I dont understand where you get hung up.
I think I have been through this many times already and am repeating myself.
From the stuff I know about the situation I dont see what options he really had left when he chose to stop fighting. He lost everything to this. He did not have and could not find the money to take her back to court. We are not talking peanuts here. And even if he did have the money to continue he knew she would ignore court orders. This is the key issue. You keep assuming that surely she must be reasonable, or surely there must be a way he could have gone back to court. But then you assume that either I or BF is not telling the truth. I cant dictate that you believe his version or mine. But if you at least play along and assume that we are telling the truth, then that didnt leave him all the options you keep talking about. And his decision makes sense. At least to me who knows his motivations and concerns.
Answers to this thread that are based on the assumption that either my BF or I am not telling the truth will be pretty useless to me and him because they wont apply to the actual situation. Which is why I dont see the point in posting if you dont believe the basic story that is the reason for my request in the first place.
Jujyfruit. She was stable when he left and he does not worry about the kids growing up with her. Prior to that there had been times (years) when she was not stable. As long as she is medicated her illness is in check.
Single mom to ds(8), dd(6) and ds(5)