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I saw my ExH this morning when I went to collect the children from their w/e visit.
I calmly asked to speak to him in private for a few moments and he refused, infront of his wife. She told me that she would be present for all conversations and he agreed to this. I told them both that I wanted to discuss a parental concern with him and that it was appropriate for the parents to do this without the other spouse being present. She was furious.
She shouted at me that SHE was his STEPMOTHER and has legal responsibilities for him!!!! I told her No. She Did Not. She told me that as the one handles 'the house', she is as much a part of ALL decisions as he. I agreed with her - for her own house and family - but my Ex and I are the parents of DS. No matter who's house he is in!!!
It turned out that he had asked her to speak to DS's teacher. Because he didnt have time.:
This is so much more complicated than it seemed at first. I really dont know what to do.
Apparently, she told me (in front of him!) that he finds it hard to talk to in private as their is often confusion?? Well - how about actually ADDRESSING that as a grown man rather than letting your wife deal with it? He said he relies heavily on her for a lot of things, but I am sorry - you cannot give your parental responsibilty to someone else because you dont have time for it??
Am very mad. and sad. She was so angry it was strange. Am more confused than ever now.
He is going to come over this week - just him and me - to begin to talk. Maybe it will be a good thing....
sorry so long.
Crazy mom of 9. A wife to one.
-Life is a long lesson in humility.-
James M. Barrie
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