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#61 of 64 Old 02-24-2009, 03:42 PM
 
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I think it might be against the UA for me to confirm that I was responding to a post. So let's just say that I was referring specific instances somewhere, not specificying whether it was a real-life parenting group or messageboard, just somewhere, in fact one of the instances was said in that group yesterday (AFTER my post even)...
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Until I master the art of divination, I will never know what I'm really getting into. It's the nature of life.

Sorry that comment has been said to you.
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I agree that it is so unrealistic to "know what you're getting into". I mean no one can tell the future. No one can expect the unexpected. And really what parent knows what is really going to become of their child blended family or not. I have read so many replies on this topic and I'm saddened that other people are just so narrow minded when it come s to these issues. We have all ended up in situations as step parents that we could never have imagined happening.

I was 20 and single when i met DF, I didn't know how things were going to end up, and i can tell you that i never expected to find the person i wanted to spend my life with with him and the 2 kids. but it happened, and honestly i still dont know what i have gotten into!

I never expected that i would be living full time with two kids. I never expected that i would be the primary parent, the one who was home t he one who made dinner the one that puts them to bed. I never expected for bio mom to crawl out of the woodwork and wreak havoc on our newly established family. I never expected that DSD would want me to be her mom instead. I never expected that other people could change my life for the good or bad so much.

how could we expect these things, its life and its unexpected and were just along for the ride, making the best choices that we can. i hate it when people say that we knew what we were getting into, because we cant know it all.

Katie, Enjoying my time with my love Josh:, kiddos Kendel '01 and Xander '03 and our furry beast Sherman '08:
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With me, I DID know what I was getting into, but then things did total 180!!! =(

What I am "into" now is NOT what it was at first and its honestly upsetting. For a very long time all of the adults got along and spent time together, then DH's ex remarried and thats when things fell apart. Her husband does not like us and put an end to spending any time as a big family, including holiday dinners that had been going on for YEARS. It has been very sad for me and terrible for the kids. Gosh, I got upset just writing that. =( =(
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