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Old 04-21-2009, 01:07 AM
 
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Here dept. of child support requires us to give copies of insurance cards to other parent so both/either parents can take child. Can't you take her without card? Sometimes I forget the card. Are you the resposible party?
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Old 04-21-2009, 01:13 AM
 
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1st...most lice shampoos don't work very well. It's entirely possible that you didn't fully get rid of it. I've seen the bugs swim in the shampoo and not die. They've become immune to the stuff.

2nd...don't mess with the schedule. Just have her walk straight into the bathroom when she comes in the door, without sitting down or touching anything. Have DH treat her for lice while you put every thing that came in the door with her into the washer (even the clothes that are supposed to be allready clean will need to be rewashed and dried). Then go straight out to your car and treat her carseat (this is a common reinfection cause). Do this for every visit until the lice are no longer a problem.

3rd...request her school and medical records. If that doesn't work you can send a certified letter to her requesting insurance information. IF that doesn't work, then ask the attorney to get the info for you.
I agree with all of this. Lice can be REALLY hard to get rid of. It is likely that the shampoo didn't kill them and that the house still has them.
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DH has asked for the cards again and ex said she'd get copies made.... but she still hasn't, of course. We do know who her doctor is. I don't know if they do weekend appointments or not, but it's quite a hike from our house.

I'm surprised about the lice shampoo not working for some. We had to deal with it twice when I was a kid and my used the stuff once and we were good to go. We never had really bad infestation though, nothing at all like I saw on DSD's head.

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As far as I know, you don't have to go to the doctor for lice treatments, but as I've said before, I think it's pretty important that somebody figure out your step-daughter's tummy/bowel issues, and it sounds like her mom may be more concerned about not getting blamed than about solving the problem.(?) All kinds of things can cause frequent diarrhea, but some of them are serious and, if left untreated, can lead to malnutrition and lingering problems.

You don't have to take her to the same doc her mom does (1-1/2 hours away, right?). Here, all of our hospitals have associated walk-in clinics (to keep people with non-emergency symptoms from clogging up the ERs). "MedCheck" is a common one. (I don't know whether that term is nation-wide or local.)
- Places like that are open on weekends.
- They take insurance, if you get her card. If not, some of them will bill you, in which case you put Mom's name and address as the responsible party and they'll send the bill to her. Then she can either get the bill to her insurance company, or blow it off the way she's blown off getting you guys a copy of the insurance card, and the clinic will demand payment from her (which might motivate her to finally get you guys a copy of that card!)
- If your walk-in clinic doesn't bill, their fees are typically less than what private doctors charge, if you don't have insurance - and your husband would still be eligible for reimbursement of that fee by his ex's insurance company.

If Mom will simply tell you guys the name of her insurance company, then your husband is entitled to contact them himself, for a copy of his daughter's card.

My husband's ex lied about providing insurance for my step-son, because claiming that expense increased the amount of child support my husband paid. What tipped him off was her perpetual procrastination about providing a copy of his insurance card and her adamant stance (in spite of our laws) that my husband, as the "non-custodial" parent, wasn't "authorized" to seek any medical care for their son. If that's what's going on in your case, and if mom is letting your step-daughter's stomach issues go untreated because she can't afford medical care, there needs to be some intervention. Maybe Mom (or you guys) would qualify for subsidized healthcare for kids, if that's needed. Maybe you need to get the court involved. But the questions about your step-daughter's health and coverage shouldn't go unanswered indefinitely.

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DH has asked for the cards again and ex said she'd get copies made.... but she still hasn't, of course. We do know who her doctor is. I don't know if they do weekend appointments or not, but it's quite a hike from our house.

I'm surprised about the lice shampoo not working for some. We had to deal with it twice when I was a kid and my used the stuff once and we were good to go. We never had really bad infestation though, nothing at all like I saw on DSD's head.
I saw a news report a few years ago about how the lice medications are no longer working because lice had developed a resistance to it. I don't remember the details, but they also showed lice swimming in the shampoo and living.
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go to the doctor to get the lice documented. that way it is not your word against hers, you will have a doctor's word too.

can you call the school to find out the insurance info? explain to them you need to take her to the doc and see if they have it. she has to give them that info when she signs them up. daycare, preschool, etc, all has to have that info. the doc's office should have it to.

also i would get the records from the school about how time she has missed and when, and what reason was written down if any.

always document. if in the future there is some issue, you will have everything you need to show you did the right thing. maybe DSD will come to live with you. it is what happened with us. we keot all records of everything we could get our hands on. when DSDs mom finally got caught up in CPS for her stupidity, they gave us the kids. and we got to keep them. and now they are always healthy, clean, fed, and adequately supervised.

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