Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the honesty.
I think I'd have to take it slow asking him to open up more. I'll differently go look at the court doc. soon when I am able. That's something I didn't know I could do, thank you. I feel justified in being curious because I do just want to know if it's a red flag or not, especially since we're getting serious and might be dating for a while. I do feel like he should have told me/ opened up more by now, especially since he'd rather not talk about it.
I am more inclined to think she did make a few things up to get sole custody. It did bother me for a bit wondering why he could never just talk about it, seeing as it was a while ago, but I'm 50/50 as to whether I shouldn't of sought it out. No judgment taken anybody.
I agree that I feel like it none of business. Even I think of as a red flag on me, which is why I don't want to admit a moment of drunkness. But I also feel I should know because I'm thinking about my future children. Then my head says, well maybe it's not an issue, cuz he is thinking about his future children too. Theia I'm sorry you had to go thru that
....I diffidently worry about what if....My gut tells me (so I guess I should listen...) thou that it just really hurts him to not see his only son, so much so, that I have started to really avoid asking, and just be happy not knowing, cuz then he's just so serious/quiet/cold for the day. I was just surprised and worried about seeing that on the court case online. Thanks again for the input everybody. I just needed to talk about it.
(I have never heard 'golden uterus' b4 LOL)