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Mother to Sandrel(oct 2003) and Liesl(mar 2006) and someone new coming February 2013
I would not write the letter. Instead, I would refuse to discuss it with your stepmom any longer. Tell her that if your father would like to discuss visitation with you privately, that is fine, but you will not discuss it with her. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat until she gets the picture. This is really a conversation that needs to be between your father and you.
My dad seems to understand that I'm not going to stay over any time soon. He has simply asked me and I've said no. And that's been that. But now he seems to be taking her 'side', even though she's telling me things he doesn't know/believe in. Our recent conversation went something like this:
Dad: You really should start driving my car to get more hours.
Me: And when am I going to do that? When you bring RG (six year old sister) out I have to sit in the back with her because she insists. And you're not coming out anymore on Saturdays...
Dad: Who said that?
Me: Your wife can't be a single mother. So I don't get to see you. She needs someone to hold the baby.
Dad: We (meaning the two of them) talked about this. That's not what she meant. She just wants you to stay over.
Me: I don't want to stay at your house. You don't get how busy I am... how much homework I have. And I have band and all this stuff. And I can't miss it. It's a grade.
Dad: We can work it out. And if it doesn't work we can go back to what we're doing now. (Subject was changed by him then to my birthday)