We're both pretty excited, but I have no idea how to go about telling the boys or my ex. The boys are coming on Sunday and I would like to tell them then. But do I tell my ex first? Or let him get the news when the boys get home. I don't want the boys to feel like they are being replaced, so I dont' really know how tell them or what to say.
It would be so wonderful to hear how other moms told their children and ex, as I'm a ball of nerves right now about the whole thing!
As far as how to tell the kids and working through their reactions, there are a couple of recent threads talking about kids' reactions to this type of news: one is about "factionalization," and another about Protolawyer telling her DSD about her pregnancy. You might check those out as well.
Good luck to you and congratulations!
I just find it wonderful and fascinating how many mamas here are getting pregnant! Congrats!!!
Oh, and can I have some of that water you are drinking?
Raising Alice in Wonderland (DSD, 17), and in love with a Superman
Annie wife v2.0 to DH and joyfully parenting DSS 20 , DSD 17 , DSD 16 , DSS 14, heart hero DD 4 and DS due 6/2015 . 8/2010
Good luck. You'll feel better once you get it over with.
Mama to Maia (12/04), Nora (9/09), Sam (8/12) and Step-mama to Aidan (3/02) and Luci (10/04).
I just started browsing through these forums, but I have to say, I'd like some water too. lol
I think my husband told his ex over the phone the night before we told his daughter. Good Luck with everything!
Still, i'm concerned how everything is going to play out once baby is here in a few months. My kids are 9 and 11 and my husband's two children live with us. I don't want my kids to feel 'replaced'.
I do feel kind of bad for him because he got a V a few years back and can't have more kids and his GF can't have kids anyway due to health reasons. Not that he wants more kids but back when he and I were still friend he had told me that he didn't want me having anymore kids because it wasn't fair that I could and he couldn't. Although he doesn't want more and I do. So I don't feel too bad about it.
Unassisted birthing, atheist, poly, bi WOHM to 4 wonderful, smart homeschooling kids Wes (14) Seth (7) Pandora Moonlilly (2) and Nevermore Stargazer (11/2012) Married to awesome SAH DH.
I don't know what to do about custody when the baby gets here. dp and his business partner want to open a second location somewhere else in the state, which means we leave as soon as the baby is born. We will still have to come back weekly, but the thought of moving away from my children moves me to tears. I don't have custody, and even though I told my ex at this point I could go back for custody, I'm not sure it's a good idea to move them out of their schools, and the town they've lived in for their little lives.
I know it will all work out for the better, if we dont' move right way after the baby, I will try and get the kids more since I will be home and not working. I feel like I sympathize a bit with fathers who leave and dont' get custody. I feel so helpless sometimes when I'm faced wtih the thought of having a new child and moving away from my 2 boys.