only one of you to have to work.

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No husband here - I'm a single part-time (less than ten hours a week) working mostly SAHM.
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I'm fortunate in that dh has a very well playing job. He's a VP. But it comes with a price of him not being home because of trips or long work hours.
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Soccer coach. And he only has to work ~2 hours/day.
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Freelance entertainment and corporate rigging. You know those lights and and motors that are up high in the ceiling at concerts? He climbs up there and hangs those. The 'on' season is great the 'off' season is a nightmare.

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when i was with my ex he had a job at target stocking. and i had to stay home because if i got a job all my money would go right back out to childcare costs.

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My dh is s federal law enforcment officer with the Fish and Wildlife Service. His pay is okay, his benefits are good, but what has really made it possible is that he is required to live on the wildlife refuge he works at and therefore we get a big house for low rent in great areas with good school districts. They do all our house repairs too. So that benefit is what has really made it possible.

 
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DH is a university librarian. It's not a very high-paying job by any means. In fact, he makes about 50% less than he made when DD was first born and I started staying home with her. (He used to be an IT specialist in the same library system.)

What makes it possible for me to stay at home is that we bought a house 15 years ago when prices were low and then didn't upsize even though we could have. I also work about 20 hours/month on weekends and evenings. That pays for a lot of extras.
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I'm fortunate in that dh has a very well playing job. He's a VP. But it comes with a price of him not being home because of trips or long work hours.
My DH is also a partner/VP whatever you want to call it in a Physical Therapy clinic. But yes, he has to be at his job more and for holidays like Christmas etc, his employees take time off so he works more hours during the December months or early July. The trade off- he has several weeks vacation and all the partners benefits are included in their salary, ownership etc. Most of the time, if he needs time off, he can take it. But if they are short another PT at a location, he or another partner may have to fill in there. If they open, close, or move a clinic- they are there for it on the off days. And yes there is travel, weekends at courses for continueing ed or even teaching.

Yes, he makes decent money that allows me to stay home. But if I was employed outside of my home, there would be other expenses that also would come up which we dont have right now-daycare, gas to get there, more income taxes, work clothing all kinds of things.

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I think for a lot of women it's not about whether their husbands had "lucrative" jobs, at least not from what I've read on these boards.

My husband is currently currently a stocker at Walmart, but he'll be quitting end of this month and we'll be living off of student loans so he can do his internships. At that point he'll be a paramedic so money won't be a huge issue-though honestly we've been lucky that in our area the col isnt' too high so we've made due with some budgeting. Eventually hubby is going to be a surgeon so we'll have money for me to stay at home, but that's a way off and our first dd is on her way in December.
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I think for a lot of women it's not about whether their husbands had "lucrative" jobs, at least not from what I've read on these boards.
You are right. Although dh's pay is high, the living expenses in our city are high but we live very simply. I have friends whose combined salaries is greater than dh but they are always struggling. It is all about living simply and not buy into the mentally of "keeping up with the Joneses".
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I actually made a smidge more than my husband (when you take into account my great holidays - I was a teacher, and in Canada at least we are paid fairly decently), so for us it was about downsizing our house, paying cash for our van, driving an old paid for car, and making different choices so I could stay home.

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Dp is an electrician. But if we lived anywhere near his job location, we would probably not be able to afford it. Well, owning a house anyway. So we live about 35 miles from his work site. Also, we are VERY frugal. The guys he works with can't believe that we can make it on his income, but they also like to spend $$$. They make the same amount of $$$ but their wives work too.

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DH works in IT at the University. But, that wasn't the case until a year ago. Before that, he worked at the warehouse for the University bookstore as a temp employee. He took a huge chance taking that job over the guaranteed good income through a local grocer working night crew. But, for us (we have lived on VERY little in the past) it was worth the risk. We now have excellent benefits and his hours really work well for us.

When I chose to SAH, I knew eventually I would need to bring some money in, so I chose to watch kids in my home. I babysit 3 days a week for a good friend. Her two boys are like my own, and my kids love them. It's well worth it.

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Dh is the choir director at a public HS, HS football coach, and organist/director of music ministries at our church.
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DH is a corporate accountant, but it helps that we live in a low COL area and have a network of family nearby. If we moved to Chicago, I'm not sure we could make it on one income.
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Carpenter building custom homes.
Soon to be unemployed, unfortunately, due to the state of the economy.
I started a home-based business venture recently, and I hope it helps.

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My husband is director of consulting services at a major computer firm in the Bay Area. His work pays well, but the cost of living in the Bay Area is very high so we output a lot of money each month as well. He works very long hours and is not home till after 9:00 each night (he leaves about 7:30 each morning) and he does a lot of work after he gets home on his laptop. Sometimes he goes in on Sundays to catch up as well. He does love his job, though--so that part is a positive. Sometimes it leaves me holding too much responsibility at home, as I do virtually all the housework and childcare from morning till night. I even do typical "husband" jobs like taking out the garbage and yard care. We have one child with special needs and she requires a lot of patience and care with her homework after school, and sometimes I wish I had more support. We don't have any family in the area, so I really don't get a break, either.

When I read about husbands that get home at 6:00 or 7:00 I think how lucky that is for the family, but can't really imagine it because we have never had that. On the weekends my husband will help out if I ask him specifically, but he doesn't typically ever help with anything on his own.

I am now considering going back to work part time while the kids are in school subbing with the school district, but I am not sure I can handle one more thing on my plate. We could use the extra money to save for college, as my son just started high school. My husband can't and won't change anything with his schedule, so it would be up to me to figure out how I am going to take care of everthing I do now and work as well.
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My husband is a chef. We make well under $50,000 a year.

I've always SAH. It was a priority for both of us. We just made it happen. We were teen parents, and we both wanted to "do it right" so we just buckled down and made it happen.
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He is a millwright. He has worked with the same company since he was a teenager. He will be starting his electrician apprentiship within the next year.

He has an internal drive to work. He has also done weekend jobs as a carpenter. On his holiday's he works odd jobs. When he has nothing to do with his hands he kinda goes batty.

There is construction going on in our area. He decided to go and pick out large stones to line our driveway. Lifting and moving those stones almost knocked him off his feet. But it gave him about 2-3 days work and that made him happy.
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My hubby is a support analyst for a software company.
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I think being able to stay at home depends on several factors including the dedication to make it happen, the area you live, how frugal you can be, how many kids you have, and what life has brought you before, etc. etc.

But anyway, my DH is an accountant with the government. His salary is pretty good but I am more thankful for other benefits of working for the federal government, including eight hour days. I'm sure he would be working much longer days if he was still in the private sector.

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I think for a lot of women it's not about whether their husbands had "lucrative" jobs, at least not from what I've read on these boards.
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DH works construction. But it's a commitment we made (for me to SAH). As long as DH doesn't get hurt or sick and cannot physically work I will be a SAHM, even if it takes sacrifice. Honestly though, if you're clever/careful one income can be better than two (depending on the situation). I'll probably save our family more by being a SAHM than I could earn our family outside the home.
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Dh works as a civilian doing military intelligence.

Up until May he was in the military as an E-5 doing the same thing and we did OK on just his paycheck since we got "free" housing, insurance, etc. Plus he deployed often and you get lots of extra pays and such plus tax free pay when they are over seas.

Now he's a civilian doing the same job and making about $40K more a year but we're in a much higher COL area and we have to pay for housing and insurance...we're still doing better than we were but it's not as much of a jump as one would expect with that type of pay raise.

I used to do intelligence as well so if we ever wanted to switch I could go work and he could be a SAHD. And yeah, sometimes it's tempting to go back to work and just roll in the dough but I'll wait until dd is a bit older.

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It's less a question of how much he makes, but more a question of how much I can make at the moment, and almost all the money being eaten up by child care and other costs.

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