I can understand that co-parenting counseling could be beneficial, as a couple recently separated or divorced, trying to figure out how to parent while not being together, but shouldn't this have happened a while ago?
Let's say she's just coming around. And I mean "just" because the day before she sent the letter, my DP got other nasty emails from her and a letter from her attorney.
I think maybe for a moment or two this woman focuses on her daughter and what's best for her, but those are fleeting moments. She does not acknowledge my (or my son's) existence. The couple of times when she did, it was to insult us. Just last night, as she picked up DSD from our place, DSD forgot her lunchbox, so I ran outside, as they were getting in the car, to give it to her. The mom looked away and pretended I wasn't there. She has never talked to me ever. Not even to say "hello" back.
I get so upset at the thought of her and my DP talking in a therapy setting. I feel like she really knows how to push his buttons and what to say to make him feel guilty and get what she wants. I honestly think she's trying to find a way to stay connected to him, since her attorney letters are proving to be useless. This woman's actions have caused me severe depression since I moved in with DP three years ago. I keep hoping things will get better, but every time I think she's coming around we find out it was some sort of scheme. My DP and I have made so much progress I could not handle something like that. I actually would like to have conversations at home that don't revolve around his ex. It seems that's all we talk about in front of my son, when DSD is not with us. Some distance from her and a civilized, business-like relationship would be beautiful, but she's not ready to accept our family. The more I think about it, the more I realize she's the one who needs to do therapy and she needs to stop telling DSD things like that her dad is not really my son's dad and all her other damaging comments. With DP, she's either a horrible person or she jokes around as if flirting. It's just too much.
I appreciate all the advice. It really helps me sort things out.