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#1 of 3 Old 11-03-2008, 06:08 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I am SAHM my DD is now almost 11mos. I have been struggling to get motivated to do just the slightest task. The season are changing. Here on the west coast (bay area) it rain and rains . Now I just feel trapped in my house. I want to do so many thing (sewing, knitting, crochet, reading, teach myself a new skill...) I feel like I could do more, but I am not motivated to do such. I want to do more with my daughter. However, I rely on public transportation, I have a car but driving in this city is crazy. I get very little support. I try to remain positive by trying to remember self-care and self-love. I know I am offering my daughter the love and the attention she deserves at this age. I value our time and connection. I know staying home is a sacrifice financially, but its worth it just to be here and nurture my daughter during this very young age. I love my daughter, but I have been seriously considering going back to work part-time. I think I am going stir crazy or something. Any suggestions?
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Nope but your story could be mine....just add an almost 4 yo dd, an almost 2yo dd and change the baby's age to 3 months....I have also been tempted to go back to work even part time but I cant bear the thought of leaving them at daycare or dayhome just so I can feel better. I dont have family to leave them with and I am exclusively bf my ds. I feel like I am going nuts right now and am not sure what to do either. I know my mood has been crappy and the kids know it....it is not so much them but I want to get more done around the house. I am in a cooking frenzy but cant cook because of ds ( I cant put him in a sling because of my back). I know it made me feel better when I was able to leave my dd1 and dd2 with a friend while I browsed at the library for an hour. Granted I had baby with me but he was sleeping. I felt more refreshed and ready to tackle things. Is there any way you can get a break for even an hour to do something YOU want to do? I dont know if you are like me but I am so used to putting the kids first that I forget about thinking or doing anything nice for myself to the point where I have bought them clothes they dont need while I still wear the ripped skirt I have had for 5 years.....
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Oh it is so easy to feel this way! I hear you. To combat the stir-crazies, two big things help me: 1. getting some structure to our week and 2. finding other people in my situation. I got so good at filling up our schedule during the week I actually had to cut back on activities.

- Look for storytimes at your local libraries (ours has programs for as young as one month olds), bookstores have storytimes too.
- Attend meetings for any and all mothers groups you can find. (MOPS, Mothers and More, Meetup, LLL etc) Most groups allow you to attend a couple events before you have to become a member, that way you can check out which ones you like.
- Many times playgroups spin off from these. Check out any local places that have a free first-time visit - Gymboree, Kindermusic, etc.

For me it was a matter of trying to get the most out of this time I have home with DD. I knew there was stuff out there, but the more I looked the more I found. Now we have a specific schedule that happens every week - playgroup on Mondays etc. We're busy and we love it!

As for time for you to get your stuff done, do you have a DP who is available on a regular basis? My DH works a fairly regular schedule so in the past we agreed on certain specific times during the week as my time. That way I'd know ahead that I had, say every Friday evening to myself and that was DH's time with the little one. So I'd look forward to doing me-stuff - craft stuff, whatever, in that time. Right now we have a new little one so I'm not getting ANY me time, but hopefully soon we'll be able to get back into that.
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